To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

[momma1701]

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people but I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him

You're an idiot OP

Ooh it could be a follow up to that movie Anger Management! Yer man needs another good role, not Adam Sandler, the really awesome dude!

I asked aibu I wanted answers to that, not to be told I'm mentally abusing my kids which is a total fabrication
FYI I wouldn't go around making random shit stories up about car park arguments I have a life and kids.
If I wanted to make one up I would've probably made up one that goes with the flow and wouldn't have people criticising my parenting, just a thought

Jack Nicholson... YES.

Here's apresent for you OP, I call it an olive branch of sorts. Your welcome

It's all about controlling anger.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/controlling-anger.aspx

Zilphas Is your life that miserable or are you that idiotic that you find enjoyment out of calling strangers names online?

Are you a bit of a twat?

Do you really think that's appropriate to assume things about people's mental health like it's a flippant thing! WOW
And that's the type of person you are!

I have had odd rant at people in my younger days, and tbh I always felt worse afterwards than before. So I don't bother now.

I don't understand this thread. It's like the modern day, adult, equivalent of playground bullying, a big 'pile on'.

If in, that real world that's out there, someone in real life that you knew - in real life - popped in for a cup of tea and told the same tale 9/10 people would likely say ' oh, what a twat!'. But in this, posters are just leaving there real life opinions to one side and jumping on the 'pile on OP wagon'.

To your credit OP I think you've defended yourself well. The man shouldn't have parked there, you maybe shouldn't have confronted him but as you're not perfect, like most of us, I see why you did.

• there/their. Pedant.

Thanks tufty
I know the situation wasn't ideal, yeah I've admitted to that

Nah but seriously OP, if you had Alice you'd accept that YABU. You'd be like oh I won't do it again.

All you've achieved in your little world is the driver has a fictional parking ticket. That if it does exist he's totally going to pay.

Others that know him will be a lot more pleasant about that. I can imagine his friends not being as constrained. After he's explained this rabid woman went mental at him, despite him having good reason to park there as he's a bad back.

Poor guy.

I think I fancy my epic sandwich again. We shop at M&S OP & Waitrose, never any parking issues there.

Zilphas Is your life that miserable or are you that idiotic that you find enjoyment out of calling strangers names online?

Which answer would make you happiest? Or do you not actually think it's either but just couldn't think of any other way to make a dig? Is there a reason you object to my calling the perpetrator of idiotic behaviour an idiot? Do you also like to accost strangers in Sainsbury's?

No it was a page that came up for managing anger. Don't shoot me if the NHS consider going crazy at people a mental health issue.

No I think it's quite disgusting you'd bring someone's mental health into something tbh!
Like I said shows the type of person you are, I might have had an argument on a car park but at least I don't take the piss out of mental illness

Before I go I'll be the first or one of the first to point out having a newborn causes stress.

It would be advisable to deal with anger in a more proactive way.

Bless you OP.

Why are people defending the man who parked, childless, in a space, provided (out of courtesy ....) for people who have children in the car.

I don't understand.

Clearly, since no-one IS defending him.

I definitely lose my shit much more when I'm in a low mood. It's like I have a hair trigger thing going on - that something that should be mildly annoying just seems like a hugely belittling experience. And then I feel even worse afterwards.

It was definitely more noticeable when the DCs were small.

Fuck sake who's taking the piss out of mental illness? Where has anyone done that?

Google Anger Management & see what pops up.

From a victim of severe domestic violence in a previous relationship you're welcome. From some one beaten black and blue, someone who feared for their life.

Might explain why I don't start ranting at random members of the public, making up stories that people applauded you. Most people would keep their noses out of other people's arguments. Not antagonise the situation more.

I don't go ranting at people in front of my kids so I definitely have the moral high ground.

Such a victim.

When you grow up, assuming you're not much older or younger than the driver, you'll find the suggested ways of dealing with anger flare ups helpful.

Get over yourself.

Russell Crowe is proper phwoar, I wouldn't say no!

No Fairy you get over yourself,you quite clearly was poking fun at mental illness. NOw your back tracking with your story, I think your the one who needs to grow up, age is a number that is all not a mental attitude my age is of no concern to you nor is your past life a concern to me
Good night

I parked in a p&c space the other day as there were none on the end of a row and I can't get out my car (at the minute) in a normal space. I wouldn't use a blue badge one so other than drive back and come back later that was my choice. It's not something I usually do but my back won't allow me to squeeze out a car door

Yanbu. I've also pointed out to people their lack of present children in toddler and parent spaces before now.

I was on your side till this
asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me)
How the fuck do you know there is nothing wrong with him??
I don't announce my conditions to all and sundry!
Don't care if you live in a small place, do you go to all your neighbours announcing your illnesses?
I also don't look as if i have anything wrong! ( also not ill enough to qualify for a blue badge).
I don't think you come across well in this story in front of your kids, nor are you coming across well on here
Oh and if i'd been given a ticket i'd have ripped up in front of you
They're a waste of papers and a complete waste of the shops time!