I posted a few days ago about MIL and new baby, www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2898666-MIL-and-first-new-baby
Today I got the date for my section and MIL immediately said to OH she'd take the day off so that she could come up once baby was born. Which isn't possible in recovery and would mean waiting until visiting hours.
However I had explicitly said that my DS gets to be the first person to see the baby, it's his life that is going to be changing the most (only child for almost 7 years) and the closer the date gets the more I can see him struggling. This is the one and only thing he has asked me about the baby coming, can he see the baby first (after myself and OH).
My DS will be going to school that day, as he will the day after. His routine won't change to try and keep things as stable as possible for him during the change. This means that no one will visit until night time visiting. Not only will this allow DS to.see baby first but it will let OH and I bond with the baby and give me the chance to recover after my c-section. I don't want anyone visiting within an hour or two of the birth.
OH thinks I am being unfair and should just keep DS off school to make sure his parents can come up asap, as it's their first GDC. I think a) I shouldn't be pressured in to have visitors when I don't want as I'll have a bag of pish next to my leg, no pants on and blood pouring on to the bed and mat under me and b) I shouldn't change DS routine and shouldn't keep him off school when there's no definite time baby will arrive.
Am I bu? Is he?