To think that this woman on her gap year, wanting to adopt an African baby and bring him back to the UK, is ridiculous...

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When there are multiple 100s of 1000s of children in this country needing loving homes, this woman on her 'gap yar' has decided she wants to bring this little boy home from Uganda and adopt him. Unreasonable? Or perfectly OK?

She has even set up a gofundme page for her legal fees!

I think it's ridiculous personally.

Are you on glue op? if not, try it, you'd make more sense

Adoption is great and I'm all for it usually. However with no job to support herself much less a child and not prepared to finance the venture herself given the go fund me page its madness.

She's a qualified teacher. I imagine she will get a job back here and she clearly has very supportive family. She looks like she is in a better place than most single mothers.

She was jappy to trot back home to be a bridesmaid though and hand him over to someone else. Hardly a stable committed relationship

I suspect she also had to comply with Ugandan immigration law, this most probably limited the amount of time she could stay in the country.

This ^^ How is she going to support them both back in the UK permanently?

Er, by working? She's a qualified teacher. There are not many teaching jobs open to expats in Uganda - she had one of them, then lost it, and is apparently working another job over there now but presumably it's not enough to fully support herself and Adam and pay the legal fees for adoption. However, she can't leave Uganda now without derailing the adoption process.

It doesn't appear she'll have any problems supporting them both once the adoption is processed.

But she doesn't have a job and she's going to have a little one to look after which is going to make getting / having a job that bit harder!

Well, she's found two jobs in Uganda, where her opportunities are very limited, while looking after a little one, so I imagine she feels up to the challenge of navigating the UK jobs market.

Off the top of my head I can think of 4 single mothers who manage the working and the childcare thing, I am sure she will manage when she comes back from uganda

As an African I have seen many of these cross-cultural adoptions come back to bite hard ten to fifteen years later.

A 'good life' is not all about food and clothes in a different place eg. a displaced person forever.

A hard life in beautiful Uganda...sun and space and flora and fauna and most of all your own people...hate how 'charity' is manipulated as 'for the best' when it may be nothing of the sort.

gotthemoononastick

Do you think he would be better off in the orphanage? Serious question btw, I don't mean materialistic comfort, which I assume would be much better here, I mean a happy life. I also mean taking into account the reality of how his life is likely to be in Uganda, not how it would ideally turn out for him which I imagine would be being adopted with his siblings by a family member who was able to care and provide for them all.

Of course his home country would be better but is an orphanage really the best place for him ?

You may be surprised to hear this but there are thousands of women who have work and raise children on their own.
I'm well aware of that, but it's not always that easy to find a job and particularly when employers find out you have a baby. It's not like she's been on maternity leave, or has been unemployed but with time to prepare for having this child in her life. She's coming back here with nothing set up for them in terms of practical childcare arrangements & no money to help pay for it. A planned adoption from abroad is a lot different to an unplanned one like this.

Your attitude is hilarious YABU

YABVU. The child formed a strong bond with her and she will give him an amazing life far better Han what he'd have in Uganda. What a wonderful mum she will be.

gotthemoon as someone working in South Africa to support and protect children and families, I agree with you. Cross cultural adoption can work, but there are plenty of difficulties that go with it, and I've seen so many gap year kids become convinced that they are the only person who can save a particular child... then when they email a few months later to say 'give X my love, I miss him' they don't realise that the child hardly remembers them...

Sadly I doubt most people on this thread know much about it. Plus the habit of seeing Africa as a hellhole and isn't everyone who gets to Europe lucky...