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Am I the only one who loves a proper formal wedding?

112 replies

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:38

Dress up, watch the ceremony, drink and dance and chat. Maybe even have your photo taken?
It seems fashionable now to call them stuffy and hate them.

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StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:42

I need a family member to get married, been ages since I've been to a wedding

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bananacake1 · 03/04/2017 17:43

I like them too. Even the speeches, the wedding cake and watching the first dance (as long as they don't try to do a choreographed dance). But I am not under 30 so maybe I am just old fashioned

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:45

Oh yes the speeches are usually entertaining. :)
And as a vegetarian I get on so much better with traditional wedding dinners than hog roast or fish and chips - there are so many people with dietary requirements these days I genuinely don't understand why these 'one size fits all' meals are so popular

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moonlight1705 · 03/04/2017 17:45

My DP and I are having what you describe as a proper wedding in August...can't wait for the whole lovely day.

Photographer, sit down meal, disco and hog roast! Grin

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:46

Oops Blush

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StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:46

You are forgiven if you have a proper wedding cake though

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FoofFighter · 03/04/2017 17:47

No. It's boring when everything is so predictable, and you've been to many many many replications over the years.

But then, I guess that if everyone had an "original" wedding, they'd pretty soon become the norm too. Meh.

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:47

And congratulations :o can I come?

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FoofFighter · 03/04/2017 17:47

Yes, agree hog roasts are not trad! mmmm crackling

moonlight1705 · 03/04/2017 17:48

My mum is currently making the four tier fruit wedding cake. Here was her go at it for Christmas

Am I the only one who loves a proper formal wedding?
StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:48

But soaps are boring and repetitive and people watch them religiously twenty times a week. At best i went to two or three weddings a year

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StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:49

Woe! Gorgeous and very traditional :)
I'm not keen on fruit cake. But not really liking it is part of the tradition for me :o

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moonlight1705 · 03/04/2017 17:49

Hog roast is just for those who feel peckish in the evening....honest there will be a proper meal Smile

Mermaidinthesea123 · 03/04/2017 17:49

i loathe all kinds of weddings and rarely go. I expect two failed marriages have soured it for me.

SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 03/04/2017 17:50

I love a good wedding. I've hit the stage where everyone is married off now Sad

MulderitsmeX · 03/04/2017 17:50

I love them!! Im so sad I have none to go to this year, family weddings are great too!!

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 17:52

Ah ok. Hog roast allowed then.
I amseriously thinking about signing up to some sort if website for rent a friend. Everyone hates these weddings yet there are loads of them - I bet there's a market for enthusiastic guests

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Birdsgottaf1y · 03/04/2017 17:53

I love a proper Wedding, complete with hats/fascinators.

I don't go out much now and enjoy having a reason for an Updo and formal dress/makeup.

Birdsgottaf1y · 03/04/2017 17:54

""i loathe all kinds of weddings and rarely go. I expect two failed marriages have soured it for me.""

Just disassociate Weddings from Marriage.

Crunchyside · 03/04/2017 17:56

FoofFighter I feel like "original" weddings are the norm now and fully traditional ones are more unusual (depending on your definition of traditional). There are definitely trends, mostly the sort of stuff you see on Pinterest. Photo booths for example used to be quirky but now very common.

Most people do try to add some "unique" elements to their wedding these days e.g. cream van, trees/bowls/photo booths/artwork etc instead of traditional guest books. A lot of people don't do the traditional first dance anymore and it's often a case of everyone joining in after the first chorus or first 30 seconds! A lot of people have their own music to walk down the aisle instead of traditional wedding march, and people dont get married in churches as much... The list goes on. Even seemingly conventional weddings are not as traditional as they used to be.

Im 27 and I haven't attended a properly traditional wedding since I was about 12! All the weddings I've been to as an adult have been fairly unique/quirky/modern.

Mermaidinthesea123 · 03/04/2017 17:56

Mmm not sure about that Birds, still the free food and booze is ok Grin

Goldfishjane · 03/04/2017 17:56

Well given that so many people have them....I dunno.

To me a traditional wedding like that is several hours long and that's the problem. and unless you are practically their best mate, the speeches are dull as ditchwater. I'm also veggie but haven't ever been invited to a non traditional one. Well, I've been to two that weren't stuffy and posh but they had good choice of food.

expatinscotland · 03/04/2017 17:58

I find 'formal' weddings, why are they more 'proper' than any other wedding?, a total drag and beyond boring.

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 18:02

Good point about use of the word 'proper'.
Goldfish, what would you prefer to do with your several hours,? I enjoy socialising.

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StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2017 18:02

Rarely do it so enjoy it when I do.

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