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Is this a threat?

96 replies

Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 17:41

Name changed.

I just said to someone "Please don't make things more difficult, I've done what we agreed".

There response was:
"Oh I could make things very difficult for you". With the emphasis being on could.

They had raised their voice during the conversation but I can't remember if it was before or after this comment. I feel really shaken up.

OP posts:
Original poster
Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 18:23

Troll

No it wasn't - I explained I didn't actually know the date- it hasn't been set yet. I asked as normal, please could i have my repeat? What am I meant to say?

Is it ok for a GP to withhold medication for mental health based on the fact a university examination date as not been set?

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Goldfishjane · 06/04/2017 18:25

Trolls, are you reading the same posts?!

OP didn't know one answer to a question about dates for admin. This is not a reason for the GP to make such a nasty comment.

I would be making a complaint OP. This is not how any patient should be treated.

Goldfishjane · 06/04/2017 18:26

OP generally I wonder if you've got one of those GPs who is against meds for mental health.

Floggingmolly · 06/04/2017 18:26

Why are you being delisted from the surgery?

RunRabbitRunRabbit · 06/04/2017 18:27

Sounds like the GP didn't believe you were being honest about not knowing the date.

That's not massively unfair of the GP because exam dates are usually defined well in advance.

DonaldStott · 06/04/2017 18:27

I don't think yabu.

WelshMoth · 06/04/2017 18:27

It seems massively inappropriate to
Use those words given that you are there for MH reasons. It would/could trigger all sorts of anxiety responses and seems very irresponsible.

carabos · 06/04/2017 18:29

Why are you being delisted? Your posts read as if you have unwillingly complied with a treatment plan that has caused you significant problems with your course. This doesn't seem right. Your GP should not raise their voice or threaten you or make prescribing a medication conditional on anything other than your current state of health and appropriateness of the medication for your condition. You need to complain.

highinthesky · 06/04/2017 18:30

Wow. I'm really surprised you were treated like this.

GPs aren't saints, but generally do their best for their patients. I expect this one had a rough day so don't take it personally.

My so-called GP is not only rude and arrogant, she's incompetent to boot. I have a good relationship with colleagues in the practice, so will always see my preferred GP or at least have a TC with him if I can't deal with it myself.

JustSpeakSense · 06/04/2017 18:31

Did you get your repeat prescription or not?

BeccaAnn · 06/04/2017 18:36

you should complain to the head of the surgery immediately that is awful behavior on behalf of the GP.
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Bluntness100 · 06/04/2017 18:42

Are you being delisted as you are leaving the uni op and need to then register at wherever you will live?

Trollspoopglitter · 06/04/2017 18:42

Sorry, isn't delisted no longer a patient of that surgery? So how is the GP obligated to write a prescription if she can't say when she will no longer be a patient of his? Maybe I misunderstood?

But OP you didn't JUST say "can I please have my repeat?" And got that response. You said,

"Please don't make things more difficult, I've done what we agreed."

How is that not agressive? Please don't make things more difficult or what? What are you threatening to do?

I don't see that any less agressive than the GPs response

AnyFucker · 06/04/2017 18:45

I would say your GP replied in kind

Goldfishjane · 06/04/2017 18:46

Trolls "So how is the GP obligated to write a prescription if she can't say when she will no longer be a patient of his?"

this is bizarre. Supposing I was moving areas and didn't have an exact date, is the GP allowed to withhold a repeat prescription because I don't have a date?!

The OP response was not at all aggressive. She is having a difficult time, that's why she's at the GP in the first place! she responded directly to a comment about the ability to make things more difficult. Oh hang on - are you the GP?

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 06/04/2017 18:47

I wonder if you were talking at crossed wires with the gp? He thought you were withholding the date of your exams to be difficult? He shouldn't have conveyed that frustration to you in such a way.

Sometimes it maybe the case that your anxiety affects how you come across in difficult situations? Your doctor may have misinterpreted you? It's difficult to speculate as your case sounds complicated.

I am quite confused as to the reasons the doctors are de listing you.

Please don't torture yourself replaying the conversation, it will exacerbate your anxiety. I don't think you have done anything wrong in this instance. Flowers

kali110 · 06/04/2017 18:47

I don't understand why you are being delisted? Why?

Goldfishjane · 06/04/2017 18:48

oh sorry I crossed over the timing of the comments

Regardless, I think when you are dealing with a patient with a mental health condition, these words were totally unacceptable.

OP is there anyone who can go with you if you need to see this GP in future?

kali110 · 06/04/2017 18:48

This never happened to me, this sounds so bizarre! No wonder you're struggling!

Benedikte2 · 06/04/2017 18:50

Trolls, I don't see that as being aggressive but a plea from the OP for a repeat prescription. She has no power in this relationship and what more can she do if she does not have the date the GP has demanded? She is presumably listed until delisted and the GP is currently responsible for her treatment and she is cooperating in that treatment.
I would feel threatened by this GPs response and feel a complaint is warranted but whether the OP feels strong enough to cope with the hassle is another matter. Have you got anyone to advocate for you Ozp?

Benedikte2 · 06/04/2017 18:50
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Veiledusername · 06/04/2017 18:51

The examination dates haven't been shared with students yet. They will come out at the start of Summer term.

My examinations will end around the middle of June - so around two months. Prescription is only for 28 days.

I wasn't threatening anything. I was asking them not to hold my prescription against a date that has not been shared with me, and won't be shared with me for three weeks.

I cannot not have my prescription for three weeks.

Yes, the GP wrote the prescription for me after another 10 minutes of discussion.

In terms of the time off - I had a month signed off for something unrelated and the GP didn't fill out the forms correctly so I have ended up being not a student for 9 months, however, no one was aware of this until it came to submit my final forms.

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kali110 · 06/04/2017 18:55

terms of the time off - I had a month signed off for something unrelated and the GP didn't fill out the forms correctly so I have ended up being not a student for 9 months, however, no one was aware of this until it came to submit my final forms
What???? Yes i'd have made a complaint about this!!

Hefzi · 06/04/2017 18:56

Is it a university health practice? If not, why on earth would they be delisting you? (I can understand if you're not a registered student, as many practices on campus etc are only open to those students) especially as you say you're on a 2 year programme with them for your MH support, that's connected with the practice.

That aside, I don't really understand why you asked them not to make things difficult - that seems an odd choice of words, based on everything else you've said about the conversation. That aside, it's not helpful of them to counter that as they did - personally, I'd put it down to a bad day on their side, and try to let it go, though. I know it's hard when your MH is poor, but there isn't necessarily anything more sinister than a poor choice of words on their side Flowers

GardenGeek · 06/04/2017 18:58

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