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To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 21:10

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
Blush I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people Blushbut I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him Grin

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Sparklingbrook · 05/04/2017 22:21

I think they have to turn around and go home Billy. Sad

Crankycunt · 05/04/2017 22:22

Just seems like a lot of exaggeration and backtracking when being called out on saying that you caused a scene, flipped out and upset your oldest dd by your shouting.

I think someone may have parked in the last p&c space and you've played it out in your head as to what you wanted to do. And you've come on aibu embellished on your imagination and started a little bunfight.

BillyButtfuck · 05/04/2017 22:22

Sparkling Sad

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:22

I would have zero reasons to lie about this, I knew I would probably get slated, as that's the NM way, we live in a small town I have 2000+ 'friends' on fb that I just don't ever remove, so yes he is on there we went to school together, we still live in the same place, we aren't 'friends' but still share friend circles from a past life

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LineysRun · 05/04/2017 22:23

Maybe the staff pretended to write him a ticket, to cheer up the OP.

SuperBeagle · 05/04/2017 22:23

Maybe you just live in a feral area or know a lot of feral people then.

Sparklingbrook · 05/04/2017 22:24

as that's the NM way Shock

Doglikeafox · 05/04/2017 22:24

Today 21:55 sonyaya

many of whom have mentioned they don't have children... hmm

I know what a liberty these second class citizens having an opinion

Haha considering I don't have children myself I hardly think I meant that! I meant that you can hardly tell someone something it isn't a big deal without actually having experience getting children out of cars yourself. I'm a childminder and so do it myself several times a day, more than the average parent and so I wouldn't tell someone that a stressful aspect of child-free life is 'no big deal'.

skerrywind · 05/04/2017 22:25

You caused a scene, upset your child and behaved in an undignified and rude way in public OP.

msgrinch · 05/04/2017 22:25

Yabu. And they gave him a ticket... Course they did. Get over yourself! Those spaces are for anyone, yes aimed at parebts but not a right for parents who have cars too big to park in normal spots. Your poor child must have been mortified at your awful behaviour. You may see the driver as able bodied, how do you know? I look like an able bodied adult, I'm not. Apologise to your child for your shitty outburst

WhatsthatTicking · 05/04/2017 22:25

For me the satisfaction weighs more than the losses 👍

If everybody did the 'right thing' there wouldn't be an issue - to many do gooders that's the problem (oh go and find another parking space, I coped okay with my 10 children blah blah - well good for you!)

WhatsthatTicking · 05/04/2017 22:25

Too many

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:26

And I take that, I appreciate it wasn't the best way of going about it but not is getting angry and frustrated and not standing up to what you believe in

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Lulabell1979 · 05/04/2017 22:26

@BillyButtfuck Pippa Pig World car park somewhat more spacious than Tesco / Sainsbury's seriously !

skerrywind · 05/04/2017 22:26

I doubt very much whether this man will change his ways.

In fact he will posssibly double his efforts.

Chloe84 · 05/04/2017 22:27

People really hate to see a woman stand up for herself, it seems.

Sparklingbrook · 05/04/2017 22:27

How is shouting at people in car parks and upsetting your child in the process doing the right thing?

floraeasy · 05/04/2017 22:27

If you think you were right to behave as you did, OP, how do you square that with your daughter's upset and embarrassment? Is the message you will do this again if the opportunity arose? Can your daughter expect more of the same? Will you be teaching your daughter to do likewise even though she sounds like a more gentle soul? She will dread going out!

sonyaya · 05/04/2017 22:28

doglikeafox

I don't have children, but I do help care for my nephews and nieces so have been to shops with them (max 2 at a time). This suggestion that people without children are somehow less capable of understanding situations is frequently raised on MN.

msgrinch · 05/04/2017 22:28

My 1000 fb friends dont know about my hidden disability. At certain times I would need to be as close to the store as possible. More times than I did with a one year old!

Bodicea · 05/04/2017 22:28

The worst of mumsnet on this thread. You lot are a bunch of bullies at times! In real life people agree that parent and child spaces are for parent and children. On mumsnet people make twatty comments about the size of your car.

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 22:29

Best go and report my parenting to SS hadn't I!?
It seems I'm an awfully bad mother

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PossibiliTea · 05/04/2017 22:29

I don't have children (yet..?) and I would be pissed off if I were you OP

SuperBeagle · 05/04/2017 22:29

Keep on digging that hole, OP.

floraeasy · 05/04/2017 22:29

I doubt very much whether this man will change his ways. In fact he will posssibly double his efforts

This ^

My point (which I likely made badly) was nothing was ultimately achieved so I don't understand.

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