To not let teenage dss have a house key despite living here.

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Okay I am fully prepared to get flamed her but I can't think of any other option. Dss mother is erratic and bizarre. I have caught following me around before. She has been caught looking at my and my dc Facebook and we have not only had to block her but her son as well because she will use his account.

I would not put it past her picking up the key from her sons pocket and coming round when no one is in.

Dss goes to the same school as my son so they make same journey home.

I do agree. Either both kids have a key or neither does, and I have said I think he needs a key.

I think there is a lot of exaggeration where ex wives are concerned, just the same amount of exaggeration about how shit some peoples ex husbands are. There is one side of a story, the other, and then the truth.

I think you do have to consider, though, that some people really are unhinged, these people do exist. Whether op is telling the truth or exaggerating I don't know, but you have to accept that some people do get stalked and it is serious.

Like I say, my dp never said a bad word about his ex and until she found out about me (3 years and 1 relationship after they split up) they were amicable, everyone was happy. Then like I say she punched my dp in the face in front of their son, dps parents and me - because he had the cheek to introduce me to his own parents. Some people really are unhinged. Before that incident I thought his ex was a nice, normal woman and I would have quite happily had a civil relationship with her. Since then, she's threatened to kill me, my dp. She would not let him see his son at a moments notice, she would speak to his parents, find out what we were doing and then change the days he had his son so we could not do what we had planned. I could go on for days what she's done, and none of it is what dp has told me its all things she's said or done to me first hand.

Not everyone's ex wife is like that, but some are.

I agree about fb though, I couldn't give a shiny shit if she looked at my fb there's nothing interesting on there! She has blocked me though so I assume she cannot look anyway!

I followed my kids step mum too. We both went to Waitrose and then Homebase

Ex phoned to tell me she was "terrified". I got to Homebase first

Key lock box for all kids

"So either they both have keys, or neither does. "

which is why I suggested he have a hook in HIS room that HE can hang it on.

I would do the same thing with the other son and request that he also hang his key on the hook if he goes away on holiday or visiting someone.

OP, what do you think that your DP's ex would do with the key? Do you seriously think she'd use it to enter your home without your permission? And then do what, exactly once she's inside? I think you're being absolutely ridiculous.

phoenix OP said this Dss mother is erratic and bizarre. I have caught following me around before. She has been caught looking at my and my dc Facebook
no doubt I have been described as erratic and bizarre to justify X own behaviour

irony in my case whilst being accused of "stalking" my posts on here when i have been desperate and/or venting and/or seeking advice have appeared in X's court papers.

if the stalking is serious get the police involved or get off social media- most people use SM as "look at me" - you cannot then complain when you don't like who's looking!

The issue here is both kids need to be treated the same - maybe the mother is concerned about the long term impact this treatment will have on her son - now its "only" a key but whats next use of a car?

OP sounds like you have some insecurity yourself - why not post your house pics on FB too - then there will be no need for her to come round!

piglet - why do you assume all exW are bitter - my OW did me a huge favour - I am free from an abusive marriage that i did not recognise until she came along. I now have the chance to show my kids a better way - like your name BTW! i have a thing for pigs!

cath - you have made me laugh

My stepmother did this and did so for the very same reason you're giving. My father played ostrich their whole marriage.

It's been 25 years since she implemented the rule, she's been dead for years, and I haven't spoken to my father properly in years (we saw each other at a family funeral 2 years ago). We have no relationship. And he has no relationship with my children. I know quite a few adults who had similar experiences of not being trusted. None of them have relationships with their fathers either.

If she's genuinely stalking you (and not just looking at your FB profile), then report her to the police. Don't punish your stepson by making him a second class citizen in what should be his own home.