To be fed up reading this on every Mother's Day thread?

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Rufus I know right?

YANBU

Its like a greek tragedy flump

I'm not undervaluing myself by not wanting crumbs in the bed on mothers' day (I hate breakfast in bed). I just don't see it as an important day. Maybe it's because my husband is good around the house and I'm not that in to housework anyway and Sundays are often spent doing sporting stuff that I just really don't get some women wanting a whole day special treatment thing.
My daughter got me a card, my son sent me a facebook message that was fine. The rest of the day was as normal. My husband was working for a lot of the day.
Having a strop because your card and present weren't enough like Playmobil sounds odd to me.
I suspect many of the women who moan about their husbands not doing enough on mothers' day have lazy bastard husbands though and it's not really about mothers' day at all.

I just don't see it as an important day.

Which is fair enough, you are entitled to feel that. Sadly, a number of posters morph into absolute cunts and post really quite unpleasant vitriol when a poster may be feeling a bit down or neglected.

But some people don't even get a card 2rebecca. I don't think they should feel bad for feeling sad about it.

Would it be ok for a dp not to bother helping the kids at christmas or on a birthday just because he was good at everything else? Because I guarantee if someone posted their dh didn't bother but he's normally so good half of mumsnet would be saying well that can't possibly be true because if he was so great he would have sorted something! Double standards at its best.

If your DP came home on a random Tuesday in July with a bunch of flowers or some wine, just to say "thanks" for everything you do for him and your children, would that be pointless too

No, it would be really nice, because Clinton Cards hadn't told him to do it because it was Mother's Day. It would be nice if it didn't have to be Mother's Day for someone to show their appreciation of their mum/other half (and same goes for Father's Day).

Yes I do think it's nice to buy someone something just because.

No, it would be really nice, because Clinton Cards hadn't told him to do it because it was Mother's Day. It would be nice if it didn't have to be Mother's Day for someone to show their appreciation of their mum/other half (and same goes for Father's Day).*

So Christmas gifts, Birthday gifts etc are pointless too? Gifts and tokens of appreciation only mean something if they're not on a set day?

No, it would be really nice, because Clinton Cards hadn't told him to do it because it was Mother's Day. It would be nice if it didn't have to be Mother's Day for someone to show their appreciation of their mum/other half (and same goes for Father's Day).

So Christmas gifts, Birthday gifts etc are pointless too? Gifts and tokens of appreciation only mean something if they're not on a set day?*