To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

[momma1701]

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people but I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him

I await flaming, but;

I haven't read the fucking thread.

I managed to shop by parking away from other cars when my two DC were small.

Nobody ever parks in the furthest away parts of the car park which is where I went.

I bundled one into the trolley seat and the other in the car seat and if I couldn't do that I just didn't do a big shop until DH/DM/DMIL/friend/anyone could do the childcare for the hour I needed to do a big shopping.
Failing that, if I didn't have the car, in those days Tesco etc. used to do deliveries after you had done your shopping in-store and I would use that facility.
And failing that I did "short-hop" shopping trips with the pram and bundled as much as I could into the storage bit underneath.

There were no P&C spaces in those days

Yep it's all sign posted hence the ticket!
Under 12's only with mother etc.
I am in no way ashamed of what I did, I was regretful that my daughter got upset, and that was only because he was swearing, she doesn't like swearing

The sign says only women with children? Could you be any more fibbing?

And when I was a child there was P&c spaces my mum always says how they where a god send so not sure how long ago your on about.,,

That's not how civil enforcement works, OP.

Sorry I ment parent with child under 12 not just mother, real fact

Anyway, hopefully your daughter will be fine.

Just a quick one I found..

My daughter is fine, like I said she didn't like the swearing that is all and seen as it wasn't me doing that, no lasting damage

But a parking charge notice is not a fine nor is it enforceable ...

OP it's Lent, just had the Priest round to do confession, so I can't really advise what I really think of you. Oh actually I can ❄️🌨☃️🌨❄️

Anyone who will go bat shit crazy in front of their children, I wouldn't be applauding, I would be concerned that DD is crying because she feels your wrath at home when you're sticking up for all these rights you have.

As for the MN are all horrid bullies assertion, you know that certain posts in AIBU wind people up. But seeing as you know this guy I would be more concerned about how people in your tiny town feel about you. I bet he's posted on FB about that crazy lunatic causing trouble in Sainsburys.

Just to pick apart your argument, he lives at home, yet is going shopping, now most people I know that live at home have their sustenance provided for them.

If you have issues in the future when shopping. Wait till DP gets home & go shopping without DC. Will make life easier on you. Or spend some time learning how to park properly.

For you, my ❄️ of the week so far, best wishes.

You were in the wrong OP, you upset your daughter. No one else to blame here.

As for your seven year old daughter only being upset at swearing as she doesn't like swearing (not raised voices, not aggressiveness etc) there are no words. It was not just the swearing.

I have previously stated this, about it not being enforceable or what ever
And op DO NOT come at with me with how I treat and speak to my kids, not even in the picture that you've just fabricated a lie about my home life with my kids!

Time for bed I think.

And op DO NOT come at with me with how I treat and speak to my kids

Stop upsetting your kids (and any others that happened to be about) by kicking off in car parks.

you explicitly stated in your OP that YOUR shouting upset your kid and you knew it, so don't pretend now that it was something else.

Is the general consenus:

1. P&C bays should not exist.
2. They should exist but be the furthest away from the shop.
3. Where there are P&C bays close to the shop people with children should not use them in case anyone in more need requires use of them?

I think you're right op! There's a reason there's mother and baby spots it's extremely difficult to get small DC safely into their prams without them. This man is an arsehole!

Nope more like

1. I'm a bad parent
2. I can't park
3. I'm the one in the wrong
4. I mentally abuse my kids

No one said the man wasn't an arsehole.
People did say that the OPs reaction was unreasonable, her story seems to have changed and her attitude on the thread is absurd too.

I've not been able to get my baby out of the car because there's not enough space in a parking space and because my car seat fits onto my pram I couldn't go into the shop. It was my fault though so I can't imagine how frustrated you must have been!

OP asks for her wee fairytale AIBU. She adds lots of extras to clutch at those victim straws, but overwhelmingly 80%+ say yes, OP, you were being not just unreasonable, but the special accolade, very unreasonable.

400 posts later, well you're all horrid and I accidentally said NM who all said the same thing, I was at fault. But bit NM & MN are wrong, I'm going to look up to see if we can further add to his misery of a fictional parking ticket & get him hanged in the market square. Then I'll be satisfied justice has been done.

It's funny OP as my DC are around people in public who shout and curse, they've never got upset, they've always said I'm glad Mummy & Daddy don't do that with us. (Fact!)

So if DC was getting upset even my children would be wondering why is that child getting upset. Not because of the man who took the space, but because of Mummy ranting and raving in public. It's embarrassing. Who started the confrontation? Who opened their mouth first, or did something confrontational? It wasn't the other driver was it OP?

All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people. LMAO at the idea of anyone being remotely interested in some woman's rant about a parking space let alone giving her a round of applause. Come on now, that bit eveniftherestistrue never really happened did it?

I haven't changed my story at all!
It's the same as the first post but I've added more details which I didn't mention at first??
He cut me up, he parked, I parked, I struggled, I said things, he said things, I reported him instore, they told the warden, he wrote him a ticket/penalty charge the end

The title of the thread...

AIBU to cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's carpark?