To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

[momma1701]

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people but I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him

WTF! Why are people telling you to get a smaller car, or asking what you normally do... the point here is that he was an inconsiderate nob who was doing something not only incredibly selfish and rude, but something he isn't actually supposed to according to the 'rules' of PARENT AND CHILD parking spaces.
Yes, not great to shout infront of your kid or be aggressive in any manner to a stranger, but I would have been equally pissed.
and those saying it's not a big deal, many of whom have mentioned they don't have children... it is a VERY big deal when you have very young children and have to squeeze into a tiny space because some arsehole is being a selfish twat.
I'm a childminder and regularly struggle to get all the children out of the car safely because of others. I deliberately plan my days out and trips according to how many children I have that day and how safe I think it will be. Therefore, I may choose to go to a specific place on a specific day because I know there will be P&C places. I'd be pretty miffed if my plans were ruined because of someone like this man.

I wonder about aibu sometimes.
People calling you rude. No he was rude for cutting up someone who needed the space more than him, for his sheer selfish, lazy and prickish self.
I wish I had your courage in my life op. To not let people walk all over you. Shame your child got upset yes, but again that was him. You stood up for yourself.
Yes let's just let people walk all over us and say nothing because that is the reasonable thing to do. Pffft.

Yabu and sound like a nightmare...all that over a bloody parking space. Nice example to show your kids as well.

If it was a retail park big enough for a warden, surely there would have been spaces further away (i.e. Not necessarily right in front of Sainsbury's)?

Oh look! Worraliberty did take a photo!

I'm still intrigued by the ticket.

Shame your child got upset yes, but again that was him.

Actually it was OP that 'flipped out' at him first.

I'm so confused by the replies?! The guy drove like a dick (cut up the op) he parked in a space he didn't need as much as the op, she calls him out on it, she walks away when he starts getting really shitty, he follows her when she tries to walk away... so she had a go at him as he was in the wrong yet all his wanker like behaviour is forgiven because she dared raise her voice? Unbelievable, OP well done, I'd have just muttered abuse at him under my breath so well done for standing up for yourself.

He's a twat and in need of finding some grit in his 'me first' decisions. Its good for him. Well done.

How many people are knocking about the carpark to be "clapping and cheering" for you?

What a load of fuss over nothing!

You have 2 kids. No biggie

I'm sure he was a bit of a twunt....but

You didn't raise your voice, though you flipped and 'lost your shit', to such an extent your DD was upset.

There were no other spaces in the whole 'retail park' but you then parked.

Everybody gave you a round of applause and cheered you for giving this guy what for.

You asked Sainsbury's on this small retail park to give this guy a ticket and they contacted the warden, who did just that (more applause at this point?).

YWBVU

I have 11mo twins and manage just fine getting them both out of their car seats/ getting their whole car seats out in a 'normal' space at my local Sainsbury's if needs be. It's not ideal but it's possible.

What an odd way to conduct yourself.

Sadly 'thefourthstooge' these are what you call 'bystanders' weak and ineffective sheep who compound problems by sucking up to bullies in the hope that a they will be the last sheep to be eaten, and b. if they ever get powerful sometimes their scaredycat weakness with be magically transported to power, if they pretend they are one of the powerful by not challenging arseholes.

They are the same people who would blame an immigrant for being surrounded and stabbed 'well he shouldn't have annoyed them'.

Just twats siding with a bigger twat out of massive personal weakness.

she calls him out on it, she walks away when he starts getting really shitty

According to the OP she 'flipped out' on him. A bit different to calling someone out. She deserved a shitty response.

It's a retail park with a Sainsbury's, a hill with steps down to a B&M and a McDonald's on the other side, privately owned land hence parking warden small segregated car parks for each outlet
And example to my daughter, well I hope she has courage when she's older and doesn't let people walk all over her!

The t g is its always the same inst it?
No one would ever had a go at a man if he raised his voice because of an twat incompetent driver.
But because the OP is a woman, she should never raise her voice, make a fuss etc.. Nope, please get back in your box, get a smaller car and stop complaining.
Because A man has decided to be a twat and that's OK, don't you know?

YANBU. MN is a strange place sometimes. Maybe it depends on how outraged you were, but I am all for calling people out when they act like selfish wankers like this bloke did. If we never say anything people just carry on doing what they like.

Fwiw OP I also feel the need to call out offenders who take the spaces unnecessarily. Usually by means of an exaggerated look of disgust/disbelief or occasionally to ask politely if they are collecting their child from inside the store in question. I've had people offer to move to which I tell them that no I can probably manage but maybe someone else would really need it, and then watch them wonder whether they still need to move or not they usually don't

How do people know the lad didn't 'need' the space as much as the OP He could have been headed into the store to collect his wife and three kids?

Assumptions.
I won't start on the one about him being able bodied because the OP knew him years ago.

Gosh, scary clown. What an over the top post. It's a parking spot...

And no the guy who behaved appallingly in the first place deserved a shiny response. Sorry.
But HE stared to behave badly, not the OP

I'm also extremely curious how you managed to park your large car in a space in which you say would barely fit a smart car?

Oh ffs green the replies would have been exactly the same if the person cutting up the op was a woman.