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AIBU?

Upset about critiscm of unborn child name.

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patronsaintofglocks · 05/04/2017 13:22

To cut a long story short,

I am pregnant with my first child and DP and I have chosen two names.

For a girl: Noah
(I understand that many people prefer the spelling Noa for a female but we don't.)

For a boy: Ezra

I am sick and tired of my family telling us to change our minds/names. It's getting me down and making me second guess myself.

Does anyone have any advice?

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amusedbush · 05/04/2017 13:37

Noah for a girl is terrible. Sorry.

jojo2916 · 05/04/2017 13:37

Don't call a boy a girls name you might think it's lovely but he might not my friend did this and my partner took her little boy and my daughter to the shop another little boy asked his name and he lied and said Jim and he was only five

Figgygal · 05/04/2017 13:37

If you're determined to call your child those names fine I don't see anything wrong with Ezra myself however if you are determined to call a potential daughter Noah you and she will be raising eyebrows for the rest of her life whether it has cultural significance to you or not why would you want that for her?

Impresionante · 05/04/2017 13:37

And I love Ezra!

CharliesSister · 05/04/2017 13:38

Call your baby what you would like, OP.

I personally think that choosing a name that you know will cause difficulty for the child is an odd choice to make, however. There was a thread here the other day by a woman who was convinced her life was failing because her name was so difficult for her, it seemed to be causing her quite a lot of trauma.

Children can be really cruel, and a girl with a name that is widely accepted to be a boy's name (or vice versa) is highly likely to subject to criticism from their peers. It's not right, but its probably going to happen.

I get fed up enough having to spell out my surname to people everytime it gets bought up.

Haffiana · 05/04/2017 13:39

The girl's version of the hebrew name Noah is Noa. It is a common girls name in Israel.

araiwa · 05/04/2017 13:41

choosing unusual names will obviously lead to comment and confusion from others.

if youre already annoyed by comments, imagine how your poor kid will feel for all of their life

cardibach · 05/04/2017 13:41

I'm surprised at the poster saying they only know Ezra for a girl - it's definitely a boy's name!

pinkie1982 · 05/04/2017 13:41

After this happening with my DS, I would never ever share a name again before the baby was born.

We had shared the girls name (didn't find out the sex) and MIL would say 'haven't you chosen a proper name for that baby yet?'. It really used to wind me up.
It took us a while to agree a boys name and we didn't share that one with anybody.

HouseworkIsASin10 · 05/04/2017 13:41

You will always get unwanted opinions when you say your intended baby name.

Don't mention it now until baby is here. If anybody makes a comment, just brush it off and change the subject.

It is much better to say the name when the baby is born, done deal.

LaundryQueenHatesBunfights · 05/04/2017 13:41

Sorry you're getting such a hard time for your name choices op, just wanted to say though that I love the name Noah or Noa for a girl, I think it sounds beautiful and actually quite feminine when I think about it.

VestalVirgin · 05/04/2017 13:42

Can someone explain to me, why, if Noa is okay for a girl, Noah is not? Are they pronounced differently?

If not, why would anyone who hasn't seen the name in writing (i.e. schoolchildren) bully her about Noah, but nut about Noa?

steppemum · 05/04/2017 13:42

yup, number chapter 27, daughters of Zelophehad were five sisters - Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah -

I know a Tirzah, and used to know a Milcah. Wikipedia for some reason spells it without the h, whereas my bible spells it with an h.

Now, Zelophehad is a name you don't hear much any more....

AbernathysFringe · 05/04/2017 13:42

I knew Noah was a girl's name too.
Like both your choices.
Stuff the critics. They'll get over it.

kali110 · 05/04/2017 13:42

I like the name ezra however i think if you use the name noah whatever spelling for a girl you may have to get used to it.
It is not well known for a girl.
I think your dd may spend her life correcting people.
I have an odd spelt name, that is bad enough.
If you're that stuck on it use it as a second name.

pinkie1982 · 05/04/2017 13:42

I like them both by the way :)

DS name is unusual (think surname) without being a stupid name.

Haffiana · 05/04/2017 13:43

The two names are pronounced differently - Noah (boys name) is pronounce No-akh. Noa (girls name) is pronounced the way we pronounce Noah in English, No-a. So it works, sort of!

Girlincognito1 · 05/04/2017 13:44

Looks like you've got your research on Noah wrong. You'd think people who are giving their child a name for life would research better! How scary!

What about Norah?

Mrs9C · 05/04/2017 13:44

Sorry, but it's a first baby rookie mistake. We've all done it! And following children's names never get shared until it's announced. It's a given they get criticised before hand.

imNew1985 · 05/04/2017 13:44

Noah as a girls name has become more popular recently but I think culturally people will still associate it with boys.

VestalVirgin · 05/04/2017 13:45

I'm surprised at the poster saying they only know Ezra for a girl - it's definitely a boy's name!

Me, too. The only reason why it could be a girls' name is because it ends with a, which is commonly thought to be a feminine ending.

It is all culture. I know a boy with a normal boy's name from a different culture, and people who hadn't met him always misspelt his name or assumed he was a girl because his name resembled a better-known girls' name.

There was zero bullying. To kids his age, it was a non-issue.

I don't think it is a big deal.

RatherBeRiding · 05/04/2017 13:45

Both names are lovely. Bit unusual to have Noah for a girl, but it's your choice.

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expatinscotland · 05/04/2017 13:47

Noah for a girl? Poor child! That's just ridiculous. No wonder you're getting it in the neck, it's a cruel thing to do to a child.

That said, there have been several eejits on here asking if Ezra is a good name for a girl.

Whatever next, calling them Legion or Abadon?

MitzyLeFrouf · 05/04/2017 13:48

yup, number chapter 27, daughters of Zelophehad were five sisters - Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah

Poor old Hoglah. What an ugly name.

eurochick · 05/04/2017 13:49

Are you in UK? Noah is a boy's name here so you are going to run into this time and again. Nicola is a boy's name in Italy but a girl's name here. I don't know if any Italians based in the uk who have called their boy Nicola, but I know of loads in Italy. I think you have to take account of the norms where you will bring the child up.

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