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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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PlayOnWurtz · 16/04/2017 11:44

Brought over from another thread...

AIBU to think I've left it too late by starting my ds in the mining profession at 5?

How old is too old to go up chimneys?

What size coal is right for my fire?

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Asmoto · 16/04/2017 13:51

Tatty YABU - you must submit to your husband's will in this matter; it is not for you to have an opinion. Does your husband not work hard to keep you and your 12 children? Be grateful for your lot in life.

treaclesoda · 16/04/2017 13:51

My DS came home from school distraught because the master had tied his left arm to his side all day, causing him great discomfort. Apparently he had been attempting to write with his left hand even though has has been warned that it is unacceptable.

When DH came home he was furious and thrashed the boy again for bringing shame on us. But I wonder if it's not naughtiness causing him to do this but perhaps some sort of disorder that he can't help. The vicar has prayed for him to mend his ways and DH says that I mollycoddle the boy. I don't know what to do.

Elendon · 16/04/2017 13:54

Should I let my husband have sex with me two days after giving birth? I'm sore and tired. He say's it's my duty as a wife. I just want to recover and to live. I've heard so much about women who have died from infection after giving birth.

gettinfedduppathis · 16/04/2017 13:56

How do I get rid of snails in the privy?

CauliflowerSqueeze · 16/04/2017 13:56

tatty - yes you are.

I'm about to have DC number 18 and my NDN has just had number 21.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 16/04/2017 13:56

hareinthemoon, I beg you to contact Scotland Yard as a matter of urgency. Inspector Cameron is the office to ask for. I wish you the very best of luck!

morningtoncrescent62 · 16/04/2017 13:56

PinkandWhite - ltb. Just do it quietly, hon, and not in the pub when you've made yourself the centre of attention.

SittingAround1 I think the only way forward is to - ahem - take a deep breath and offer to partake in conjugal unpleasantness with your DH. I know it won't be nice, but I'm sure you'll be able to improve his mood.

Asmoto, you are spoiling your DD. You should make her sit (straight back, no lolling) in the drawing room until she has finished stitching her first corset for herself.

CauliflowerSqueeze · 16/04/2017 13:57

elendon of course you must let him have his way. Just brace yourself.

Asmoto · 16/04/2017 13:57

My sixteen year old daughter wants to start putting her hair up. I think she is far too young, and should keep it in pigtails until she is twenty one. I do not want our friends to think she is a fast young lady. Who is BU?

Elendon · 16/04/2017 13:57

Sorry, posted too soon. Would it be okay for me to allow my mum to sleep with me in the bed? She said her mum did it.

Asmoto · 16/04/2017 13:58

mornington You are quite right - can you recommend a good backboard?

GreenHillsSunnySkies · 16/04/2017 13:58

AIBU to think our neighbour, who is an impecunious widow, should not allow her 4 marriageable (but poorly dowered) daughters to drive about the countryside in open carriages with unrelated gentlemen and without a chaperone? They are becoming quite the talk of the village!

There is also the issue of the inconsiderate parking of said open carriages partially blocking the entrance to our coach house while said gentlemen pay morning calls to said marriageable daughters, but I fear that discussion must be put off until I have completed the watercolour painting of the scene.

Wickedstepmum67 · 16/04/2017 13:59

Fashion advice, please. Would the new fangled trend for a bustle be unbecoming on a matron of 50? My DH has suggested a shawl, mop cap and some knitting may be a more suitable 'look' for a woman of such advanced years.

OctopusesGarden · 16/04/2017 14:01

My husband is vicar of the local parish. The local toff is a nightmare, always offering friendly advice on tiny, INSIGNIFICANT details of my household. My bff tells me i should tell her to butt out but DH would be really upset. WWYD?

Asmoto · 16/04/2017 14:02

treacle You must think not of your son's present comfort, but of his eternal future. A little pain is a small price to pay to avoid his damnation to the fires of Hell. Cackhandedness is the Devil's work and must be beaten out of all our children.

SeekEveryEveryKnownHidingPlace · 16/04/2017 14:02

Going to the baker's - what do I NEED to buy?

AcrossthePond55 · 16/04/2017 14:03

AIBU to drop my dear friend? She stole my cook! She was very underhanded about it, too. She actually offered her a half day off per week in addition to an hour off on Sundays for church attendance! I think half day off every other Thursday plus church is perfectly generous, don't you?

I just don't know what I shall do! It's so hard to find good help these days. The housekeeper is pitching in until I can find a new cook, but that means I must count the linen and plan the menus myself!!! Not to mention that the maids are getting unruly without her constant supervision. Today I actually found the upstairs maid in the parlour! Thank the Lord my MiL wasn't there to see that, she would never have let me live that down!

Elendon · 16/04/2017 14:05

Asmato, your sixteen year old daughter is well beyond childhood, she is actually ripe for marriage. Show some initiative and get her out there for eligible bachelors right now. Before it's too late!!!!

BeezerBubble · 16/04/2017 14:06

My DP has got yet another of my maids pregnant. Obviously had to let her go but should I have a word with him about it? After all this is the fifth time this year and he knows how hard it is to find good help these days.

Asmoto · 16/04/2017 14:09

Beezer On no account chastise your husband for this. Are you not aware that unless his loins are given regular release, his humours will become unbalanced and he will waste away? Be thankful that he is considerately saving you from an early widowhood and a future in the workhouse.

frieda909 · 16/04/2017 14:10

AIBU? Having an affair with my married boss

He is a really good man and treats me well but I just found out he's actually married. His wife is a total nightmare though, he actually had to lock her in the attic because she's just such a nutcase.

WWYD?

theotherendofthesockportal · 16/04/2017 14:10

Has anyone seen one of those new steam trains? Loud noisy and far too fast, they will never catch on.

Elendon · 16/04/2017 14:12

Beezer, you obviously have let your looks go and he's uninterested. Why don't you keep your husband interested instead? Clearly you have failed as a wife. If I were a judge you wouldn't get a penny if he decided to divorce you. And what are you thinking? Is this the sort of relationship your children should be subjected to? You should be ashamed to be a woman with an attitude like that. You have only yourself to blame.

Asmoto · 16/04/2017 14:12

elendon thank you for those wise words. I will make urgent arrangements for my daughter to be presented at court as a debutante before she is too elderly.

Elendon · 16/04/2017 14:24

Frieda My guess is you will tell us readers that you married him.

But before you do, make sure to spend a stormy night out in the moors.

Did you have a troubled childhood?

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