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Is this a threat?

96 replies

Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 17:41

Name changed.

I just said to someone "Please don't make things more difficult, I've done what we agreed".

There response was:
"Oh I could make things very difficult for you". With the emphasis being on could.

They had raised their voice during the conversation but I can't remember if it was before or after this comment. I feel really shaken up.

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ajandjjmum · 06/04/2017 17:46

Is it someone who has some power over you?

SasBel · 06/04/2017 17:48

I would feel threatened, if it is work do you have a HR department?

Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 17:49

It was my GP. I was asking for a repeat prescription of my mental health medication.

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NavyandWhite · 06/04/2017 17:49

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ShowMePotatoSalad · 06/04/2017 17:50

Wtf. OP, that's not right. Please write down what he said and submit as a complaint.

Amockingjayhey · 06/04/2017 17:50

Wow. That seems very inappropriate to me.

Can you tell the practice manager what happened ??

You shouldn't feel threatened by your GP whether they meant it or not

ShowMePotatoSalad · 06/04/2017 17:50

Or she

VeryButchyRestingFace · 06/04/2017 17:50

Very hard to comment when it's so vague.

Are they trying to blackmail you in some way?

ajandjjmum · 06/04/2017 17:50

How/why could/would a GP make things very difficult for you. That sounds thoroughly unprofessional to me.

Dozer · 06/04/2017 17:51

Sounds inappropriate, but what was the context?

You could always move GPs.

SailAwayWithMeHoney · 06/04/2017 17:51

It does sound somewhat threatening, particularly if it left you feeling shakey and intimidated.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 06/04/2017 17:52

Aaaaand..... just seen the update.

Time to complain, methinks. Flowers

TheHiphopopotamus · 06/04/2017 17:52

I think we need more context than that, tbh.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 06/04/2017 17:53

It's hard to comment when you've given so little context.
I doubt a doctor would threaten you to be honest. Did you not agree with the doctor's opinion? Does the Dr want to reduce your dose or take you off your current prescription?

WildwestWind · 06/04/2017 17:55

What did the dr say to make you respond "please don't make things more difficult"?

WelshMoth · 06/04/2017 17:57

It doesn't sound appropriate.

Can I ask what it was you agreed on?

mycavitiesareempty · 06/04/2017 17:59

Depends entirely on context.

CookieLady · 06/04/2017 18:00

More context needed.

Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 18:03

I can't actually just move GPs because my mental health support is linked to that GP. It's complicated.

I asked for my repeat medication and they asked when my final examination date is. I am currently signed off University due to them not signing a health related form to say I could return. They are going to sign me back the day before the year finishes. It has totally fucked everything up for me because I lost access to University support, facilities (gym, library etc.) and money. However, understood that these things occasionally happen and didn't complain about it at all.

The reason they want to know the date of my final examination is
I am being delisted from that surgery and the date has been agreed based on my last university examination. The date being confirmed in the next four weeks. If I continue at the University in September I was told I could stay on the GP list and finish the mental health support plan (two years to go).

I did explain I didn't know the date and the reply was along the lines of I don't feel happy you aren't telling me this, and I don't have to prescribe.

Cue me saying - please don't make this difficult.

And that response.

I have been to every appointment, stuck to the review dates, telephone appointment every four weeks and face to face appointment every 12 weeks (at GP suggestion - I was going to suggest 8 weeks). I have been taking my medication and been going to therapy.

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TeacupsAndDaffodils · 06/04/2017 18:06

We need more details about the whole conversation to get the context. Why would your GP threaten you? Could you see another GP at the practice for a second opinion?

TeacupsAndDaffodils · 06/04/2017 18:11

Sorry, X post

Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 18:12

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties We agree with everything normally. I don't want to be delisted if that is what happens and they know that (they have changed the rules on that and I don't think it's fair because it impacts mental health people very severely as it interrupts their treatment, but I have told them my views and they have told me it is how it is and so I am prepared to lose my treatment and have the interruption whilst I go to another referral etc.)

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TeacupsAndDaffodils · 06/04/2017 18:12

Can you contact the mental health team and raise your concerns?

Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 18:13

Teacups Yes. I guess. I just wondered how other people would react to it (sometimes I don't trust my judgement)

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Trollspoopglitter · 06/04/2017 18:20

Well your definition of "don't be difficult" was shut up with your questions and just write a prescription. Which the GP actually doesn't need to do at all. You meant to say can you please do me this favour you actually aren't required to do.

So they got pissy with you. They didn't threaten you if they're not legally required to do what you've requested.

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