To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

[momma1701]

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people but I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him

for what she believes

I wonder if anyone filmed the fracas and if it'll be posted on fb

Same thing exactly happened to me last week in Morrisons. I was fuming. people are inconsiderate.

good on you for shaming him

Over a parking space??? [grin}

even

I've never shouted in front of my children yet but they are still pretty little. I'm sure the day will come, but not over something this trivial.

Yes over a parking space

This isn't going to end well for you OP! People on MN are not supportive of mums using the P&C spaces, they are to be left for anyone else who may need them (not a mum!) and you have to park elsewhere and stop being so selfish

Did you not read my post?

Well I know plenty who have done this so I'm for sure not the only one, maybe I was a bit much but I would certainly do it again if he did it to me, maybe calmer next time

Shouting in public like a fishwife is not my style

My children ( all 5 of them) deserve better than that. We never used p&c parking either..... I managed quite well without. Never hit anyone's car. No drama.

How was he being disrespectful?? Do you expect respect because you have kids to remove from a car?

I am generally against parent and child spaces because I think they cause such a lot of entitled behaviour.

I feel for you though OP and think some of the comments are too harsh.

I remember sobbing at a man who put his triller behind the boot of my car so I couldn't open it.

I was so tired and exhausted, I lost all reason. Despite the slightly sanctimonious comments, I don't think it is that unusual.

Fwiw I think he was very wrong to di that. 1. To cut anyone up as they were parkjng 2. to go in parent and child space alone and able bodied 3. to follow you being abusive.

That said, you shouldn't really shout and sweat at people either. Especially not around kids.

You know plenty of people that have had a shouting match in a supermarket car park over a P&C space, in front of their children? That's not good.

You know plenty of people who have done this? As in lots of people shout at others in public and cause a scene in front of young children over parking spaces?

*trolley

Hmm. Yes, maybe I was wrong with the suggestion of Meryl Streep. How about Kathy Burke? I'm pretty sure she could convincingly start arguments in front of her children in a supermarket car park.

Puzzled over him being given a ticket.

How did the warden know for sure he didn't have a child? He could have had an adult and a child in the car-(who'd gone off shopping on their own) children don't have to be in car seats to 'qualify' for P&C spaces.

And it's not illegal to use a P&C space even in a retail park. Unless there are signs saying there are tickets given for using P&C spaces unless you can prove you had a child with you, then you are telling porkies OP!

Brawling in public is not something I like to model for my children,

What do people who feel so entitled to P&C spaces do when they visit places without them?
I was at Peppa Pig World today and there wasn't a single P&C space (that I saw at least) and the spaces weren't huge. I assume most, if not all the cars parked had children in. What then?

Brawling!?

Pollyperky- perhaps he was Facebook friends with op and the driver so knew his facts.

Hmm. In these situations I try and weigh up any possible gain I could get from certain behaviours. Invariably I find it's not worth causing a scene.

Let's look at the gains/losses from this incident. Let me know if I've missed anything.

Gains
Satisfaction of letting off steam and reporting guy.

Losses
Raised blood pressure.
Made an enemy.
Might turn up on social media/DM recorded yelling in carpark.
Entertained some strangers in a carpark.
Upset your daughter.

Status quo
Guy, though he may be an inconsiderate so-and-so, has broken no laws and will continue to park as he likes in future anyway - so all effort wasted.

You started an MN thread about it. To be honest, I'm not sure if this should go in Losses or Gains.

Good on you op.

He would keep on doing it if no one stands up to him. People like that will just take take take.

I haven't got a child (currently 7 months pregnant) and wouldn't dream of parking in a m&b space, the audacity of him doing so when you were obviously waiting for it is even worse.

My local tescos actually puts out announcements on the speaker system when someone has reported someone doing this in the past.

There was a spate of a young girl who would park in one through her lunch break whilst her friend went in to buy stuff.

So she didn't even need the space as she could let her friend out of the car and then find a space if need be