To refuse freecyclers because they don't say please?

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That really.
I've put a few offers on there. Nothing hugely exciting. I said on the ads that I'll pick a name tomorrow.
Husband thinks I'm being OTT by automatically deleting the replies that just say "I'll have this" or "put me in the hat" etc., in other words, no please or thank you.
My personal favourite so far, who husband agrees will be deleted is "I will collect this 2day. Give me ur addy. I 2 busey 2 wait. I will collect them al. Carl".
I'm not being unreasonable to expect a few manners when I'm going out of my way to pass on some stuff I could easily sell, am I?
I feel sad that my first AIBU is so boring!

I am versatile in the underwear department

I think some of the curt/impolite responses on FB are because it's usually first come first served, and people want to get in quick. On Freecycle however, it seems to be an army of chancers. I usually either leave the thing out in an open but not-visible-walking-by part of my building and specify that it is there for collection, or specify collection times in my ad. Usually works.

Like others, I have both given and gotten relatively high-value things from FB and Freecycle - two lovely new leather armchairs from a charity that was downsizing (I made a donation when I found out), boxed party decorations, an unused telly. I will very likely put my car on Freecycle when we finally upgrade, because it is worth close to nothing financially and if I can find someone who genuinely needs a car I'd be happy to see it go to them. (And I saw someone else do this on Freecycle too.)

IME the polite posters are way more likely to actually turn up.

If they don't I then re-list very grumpily saying will only give to someone who confirms when they will collect, who already has transport. Then I tend to get a happy person collecting.

The number of sagas I've heard about trying to borrow BIL's van and get son's cousin's friend to drive it... once gave some very heavy cupboards to two confused lads who'd been asked to pop by by one's granny. They got them in the van and then realised Gran lives up 4 flights of stairs!

In a city there are so many sofas etc going that if you have a vehicle you can get one easily, and be choosy. So I really was grateful to get rid of one recently (ended up driving half of it to their flat) as otherwise I would have had to waste 2 hours taking it to the tip - charity shops rejected it as some of the fake leather was cracked.

There's a wanted ad on my local page with a shopping list - brown leather 2 seater sofa, must be like new, Ikea Billy bookcase, coffee table, canvas pitchers. I'm assuming the last item refers to wall art and not jugs.

I guess if you don't ask, you don't get.

Thanks all.
Will continue as I was. :)
Names in the hat is because I've found in the past that it's the same people sat at their computers all day who get everything otherwise.
I said on my post it was names in a hat and when I'd pick a name so I don't think I'm wasting people's time.
I also do think that it's mutually beneficial. I don't have to mess about getting rid of the things and someone else gets something for free. In all honesty I actually think it's the recipiant that benefits the most in most cases.
Thanks all.

I tend to just use the free pages on FB where the rules are you must put 'please can I be considered' and woebetide if you dare put anything else. End up being banned and blocked.

I don't always give to the first response. Even freecycle advise against this as they are often the dealers/seller ons who stalk the pages. I avoid one person after they sent me a load of rude messages but still asks me for my stuff.

Sometimes I offer to deliver and specify the area but people always ask for delivery miles away. Others have confirmed they want it then I get a 'any chance you can deliver?' No. And others must think I do nothing else but sit in my house 24/7 so I can be there when they say 'I'll come at 10 tomorrow'

I actually get a bit annoyed as many members think only those on the bones of their arses should get anything, but presumely are quite happy to take the stuff of those more well off. Even my car type has raised eyebrows as apparently I am not deserving enough (yet take all my stuff)

I have a thing about stuff going to landfill, otherwise I wouldn't bother at all. We are currently decluttering as hopefully moving soon, so I sit on my hands and make sure I don't get banned.

Yanbu. I often get people asking for things quite rudely or have not read the description properly. Please and thank you cost nothing.

If I saw you say "I will put names in a hat" I'd previously have thought it's only a bloody X, no need to make a big production of it.

Now I see that you say that to prevent harassment from people who repeatedly email saying "so can I have it then?".

I don't understand at all how anyone could think you were waiting anyone's time by waiting a few hours (or even a day or two) before replying to offer your thing to the person you wanted to give it to. They're not exactly waiting outside your house.

It's nothing to do with thinking what I'm giving away is particularly amazing (obviously it's decent and/or useful, I don't give away junk) and I want people to beg or anything. I geniuneky don't understand why people think I'm being, I don't know what the word is, but expecging people to be overly grateful. In the past I've left stuff behind the garden wall for people to just pick up as well. We don't have one at the moment so I'll make sure I remember MN says I can't ask tge recipiants to kiss my feet when they collect the stuff.
I also ignore any stories that go with it. It's not up to me to decide who is "most worthy".
I can't decide about the reselling issue. If the recipiant constantly does it or lies to get items then that's pretty poor behaviour. I tend to think if I choose not to sell it then I can't get cross that others do but at the same time, it doesn't seem very inkeeping witg my attitude to giving away freebies.

Trills, it's to give everyone a chance at getting it. In my experience you do get quick replies from the same people over and over. By stating I'll wait, I'm making sure people know they won't get an immediate reply. It's not obligatory but if I'm not in a rush to get rid then I don't see the problem in giving people a fair chance.

The worst thing I ever did was offer a working laptop. I had so many sodding emails, hundreds of pleading, begging, please, please pick me stuff that I felt quite discombobulated, and ended up giving the damn thing to a charity (local hospice). They then serviced it, cleaned it up and auctioned it at their summer fayre. They made a good few quid which went towards buying gazebos so the patients could sit out in the garden, protected from the sun.