Upset about critiscm of unborn child name.

[patronsaintofglocks]

To cut a long story short,

I am pregnant with my first child and DP and I have chosen two names.

For a girl: Noah
(I understand that many people prefer the spelling Noa for a female but we don't.)

For a boy: Ezra

I am sick and tired of my family telling us to change our minds/names. It's getting me down and making me second guess myself.

Does anyone have any advice?

[SapphireStrange]

Tell them to butt out.

Ignore those on here criticising Noah too; it's your business, no one else's.

[MsRinky]

I won't pile in on the Noah front.

I couldn't use Ezra. I know it's a Jewish name, but the first Ezra I think of is notorious fascist and anti-semite Ezra Pound.

[MitzyLeFrouf]

I quite like Enda (Irish name) because it ends in a. Less ecclesiastical than Ezra too

Forever sullied by Enda Kenny. See also, Bertie. And Charlie.

[NoArmaniNoPunani]

I grew up with a girl called Noa so I think of it more as a girl's name. It's just what you get used to.
Ezra is a lovely name

[CosyCoupe88]

As long as your happy fo your daughter ti get a long old period of teasing in chilhood and then lots of "huh?" Attitude from adults when older. .. then go ahead. Call your boy it and call your girl Elsa! Haha

[Floggingmolly]

"Getting annoyed" when people assume you're male when you have a male name (especially one like Gabriel) is a bit bloody dim, isn't it?
Why would anyone assume otherwise?

[BertrandRussell]

God, I wish people didn't regard naming children as a vanity project!

It's not about you! It's about the child who will spend her life with people expecting her to be a boy/man, with comments about "parents wanted a boy, then, did they?" with other kids saying "why have you got a boy's name?"..............

[HeteronormativeHaybales]

'everybody nowadays is so busy using the birth of their first child to show the world how they interpret the world'

Spot on.

There are so many names available that there's plenty of room for creativity and originality without making things difficult for your future child. You don't have to call them Isla and Jack (just to pick two very popular names, not to criticise them), but it is worth thinking about what it will be like for that child to have a certain name.

[MamaHanji]

I actually really like Noah for a girl. Tell them to stick it.

[LoupGarou]

but the first Ezra I think of is notorious fascist and anti-semite Ezra Pound.

Yes, likewise.

[Biscuitsneeded]

DS has a female Israeli friend called Noga (or that may be the English spelling of it, anyway). Might that be an option?

[MycatsaPirate]

I'm going to go against the grain here and say both names are lovely.

I actually knew a girl called Noah and it really suited her. It's a pretty name.

Stick to your guns.

[CountessOfStrathearn]

Love both names and both were even on our short lists, but I also never tell people the names until the baby comes!

[seafoodeatit]

This is why we've not shared the name with DC2 and DC3, if you share then people will see it as an invite to give their opinions. I've never heard of it as a girls name and suspect many others won't either so I think getting asked why you chose a boys name will be recurring theme.

[grannytomine]

In my experience people get over it and forget they didn't like the name. Choose the name you like and ignore everyone with an opinion.

[mummymeister]

I do tend to think that when you name a child, you are doing it for them rather than for you. so you need to bear in mind that an unusual spelling or an unusual name could actually become an issue for them as they get older.

its entirely up to you what you do and I wouldn't listen to any other family members and their views. but I would just take a minute to think about your female child constantly having to spell their name and having to change labels from Mr to Ms.

my name is very definitely a mans name and I have had this all of my life, even going to interviews and being called in as Mr ... I wish when I was a younger I had used my middle name instead.

[seven201]

I think if you're going Noah for a girl it really must be Noa. Even the example definition thing you have said both spelling were fine so why not go with the one that is now known as the feminine one. I personally wouldn't do it as I'd be worried about bullies in the future. They're both lovely names. We didn't tell our names until after the birth so people couldn't object.

[Platimum]

lol Mitzy. so many good names trashed by a shower of gombeens.

[user1489261248]

To be fair, Noah for a girl (or Noa) isn't AWFUL. I mean there are worse 'usually a boys name' to call a girl. Like Dave, Bryan, Leonard! And it's ok, but she will be asked by many, why she has a boy's name OP. And also, you will be asked why your daughter has a boy's name. Sorry, but that is how it is... (and will be.)

Depends how much it bothers you, and if you are OK with your daughter forever being asked why she has a boy's name, and you being asked why you called your daughter a boy's name.

Weirdly though, when I discovered MILEY CYRUS had a sister called Noah, I did not think 'that's a boy's name!' I did think 'that's unusual,' but not 'that's a boy's name!' But then famous folk do call their kids unusual names. I mean Miley Cyrus's real name is Destiny! Famous folk can carry off 'unusual' though. Normal folk can't sorry.

So it's your call OP, but I'm afraid people will forever ask why you called her a boy's name!

[HappyFlappy]

What about, Michal?

I've always thought that was a lovely name for a girl.

[mummymeister]

spot on Bertrand you beat me to it and were a bit blunter than me!

[puddingpen]

I think Noah is a lovely gender neutral name! Noah is a much better transliteration of the Hebrew girls' name than Noa in my opinion. Noah the boys' name comes Hebrew Noch or something like that.

Ezra is a lovely name too.

Ignore everyone and next time don't tell anyone your ideas until the baby is named and it's a done deal!!

[Asuitablemum]

I like the sound Noah for a girl but I think the problem is that it is currently soooo popular for boys. If it was a less common name it would be easier to get away with.

[Vegansnake]

Now you are going to get more comments on your name choice..why not just keep quiet till baby is here then tell people the name..no need for any drama

[purplecoathanger]

It's your business and no one else's. However, if you choose a weird name like Noah for a girl, then grow a very thick skin and order one for your child.