5 year old who hurts family

[Pibplob]

Does anyone have a 5 ish year old with a spiteful temper? My daughter has started hitting out at us (her parents) and sibling. She gets really angry and overreacts to stuff and then gets violent. I fear it's getting worse. Today she has pinched me and left a huge bruise. I actually started crying it was so painful even though it's just a pinch. She is an angel at school and so I know she doesn't have a behaviour problem as she is choosing to be nasty at home. I feel I have to stamp this out now while she's little but anything I do she just screams and I have to think of the neighbours too. She is making things miserable and im not liking the school holidays much. Anyone else?

More exercise sorted my dd out. Swimming, dancing, boxing or climbing every evening - we mixed things up to keep things interesting.

Smacked bottom would be my advice.

Husky outrageous

Ignore it. Just trying to get a rise.

A bucket of cold water thrown onto her should solve the problem.

Huskylover1. I think we soon shall feel the anger of the earth mothers of Mumsnet. We shall be deleted. Stay strong!

Husky,

I will bite. How is hitting my child going to teach them not to hit me?

sobeyondthehills. But your child can hit, kick, punch, bite and scream at everyone and terrorise the whole family. Charming!

Neon.

There are other punishments than smacking your child.

sobeyondthehills. Interestingly, none of them seems to be working....

Because (sigh), the consequences you give don't work. There is nothing wrong with a smacked bottom for naughty behaviour. Too many parents just don't "do" discipline any more. And you wonder why you are raising brats. You are not her friend. You are the parent. You don't negotiate with a 5 year old. You take charge.

Funnily enough, my niece is similar to your DD - with her parents only. When she is with her Grandparents, who won't stand for any nonsense, she is absolutely gold star behaved. What does this tell you?

You have confused me with the OP, I don't have a DD

You shouldn't need to hit children to give them boundaries. If you need to resort to that, you've failed as a parent.

The fact that the OP has two older children who don't/haven't behaved like this suggests it may not be her parenting at fault. The fact that there is a potential hearing issue is definitely worth pursuing.

And my DS is beautifully behaved at school. He still has SEN

I never understand punishing children for hitting by hitting. Mixed messages surely?

Agree Huskylover

I read the whole thread and almost all the advice given to her is nonsensical bollox such as: hug her more, take her swimming, exercising etc...Like that kinda shit will stop her from being horrid.
Also, the suggestions here, as to why she is being horrid are ridiculous: she is hungry, tired, lonely etc..bullshit. There's massive difference between a hungry/tired kid and a spoilt rotten one.These people don't see the wood from the trees and then they come onto mumsnet and complain about their brat's awful ways.

Smacking won't beat a disability out of child, it's abuse and extremism behaviour at five years could be just that.

How does hitting help? Is that really the only way you can communicate? Bit pathetic, no?

Toysaurus. And herein lies the problemo. When the likes of you start calling discipline abuse. Nowadays if you just shout at a child they call you all kind of nasty names, call social services and set the police on you.
How come bratish, petulant behaviour was extremely rare in olden days when disciplining kids was part of raising them up? In this day and age parents smother their kids with love and attention, never even shout at them and they wonder why the kids become ungrateful, gobby little shits.

And the child is not disabled. Have you read the original post?

a disability?

No but my point is that at five years of age I didn't realise mine was. Smacking them wouldn't have made the slightest bit of difference other than been abusive and violent.

I suppose you are the kind of person that goes up to parents whose child is having a meltdown and says the child deserves a smack.

Toysaurus
Her child isn't disabled. She is fine in school etc..except home. In school you have to behave and you can't get away with being a tearaway, or there will be consequences. At home? What are the consequences? Taking a toy away, sit on the stairs and similar useless bullshit. And after meting out these "punishments" onto the child the parents go and apologise to the kid for being such bad mommies and daddies.
And typically, these parents are so apologetic with their moaning: oh what am I doing wrong? Should I love her more? Shall I buy her another giant pink pony?...blablabla....

Beating a child who is beating others just makes things worse. I do believe exercise helps. It lets kids get work out their frustrations in a safe way - boxing really works.

Oh give me strength. No one said to beat the child. My advice would be a stern (loud) "No, don't you dare do that", coupled with a smacked bum. Rinse and repeat. I cannot stand all this namby pamby parenting. Who the fuck is in charge??

Ds is fine in school. He is also autistic.

Masking is very common. Even more so in girls I believe

@Huskey- and then that child will smack you or another kid in the bum. Rinse. Repeat. I was raised by a mum like you - still hate her for 'smacking' me.