To think DP is being ridiculous

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We have completely different ways of parenting which causes issues anyway but this situation is really bugging me!

DP has 3 teens that all go to the same school, they bicker and wind each other up, as kids do. Instead of dealing with the way they behave he takes one on her own and then comes back and takes the other two, it makes the mornings chaotic, rushed and wastes petrol.

I half jokingly said I would post here and I bet no one else would put up with their children wanting separate lifts to the same school - he thinks plenty of people do it!

I wish he'd start being the parent for once instead of picking the 'easy' option of letting them have their own way, it's just going to get worse as they get older :(

AIBU to think he should just tell them to behave themselves, treat each other with respect or walk/bus to school instead of pandering to them?

my teens will be lucky to get even one lift to school, en masse! Wow! Mind you, is he usually this nice? He must be a nice person if his solution to everything is to make his own life much harder!

If there are buses available then all of the teenagers, including yours, should be using them.

If his 3 went at the same time, it may well be cheaper than the bus fares.

How are you even in a relationship with such a spineless amoeba? How can you have any respect for him?

I took mine this morning, got back in plenty of time for him to do his 2 runs, I'm not into game playing. I drive mine because there isn't a bus so I drop him about half a mile away from school and he walks the rest. One of his was ill (although well enough to be up playing computer games until 2am) and didn't go to school anyway so he managed to do just one run.
There are many other problems with our relationship tbh and I'm really considering my options.

If they couldn't get on just for the time it took to get to school they'd be walking.
wtf is he doing giving them a lift in the first place, they are old enough to get a bus, cycle, or walk. Talk about babying your teens.
What a plonker.

If he isn't asking you to do it it's his business really.
Utter madness though

It's insane!

This is absolutely lunatic.

OP reading your last post I did wonder if this is a part of bigger issues. Sounds like a step back and rethink is needed. I agree with PPs and you that the lifts thing is utterly ridiculous, pandering like that. It's teaching them that it's ok to not even try to be civil to other people!

He should care more about the relationship his three kids have with each other. He needs to help them find ways to get one. No facilitate distance

2 miles- mine have to walk that except on music/cookery days.

Ha ha. What a great dad/catch.

How he parents his own kids is his choice, even if it is an odd one that I don't think I would do. However you haven't said what went on for this new arrangement to happen and no one can really judge unless they know.

If they live together it's not just impacting on him and his kids but on his relationship with the op and her relationship with her kids and the whole family dynamic. How long until her dcs expect the same treatment or notice what a walk over he is.

I'd tell him if he can't do the one trip and get his kids to sort it out he can't use your car. It will add unnecessary mileage (albeit small) and costs and what does he expect will happen in a few short years when his kids are adults and can't get on with one another?

That. Is. Bananas.

Let teenagers walk to school or take the bus. I honestly don't know anybody who takes their teenagers to school by car, unless the school is near their workplace anyway, so they can drop off above mentioned teenager on the way to work.