To feel like the biggest slag in the world?

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Before I met DH I put it about a bit to the tune of 50+ sexual partners. When I go into my local town I often see past conquests.

Today I am at a holiday park 60+ miles away and see someone I shagged 10 ish years ago.

AIBU to feel like the biggest slag in the world? FYI I am female.

OP, that's. It a very nice word to use.

Do you think women who have multiple sexual partners are 'slags'?

God, if I worried about bumping into my previous shags I'd never be able to leave the house.

I was a busy girl in my wanton youth. Dh gets the benefit of all that experience now.

You have to shag a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince.
As long as you haven't had 50 sexual partners after your DH, you're ok

How many sexual partners have you all had?

Not really relevant, is it? And you should not use misogynistic terms like slag and perpetuate the idea that it is different for men than women.

Please stop using that word.

I have had fewer than you but I really couldn't be bothered to count. Really couldn't give two shits what someone's 'number' is. How you conduct yourself in everyday life is way more important. Are you respectful to people? Are you kind? Don't let dudes make you feel ashamed of yourself. Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

You did nothing wrong. Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't buy into it's different for men. It isn't. You have't cheated on anyone, you haven't hurt anyone. Its your body and your choice. I've had one partner. It doesn't make me any less of a slag than you. Neither of us are slags.

YABcompletelyU.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with having multiple sexual partners.

Be kinder to yourself.

I wisg I'd had 50+ sexual partners. I feel like I've massively missed out.

Life is short. Don't feel guilty for having had fun.

I don't think many people will want to tell you their number.

"How many sexual partners have you all had?"

It really doesn't matter a jot x.

I thought the same as you TrippyMcTrapFace . Reported.

I've only ever had two sexual partners and was very happily married until I because a window 2yrs ago. I've no interest in having sex with anyone else, now, but fuck I wish I hadn't had that bloody catholic guilt, good girls don't sleep around, bullshit, growing up. I'm actually jealous of the attitude young women have to sex. There's no such thing as slags, op. Men aren't slags so why are women thought of in that way? You had fun, and just bloody right too.

No your not a slag and it's none of your or anyone else's ( daily mail's) business how many people I have slept with.

If it was up to me, offensively sexist words such as slag would be banned on here, the way that offensively racist words are.

You actually think that women who have multiple sexual partners are 'slags'? I feel sorry for you. What kind of upbringing did you have?

You have to shag a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince.

Now that would be a good Disney Princess movie

Seem like you're disappointed that you thought everyone would flame you and people on here are much too enlightened to make harsh judgements.

I'd quit while you're ahead.

I don't understand the reporting business

I feel better now

TBH I've always hated myself over it

Perhaps some counselling might help.

I've only ever had one sexual partner and I don't think you're a slag. To me a slag is someone who sleeps with several different men while still in a relationship. In short: a cheater.

Hey nothing wrong with a bit of self-flagulation on Mumsnet on a Sunday evening

50 partners is quite a lot, but if you are happy with it then it doesn't matter. Sounds like you aren't though, which is the problem. You are not a slag though. If you were a guy you would be a legend.

It's always a big hang up for women, I know I worked with a woman who flat shared, each night was a different bloke, so my worries about being a slag were cured. Not that I thought she was, I thought she was sexually liberated if that's a thing, if not I just invented it.

I don't have a number of how many people I've slept with, I don't believe it should define you in any way.

I was just thinking when you're in a new relationship, the question always comes up, how long have you been single, when did you last have sexual relations, what's your magic number? I would feel inclined now to say to anyone who asked that, does what I did 20+ years ago have any bearing on who I am now? I'm not saying that I was promiscuous, but I don't don't see how it's relevant.

I would honestly not worry for one second about it. It's a number. I would put the emphasis on you being STD free and being a nice person with a compatible personality.

I only care about other people's sexual conquests (or lack thereof) if they are making themselves unhappy. For instance, I'd (internally) judge a person who was self-destructively sleeping with everyone in sight and a person who was self-destructively isolating themselves from sexual contact as both making poor choices.

If your choices make you happy (and are not at the expense of a current partner who you've pledged fidelity to) then I don't really care what you do. In general health terms I'd probably prefer that you all got STD checked and used condoms etc but feel free to crack on after that point

And I don't see that it's any of your business what my number is - cheek!

I don't often hear women use the term slag. Its often used by mysoginistic men.
You shouldn't ask people. None of your business. Your past is your business. Who gives a shit?