To refuse freecyclers because they don't say please?

[PuffinNose]

That really.
I've put a few offers on there. Nothing hugely exciting. I said on the ads that I'll pick a name tomorrow.
Husband thinks I'm being OTT by automatically deleting the replies that just say "I'll have this" or "put me in the hat" etc., in other words, no please or thank you.
My personal favourite so far, who husband agrees will be deleted is "I will collect this 2day. Give me ur addy. I 2 busey 2 wait. I will collect them al. Carl".
I'm not being unreasonable to expect a few manners when I'm going out of my way to pass on some stuff I could easily sell, am I?
I feel sad that my first AIBU is so boring!

Any thing I have of any saleable value will go to my very efficient local Save the Children shop - I don't think that anyone on my local Freecycle site needs it as much as the Syrian refugee kids need the money it will sell for.

However that still leaves a lot of stuff that's Freecyclable but not saleable - magazines, Jiffy bags, phone chargers, baby gear etc. Not sufficiently valuable to be worth faffing around with "fair giving protocols" or names in hats or deciding who is most worthy so I prioritise people who are most likely to make my life easier by turning up when they say they will. So I pick people who live nearby and who specify the item they want (some people who say "can I have this please?" may be spambots requesting everything) and I always say "say when you can collect" in my ad, because the ability to read and obey that instruction should be a sign of reliability.

'I'd love to take the lawnmower off your hands. I can collect at any time that's convenient for you'. That sounds fine to me, polite and considerate. Some people are just inept at this basic skill it seems or just plain rude.

I am always grateful to whoever takes the stuff off my hands on freecycle - I use it to get rid of crap I no longer need and cannot sell and cannot take to the tip because I don't drive.

I don't see it as bountifully bestowing stuff on others for free, but getting rid of crap for free.

BeyondThePage - At last, someone who is honest

I gave away a brand new washing machine, a good one because our new house had appliances that came with it.

The bloke was almost crying with gratitude.

I'd imagine Carl has much the same reaction from everyone he tries it on with. I 2 busy 2 wait????
I wouldn't be too busy to tell him to fuck off.
Yanbu, op.

Not honest Reefer, just different.

Yanbu

I have this with local facebook and I take great pleasure in ignoring them and giving to later people that say please

Puffin you are not bu. I think Carl especially is really rude. And I really hate text speak. What - you're sooooo busy you can't type a few extra letters?

I have noticed this too, it's so rude. I have felt on a few occasions to write a big please under the I want comment!! Lol

I started saying I was doing names in a hat because there was one guy who seemed to be online all the time. He has always the first guy to respond and I suspect that he was selling most of what he got.

He also never said please or thank you, his messages were very similar to the one from "Carl". If you didnt respond to him pretty much straight away he would send message after message and once I got accused of messing him about when I said that item had already been taken by someone else, as if I somehow owed it to him! He was later banned from the group but I have seen him on the FB groups since, always asking for every single item but he doesnt seem to be ver successful!

I would be ok with the lawnmower one, thats still polite and friendly even though there isnt an actualy please in there.

I'm not that bothered about please and thank you it's just the ones that expect you to deliver that annoy me. It's usually miles away as well.

YANBU. I freecycle decent stuff because I don't always want the hassle of eBay. And stuff that's probably not worth anything but still useful. I've never done that "I'll judge who deserves it most" crap but equally I wouldn't even bother responding to Carl. Politeness costs nothing, as many have said.

I agree with Reefer that much Freegle stuff is rubbish. Years ago I was "lucky" enough to be accepted as the recipient of a child's garden swing, allegedly in excellent condition. I drove nearly 30 miles to collect it. The owner hastily shovelled a collection of metal poles in my boot followed by a wooden seat in a plastic bag, then ushered me off her drive as she had visitors due. I pulled up round the corner to examine the poles to find they were thick in mud and rust, so much that they crumbled under my hand, and the seat was rotten beyond repair.
Basically, the freeloading bitch had used me as a rubbish collection service. I still dream idly of revenge every time I drive nearby.

Having used freecycle and Gumtree quite a bit, the filter I use to select potential recipients is along the lines of:

1. Can they string a sentence together? Random text-speak nonsense messages are binned straight away
2. Are they polite?
3. Are they wiling to collect? As despite always saying "for collection only" some people seem to think this doesn't apply to them

Yes, people are doing me a favour by taking stuff I no longer need, but equally I'm doing them a favour by giving them stuff for free.

I've recently cleared 30 half used tons of paint that were left in our garage by the previous owner, plus probably 3 car loads of garden stuff (bricks, Slabs, ornaments, pots etc) that I would have had to take to the tip. Listed and collected within 24 hours and very little hassle.

There's always one whose child is taken suddenly very seriously ill, and this coincides with their phone not receiving messages, and also then they mysteriously don't want the item as well. But the majority of times someone genuinely turns up, and gets something for free that would otherwise have been thrown away. Win win.

Harriet In that instance I would have driven back to the house, rang the doorbell and handed it back, telling her exactly why. Even better if it's in front of her visitors.

YANBU.

Years ago I gave away a big bag of plus size clothes and got an email from a youngish guy which said "Yeah, I'll take them - my friend has packed on a ton of weight recently. Here's a photo of me so you know who you're dealing with", and he proceeded to add a MySpace style grainy selfie which I can only assume he thought made him look alluring. He was no lightweight either I might add! I just don't understand how he thought me, the owner of larger clothing, would be charmed by his insulting attitude to his poor friend! Maybe he assumed I'd be so bowled over by his "attractiveness" I'd offer them to him immediately.

I laughed and deleted his email. I ended up giving them to a young mum who was struggling for money for clothes and she cried when I gave them to her and gave me a big hug. I've never forgotten it.

What's with the pent up stuff, Reefer?

Floggingmolly - I was addressing another poster - I thought that was clear?