How does an adult woman in her thirties get to a point where she behaves like this?
When she arrived at our house and DH brought her bags up to her room, rather than saying thankyou, she sarcastically said, "You can't put anything down in this house can you?" When he went to top up her glass at lunch she said, "Its ok I'll let you know if I'm thirsty". When he held the door for her going into a shop she wanted to go in, she said, "Are you going to just stand there like a muppet?" The most embarrassing moment though, was on the same walk when DH had lifted the DC over a gate and helped me over. When he offered her his hand, she said, "I know you think I'm a heffer, but you don't have to make it do f-ing obvious!"
The context to all this is that she came for Easter lunch with no gifts, flowers or wine. She let her 6 year old wander with chocolate hands and face and wipe it all over the sofas. She was using the c and f words as a matter of course during the whole visit.
Finally, when DH offered to take her bags to the car, she said, "My arms won't f-ing fall off you know,"
I will not be asking her here again, but AIBU to wonder how some women can get to the point where they can't even accept basic manners from men and have to make a spectacle of themselves in the process?