Barbarian As I said in my post, DD's teacher is exceptional. She also reserves the right to say no. Our school broke up on december 23rd and Christmas is celebrated on the 24th in Denmark so we would have had to have missed part of school if we were going to visit for the Christmas Day celebration itself.
Also, the point of the work given to DD to do while away is that when she came back she wasn't behind. I wouldn't normally ask for days off school because I agree that time away should be minimized. However, the savings were a consideration as well as having time in the build up to Christmas with family, two of whom are extremely ill. I don't see my BIL being around in 5 years as he has cancer that has come back twice now.
Overall, not everyone is the same and not everyone can fit in a neat little box. The system needs to take this into consideration and it currently doesn't. Quite frankly I think performance based pay for teachers is the most ludicrous idea I have ever heard of. If anything its parents who need to be 'incentivized' to make their kids pay attention in school and be active participants in their child's educational development.
It pains me to type that some parents need to be incentivised to do their job of parenting.... It is true. I am far far from perfect but I really want to see my DC do well in school, academically and socially.