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Upset about critiscm of unborn child name.

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patronsaintofglocks · 05/04/2017 13:22

To cut a long story short,

I am pregnant with my first child and DP and I have chosen two names.

For a girl: Noah
(I understand that many people prefer the spelling Noa for a female but we don't.)

For a boy: Ezra

I am sick and tired of my family telling us to change our minds/names. It's getting me down and making me second guess myself.

Does anyone have any advice?

OP posts:
Deadsouls · 05/04/2017 20:30

Although OP did not ask for opinions on the names. Just how to deal with family/friend's reactions.

SingingSilver · 05/04/2017 20:31

Who the flippin eck is Blake Livesly, some American "star" who will be unheard of in a few years so we'll all call our kids after his!!!!

It's Blake Lively, a female TV/film star. Are you unable to access a search engine from your device?

Deadsouls · 05/04/2017 20:31

FWIW my son has an unusual name. Parents very unhappy about it. But actually it's totally fine! He just is who he is and suits his name

SingingSilver · 05/04/2017 20:32

And I used to work with a man named Tracey...

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 05/04/2017 20:33

Orange exactly! My name is also far more unusual than Noah for a girl and I was never teased for it!
The op didn't ask for advice about the name she asked for advice on how to deal with people that are being rude about the names she has already chosen.
It seems that the people who lack imagination also can't read the op properly Confused

Floggingmolly · 05/04/2017 20:34

Butterfly Hmm. Someone should have taken you quietly aside and had a word in your ear.

Beeziekn33ze · 05/04/2017 20:42

OP, do t tell anyone else and change the subject with anyone who wants to discuss/criticise the names YOU have chicest for YOUR expected child. 💐

Screwinthetuna · 05/04/2017 20:44

People will have opinions on those, same as if you were calling a girl Paul and a boy Betty. Could you not switch them around?
I'd be concerned that Noah would always be presumed to be a male. Ezra is very feminine too.
Not much help, sorry, but I can see why family wouldn't like their new family members being called that

kierenthecommunity · 05/04/2017 20:45

What on earth could Butterfly be shortened to as a teen? Nothing great Shock

Willyoujustbequiet · 05/04/2017 20:49

Sorry OP but Noah for a girl is setting your child up to be the object of ridicule.

Why would you want to do that to them? Confused

Ezra is lovely.

AnoiseAnnoysanOyster · 05/04/2017 20:49

Butterfly? Really? I bet no one has said anything, to your face...

And Butt as a shortening maybe? Hmm

goodpiemissedthechips · 05/04/2017 20:53

What on earth could Butterfly be shortened to as a teen? Nothing great

The singer Butterfly Boucher complained that her sisters used to call her Butt Grin

Arkhamasylum · 05/04/2017 20:54

Ezra is a boy's name. It's not in the least feminine. Hmm

DrinkMilkAndKickAss · 05/04/2017 20:54

I haven't RTFT but I think the problems you'll encounter aren't a reflection of the legitimacy of Noah as a girls name but more the trendiness of Noah as a boys name. I'm baffled at Ezra raising eyebrows, I thought it was pretty popular now based on MN! So perhaps the point I'm trying to make is that people's criticisms of Noah may not be completely unfounded as they are with Ezra - if Noah wasn't one of the most popular boys names in the country I'd say go for it, but as it is it might just be quite confusing. Noa might just be all round simpler.

user1489261248 · 05/04/2017 20:56

Also, as I said, Butterfly is not a name you could use as a professional either.

I used to know a girl called 'Moonshine' (in the 1990's,) and she changed her name to Maria when she was 18.

I also knew 3 women on the estate I used to live near with daughters called

Blossom
Chastity
Fragrance
Jaydarna
Pumpkin

I shit you not.

Unsurprisingly, none of the above have high flying professional careers. Wink

kierenthecommunity · 05/04/2017 21:00

Pumpkin? That's a cat's name at best Shock

goose1964 · 05/04/2017 21:00

DDs best friend has a son called Ezra soIm used to it,. Having been to school with a boy with a name that is usually used as a girl's name(but can be a male name too) I can forward problems at school later, like being put with boys for sports

Floggingmolly · 05/04/2017 21:01

Pmsl laughing at Pumpkin! Just why would you?

goose1964 · 05/04/2017 21:03

By the way Mandy as in Patankin ( or howeveryou spell it) is short for Armando

llangennith · 05/04/2017 21:05

Hope it's not a girl OP.
Love the name...for a boy.
You can produce all the evidence you like to the contrary but it's a boy's name.

TiggyD · 05/04/2017 21:14

My advice would be to give your possible daughter a name that would not cause them to have a difficult life. Cultural? I dare say it is. So is the name Dikshit, but I'd advise against that too.

Ezra is not common but recognisably a name.

TiggyD · 05/04/2017 21:15

Should have mentioned I quite like Ezra.

Drivemetofolkestone · 05/04/2017 21:15

I feel your pain, floraeasy - and everyone's who has suffered! But all my sisters had really pretty, normal names; I was the only afflicted one

Floggingmolly · 05/04/2017 21:16

Dikshit Shock. Pumpkin's not looking so bad all of a sudden.

alltouchedout · 05/04/2017 21:29

It's crap but kids do get bullied over things like this. And a lifetime of explaining and spelling out a name is likely to be very annoying.
I don't understand why using the h is so very much more important than avoiding unnecessary difficulties for your child tbh.

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