Am I the only one who loves a proper formal wedding?

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Dress up, watch the ceremony, drink and dance and chat. Maybe even have your photo taken?
It seems fashionable now to call them stuffy and hate them.

The thing about the big white wedding in a fancy church or hall with a full sit down dinner etc is that it's bloody expensive

personally i rather think the shift in trends is because most young people theses days don't want to spend £££££s on a keeping up with the jonses ostentatious affair even if they can afford it - and most of them can't

Massive castle wedding planned here. In fact two castles - one for the wedding and a different one for the reception! Huge poofy dress.

However, no sit down dinner due to family politics, so large buffet instead.

No wedding cake as I can't stand the stuff. Cheese instead.

Speech by my father under (my) protest. First dance if we can ever come up with a song.

Does this pass muster? 😂

And the budget is under £5k for everything.

I like a proper asian wedding where you stick your bling on and eat shed loads of curry. But now those too are being infiltrated by this 'we must be unique' feeling. There are photobooths, speeches, dessert carts or desserts that are a trio of this n that.

I don't like formal weddings really and internally groan when invited to one. I have two to attend this year and it's the same every time standing around for ages, getting Called here there everywhere for photos and just so repetitive. However each to their own and if that's what the couple wants then that is fair enough. For me I couldn't imagine doing that I'm getting married in June in Greece just me & my dp!

I wil admit to finding them a complete bore, the day goes on interminably - and so expensive!

Good friends of ours got married in Jan. For some reason, I totted up the cost - including the hen and stag weekends, both our outfits, the hotel at the wedding venue and the gift of cash - it cost us £1200 .

I love weddings. I hardly ever get invited to them though.

I like them, but I like other kinds of wedding too.

I don't mind a formal wedding as long as there's enough to eat. I love to wear a hat.
I don't know that a trad wedding has to be expensive.
IF I get married, I think I want this:
Afternoon ceremony in nearby village church, or if dp puts his atheist foot down, registry office. Then knees up at village hall accross the road, with nice flowers,proper food, cheesy mobile disco, chucking the bouqet and PROPER wedding cake (with white creamy stuff not royal icing).
No photo booths, homemade crafts, hog roast (sorry but bleee!)or ceilidh (I'm English I want Gloria Estefan not pretend Celtic diddly diddly music.
Oh, and I demand that my 3 best friends wear poufy bridesmaids dresses. In seafoam. Or peach.

I find it such a shame. I hoped people were having fun at my wedding. If they were all miserable inside but faking it I wish they hadn't bothered.

I find traditional weddings just so long, we are getting married at 4pm in the grounds of a little country hotel. We have caved to pressure and invited parents and siblings only and there will be a formal sit down dinner, and we have paid extra so they can pick from several choices after photos and then just chat etc. No disco, no first dance. The kids can run around and bash each other with balloons and stuff. Cake is coming from m&s and has 4 flavours so hopefully everyone finds something they like. I'm hoping to be tucked up in bed by 11.30!
That being said I haven't been to a wedding in ages and always love a reason to glam up and wear a hat.

I hate photobooths!

Aren't they just there? You either use them or not?
Or do they replace the photographer so there is an expectation you use it?

I like them (I'm 29). I like dressing up, the ceremony, the cake cutting... the everything! (Unless the music is awful).

I'm doing a traditional church wedding this August. The first of all my friends and family so hopefully they won't be too jaded at the idea of it. I am excited. MN hates a big wedding though, and I've found I'm in the minority for having one.

No disco Mamabear? Whhhyyy???

I love weddings too. All my friends are old and married, so I haven't been to one for ages.

I love a works Christmas do as well.

Yes there's a similar attitude to work Christmas dos. So why are they so popular?

I hate weddings. Like a pp I'm often at weddings where I only know a couple of people

so it's essentially a day of making painful small talk while hoping the food comes soon. Everyone I know seems to love them though, it's only on MN I've ever come across other wedding haters.

I like a traditional wedding. And dressing up and hats and cake.
It has its traditions, like Christmas. You look forward to it because you are anticipating certain things, and have lots of memories from the past re weddings.

The worst are those reception when I get back from marrying abroad dos. There is no event or focus. no Excitement. We've been invited to one this summer. I really don't think I can be bothered to go.
It's a bit like being invited to a Christmas party in January, when you are on a diet. (That ship has sailed)

I don't think of myself as having good social skills (worse than most) and yet I tend to find I can make and enjoy small talk fine at weddings etc. You are bring fed watered and entertained. Do agree it's good when you know people.

There will be less than 30 of us and most of those aren't the dancing type, so I would be paying a dj to talk to himself! I might have some background music if I let the teenage son and nephew loose with their iPods.

IfNotNow - Gloria Estefan? To entice the non-dancers with "rhythm is gonna get you"?

OP I had a terrible long boring day at two close friends weddings. That's just the way it is. I refused to bridesmaid though so there was no way I wasn't going to be at the whole day smiling.

The one with no food for 6 hours and a2 hour receiving line was actually 13 hours by the time I got back to the hotel. Luckily I had a mate working graveyard shift so I called her to rant.

To add insult to the day, the groom began a affair almost the day he got back from honeymoon, is a terrible father to their DC and now I mostly want to punch his lights out.(they are divorced)
And the kids like to spend time with Aunty Goldfish so I have to keep my trap shut till they're old enough to reject him.

For this I endured the longest hungriest dullest wedding ever. My friend lost her mind. She nearly didn't have a hen do because she was so rude to the bridesmaids.

Sorry I'm just ranting now.

Oh I hate barn dance and ceildih as well.

I had a big white wedding with a cathedral ceremony (I am religious) in the country we lived in at the time, and the cathedral was the one I attended, with the ceremony performed by the bishop who is a good friend of mine. We had lots of complaints about the length of the ceremony. I did tell all of the guests that the ceremony would be long, and that if they wanted to come afterwards we wouldn't mind at all but everyone came and then complained, even DH was fidgeting .

I find them dull! Fine if it's your own as you know everybody - I don't like all the pomp!