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... for those who are devastated about Brexit, how are you dealing with the fear and depression and anxiety?

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testytesting · 29/03/2017 09:58

Has anyone got any strategies? I am genuinely not one for melodrama, but I am devastated, angry, terrified, depressed, and I feel so utterly helpless. Nothing in my lifetime has made me feel like this, and I just can't imagine feeling like this for the next two years and beyond. I can hardly bear to listen to the news, but I feel compelled to anyway. How are other remainers dealing with this, what are your coping strategies? And what, if anything, can we DO?

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Doyouwantabrew · 31/03/2017 08:00

elvira

People do make change especially if they have been flamed or in a minority so posters posting regarding Brexit or indeed trump may just have done that rather than gosdy fuckers. People do have different views and do name change. Hmm

The thread hadn't been derailed. She stated how should she cope with fear depression and anxiety regarding Brexit! Not a bereavement or a mental illness but Brexit.

That to me is unreasonable at best self indulgent and at worse attention seeking and daft.

fakenamefornow · 31/03/2017 08:01

powderGreen

I don't blame you wanting to leave. I have looked at every option to try to move my family as well. Unfortunately we only have British passports and so the doors of Europe are closing for us, I don't have the confidence that we would be allowed to stay if we moved now and neither of us are very high skilled so couldn't get a job and immigration status outside of the EU. Maybe I'll have another look at our options.

Doyouwantabrew · 31/03/2017 08:03

And of course no one in a job and paying taxes will be deported. That would make no economic sense either here or in Europe.

Again just like the emergency budge snd the stock market collapse didn't happen.

RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 31/03/2017 08:04

at best self indulgent and at worse attention seeking and daft.

Then you obviously dont know much about depression and anxiety

Doyouwantabrew · 31/03/2017 08:05

fake coukd I ask you why you want to leave and where you think will offer you a better quality of life?

Doyouwantabrew · 31/03/2017 08:07

rufus no you are quite wrong. I do and that's why someone coming on and saying Brexit has caused this makes me want to scream. Try sitting up with my dd who has ptsd after watching her teacher die. Her friends injured and herself badly hurt.

Ffs nothing has happened yet.

muttrat · 31/03/2017 08:19

Christ in a bike.

How my grandparents survived two world wars I'll never know.

itsmine · 31/03/2017 08:21

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RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 31/03/2017 08:23

Quite agree doyou

But then you obviously know that all sorts of things can trigger both depression and anxiety

Both earth shattering events that you daughter is going through [thank]

And what might seem pathetic to outsiders but is causing a great deal of anguish to the sufferers

derxa · 31/03/2017 08:23

"For my part I will be brushing up my German and going out to Angela Merkel's countrymen and women to try and apologise for my misguided country."
This reminds me of the Harry Enfield sketch

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TheNaze73 · 31/03/2017 08:31

We haven't seen anything yet. We definitely needed a referendum, once & for all, I'm still shocked by the result. So many people of the "im not rascist but...." persuasion have got their way & have really fucked it up for the next generation. I hope they're proud.
In answer to your question, badly.

RufusTheRenegadeReindeer · 31/03/2017 08:41

Oh goodness brew

That was supposed to be Thanks

Sorry

fakenamefornow · 31/03/2017 09:01

Maybe try America, lovely and settled over there at the moment

I wish we had Canada as an option, but sadly not, we wouldn't meet the criteria. Germany or Scandinavia would be good. Also I would really, really love to live in the Alps, we did have plans to retire to the French Alps sadly I think that won't be possible anymore. We would have had enough money as EU passport holders but we won't have enough as non EU members, we wouldn't be able to afford stuff like health insurance. We did think Ireland might be a viable option because reciprocal residency rights predate EU membership we thought they'd be the least likely country to boot us out, post 2019. Maybe we should have another look at that and take a trip to Dublin. There's just so much uncertainty about whether we'd be able to stay after Brexit though, even with the uncertainty I think we'd stand a better chance of being allowed to stay in Ireland if we move before 2019.

brickinitIam · 31/03/2017 11:03

Christ in a bike.
How my grandparents survived two world wars I'll never know.

I know. It's embarrassing. Hmm

brickinitIam · 31/03/2017 11:05

My family and I are preparing to leave the UK. There is no hope left I am afraid. For those of us married to foreigners or who are foreigners, this country is just not the place to be right now.

I think you're being ridiculous.
Nowhere has it said that people already living here have to leave the country.

And was it really necessary to post it 5 times? Hmm

hackmum · 31/03/2017 11:12

As Rudyard Kipling didn't quite say: If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs, you probably haven't grasped the full enormity of the situation.

Bluesrunthegame · 31/03/2017 11:19

I'm dealing with my sense of fear and anxiety by doing things in the garden. I'm also reading as much as I can, but at the same time, not listening to the news on Radio 4 as it makes me feel worse. The World Service news seems less upsetting, mainly, I think, because it has a global feel so puts my worries into perspective!

I'm investigating an Irish passport and am keeping an eye out for info about the European citizenship thing that might be available in the future.

But very very sad that this has come to pass.

muttrat · 31/03/2017 11:38

Why do you want an Irish passport?

We will still be able to travel to Europe you know Confused

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brickinitIam · 31/03/2017 12:09

As Rudyard Kipling didn't quite say: If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs, you probably haven't grasped the full enormity of the situation:

OOh I do love a good poem or quote or two:
Not in the same league as a bastardized version of Rudyard K, but how's this?

F.E.A.R has two meanings

Forget Everything And Run
or
Face Everything And Rise

or

The world hates change
But that is the only thing that's brought progress.

Now you got me googling quotes.
Shame on you.

SeekEveryEveryKnownHidingPlace · 31/03/2017 12:12

Voting to leave the EU wasn't obviously a vote for change, though. There was fear of change in it ('what if there's an EU army!'), and there was resentment at change ('I want my country back') and there were assurances that nothing would change ('I hardly think everyone is going to stop wanting to trade with us).

It was regressive, not a step forward. Things will, of course, change now though.

brickinitIam · 31/03/2017 12:43

There was fear of change in it ('what if there's an EU army!')

I have never thought that and nobody I know has ever thought that.
I think your imagination is running away with you.

It was regressive, not a step forward.

Once again, your opinion and a pessimistic way of looking at things.

Bluesrunthegame · 31/03/2017 12:45

I'm considering an Irish passport because I may want to do more than visit Europe, it is possible I'll want to live and work there in the future. I might want to do this easily, no applying for visas or work permits.

brickinitIam · 31/03/2017 12:47

I'm dealing with my sense of fear and anxiety by doing things in the garden. I'm also reading as much as I can, but at the same time, not listening to the news on Radio 4 as it makes me feel worse.

How do you think people coped in London and other major cities during WW2? Confused

Bombs flying around every night, having to evacuate their children to the country.
That's real not imagined worry.

I know it's been said before, but seriously people Get A Fucking Grip.