AIBU to disown my dd? She used to be a proper, well brought up lady. We sent her to a finishing school in Switzerland (as of course all proper families do) and she became great friends with another girl, who’s father is a duke somewhere abroad. Since returning home, dd’s head is full of fanciful notions regarding women and the vote. This will not do at all as her father is in parliament and her actions could ruin this family. I have tried to convince her to stop, but the little minx will not and I caught her last night putting a sash away! I fear this has gone too far. WIBU to disown (or rather, convince DH to disown) her? On a side note, does anyone know how one goes about suing a Swiss finishing school for putting ideas into young heads?
AIBU or is sis? DD (5) is ill. Nothing serious, a few spots, coughing, she can’t keep anything down and she is picking at the quilts. My sister reckons it is serious and that we ought to call the doctor. Now in an ideal world I would, but doctors cost money. Ever since she started in that factory and got some money, she’s become all la di dah. Personally, I think it’d be better to give old Mrs Jones next door a glug of dh’s brandy in return for rubbing a bit of ointment on it. If she doesn’t improve in a day or three I’d take her to the London. WWYD?
AIBU to consider going to the chemist for help with ds (age 18 months?) The child is teething something dreadful. I get opium and lithium from there every Monday to help with DH’s bad back (he would not work otherwise) so it would be no bother. It might help the pain. If nothing else, it is keeping the other 10 children awake (as DH won’t consider having him in with us). I think it’s a great idea and DD7 (who is 5) has just started working in the mills so we can afford it. Mary next door says it is a bad idea and to simply put him in the cupboard instead, so he does not wake the others. I think this is cruel. WhoIBU?
AIBU to think it is wrong that ds’s master beat him bloody? I’m not one of these liberal mollycoddlers and ds is no angel, but his only crime was pointing out that the master had spelt conscience wrong. Also, wasIU to not let on to dh what has happened? I know he will be upset that ds has brought shame to the family and I don’t want ds being chastised again, poor mite. I have told DH that ds is in bed ill. Now I feel guilty for being a bad wife, but not a bad mother. AIBU?
AIBU to have an affair with the Lord of the household? He’s a lovely man, really kind and funny. His wife is a harridan though, horrible stuck up cow. I’m a maid, and I love him. I know he’ll never leave her Ladyship, but I’d like him to. WIBU to sneak rat poison in her tea?
AIBU to think this fundraising for the poor and talk of ‘social reform’ is ridiculous? They have workhouses where they’re kept alive, what more do they want? If it’s not stamped out it’ll get silly with them having, gasp, holidays!
AIBU to question my dh’s judgement? Our dd (unwed, at 17) is pregnant. We are devastated. I accept it my fault for not having her married and letting her run wild, but it’s done now. The man will not marry her (he is unable to work so unsuitable anyway) and we cannot subject her to a life of poverty. My dh and the local vicar have decided to send her to a home for unmarried mothers. When it is born, it will be taken away, and then dd can come back and marry DH’s friend the Archduke of Something or Other. I disagree, though. I’m getting used to the idea of being a nanny and seeing the child once a week on Sundays, and we certainly have the money for a nanny. DH is determined to avoid a scandal and says this is the only way, or he will disown us both. WhoIBU?