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Is this OK?

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Karanka · 14/04/2017 12:43

DW and I have been discussing holidays, and by 'discussing' I mean DW has said 'we are going on the holiday I want to go on'. It's a holiday we took three times before we had DCs, and which I liked progressively less each time.

I've said I don't want to go, and have suggested some alternatives, DW said today that it doesn't matter what I do or think, she and the DCs are going anyway.

AIBU to be annoyed by this?

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Butterymuffin · 14/04/2017 18:06

Going with the kids will not be anything like the university-days, child-free experience it's been before. So if she's insisting, let her suck it up and go and find out that she can't recreate that. Then you insist on Copenhagen next year Wink and treat yourself on your staycation in the meantime.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 14/04/2017 18:12

I hate music festivals so I totally feel your pain, if I was in your situation I would be miserable. I think she is bring very selfish to organise a holiday that only she will really enjoy

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 14/04/2017 18:19

If money is tight might be worth noting copenhagen, while beautiful, is very expensive! Also not much of a holiday woth young children. Same with city breaks. That's more of a Weekend than a holiday with children.

If she wants a festival there are plenty of family orientated ones around. Although not sure about availability for this summer.

RebelRogue · 14/04/2017 18:20

Let her go on her own with the kids. Use the money saved on your ticket to do something fun yourself. It's going to be a pain in the ass for her and hopefully put her off,so next year you can all have a holiday you'll enjoy.

How old are the kids?

Mistletoekids · 14/04/2017 18:23

God what fresh hell is she creating!

Let her go alone with kids! You stay somewhere nearby nice pub with rooms

GabsAlot · 14/04/2017 18:27

if it is glastonbury isnt it sold out?

gameofchance · 14/04/2017 18:29

No more Wickerman!! That's just crap. shows how out of touch I am these days.

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Karanka · 14/04/2017 18:52

They are 3 and 5.

Our house needs a lot of work, so it would give me the opportunity to get on with that, but I would feel really shit for not going. I feel like I'm not being out in a very nice position - like it's expected that I'll cave.

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KitKats28 · 14/04/2017 19:02

I will re-iterate then. Glastonbury is SHIT for small children in the rain. It has rained for 9 out of the last 10 years. We luckily managed to go in 2010, the only year it didn't rain. My kids were 12 and 10, so older than your and had a brilliant time in the Kids Field. Yep, field. It was the hottest Glastonbury on record that year. Almost everything in the kids field is outside, so again, SHIT in the rain. Sitting in a soggy tent with two toddlers is so not my idea of a holiday.

The campsites are miles from the car park. If you go to the family campsite, it's close to the car park, but miles from everything else.

Unless you both already have tickets and have registered your kids, it's a moot point anyway, because none of you will be going. The only chance of a ticket now is returns, which will sell out within seconds, and you have to be pre-registered.

If I were you, I'd send her on her own, and take the kids somewhere nice yourself.

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/04/2017 19:02

It's not just the house that needs working on, it's your relationship.

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Karanka · 14/04/2017 19:13

Unless you both already have tickets and have registered your kids, it's a moot point anyway, because none of you will be going.

The resells are this month, I think?

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Screwinthetuna · 14/04/2017 19:16

YANBU...you are a married couple, a family and a team. You should agree on a family holiday or not go at all

KitKats28 · 14/04/2017 19:20

Yes Karanka they are, but unless you were already registered you've got no hope.

April229 · 14/04/2017 19:45

No should be a join decision, whose paying?

hannahbanana2007 · 14/04/2017 19:52

Plus even if already registered (which you may be as you no longer have to re register every year), the odds of getting a ticket in the resales is incredibly small so I wouldn't think you really need to worry about it!

RebelRogue · 14/04/2017 19:59

3 and 5 😂😂 Honestly..let her go,hell wish her a good time and happily wave her on her way. And then enjoy the peace,quiet and work on the house. You'll have a better time than she will.

Ahickiefromkinickie · 14/04/2017 20:14

I would love her to go and be surrounded by a 'thick fog of shit nappies'

Do let her go 😀

PNGirl · 14/04/2017 20:32

Website suggests you needed to be registered by Thursday 13th April. Oh well. ;)

Welshrainbow · 14/04/2017 20:32

Your DC ate 3 and 5? Haha send her off with the kids and go and visit your best friend in her new city. Although as the likelihood of getting a ticket through resells is practically zero it's probably a moot point.

TheHeartOfTeFiti · 14/04/2017 20:33

Could you compromise on a smaller cheaper more kid friendly festival? I only know Scottish ones; Eden, Bute, doune the rabbit hole, kelburn. You could even combine Bute with Scottish islands.

Stripyhoglets · 14/04/2017 20:40

Send her on her own, and go for camping trip to Scotland with all of you together. Taking the kids will be hellish I rookie to a small daily orientated festival from that age with me and she's it was still tough. Glasto would be impossible. Let her go and have fun and have a cheaper family holiday as well.

Stripyhoglets · 14/04/2017 20:41

*I took mine to a small family orientated festival

chipsandpeas · 14/04/2017 21:01

let her go, im sure she will see a festival with a 3 and 5 yr old will be shit....downside is the cost that will prob be wasted if/when they come home early

Madasahattersteaparty123 · 15/04/2017 19:13

I would let her go and not be railroaded into coming along. It's does raise red flags about the state of your relationship if there is no middle ground

LancelotLink · 15/04/2017 19:43

I would either a) get her to compromise on a more kid friendly festival, like Camp Bestival (is that still a thing?) or b) go along with it to prove that Glastonbury with kids and an OH who doesn't like festivals is an unbelievably bad idea and put her off it until the kids are teenagers and dumb enough to want to go back.

If you resist it entirely it will only cause resentment or always be on the horizon for something that you will do next year or the year after.

I feel your pain though. I am a fellow believer - that festivals are expensive and rubbish.