To be fed up reading this on every Mother's Day thread?

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I swear the inquests over Mother's day last longer every year.

Me too.

Surely dads give their partner a Mother's Day gift/card because she is the mother of their children? confused And vice-versa for Father's Day?

No never known people do this. Cards always come from the children.

Agree with OP!

Some people are just so bitter!
All Mother's should be celebrated and if it takes a day on our calendar to remind us...why the hell not?

Well, the "inquests" are women who are often generally pretty hurt. This is a parenting website and people should be able to talk about this here. So that dismissive attitude is also similar to a lot of the twatty attitudes on here that mothers day is only for some mothers but not for you. You aren't relevant because you're not his mother.

Christ almighty.

Look at the subtitle of this forum: it's "Mumsnet, by parents for parents", not "by parents for parents who resent each other."

Well, the "inquests" are women who are often generally pretty hurt. This is a parenting website and people should be able to talk about this here.

Of course. People however are free to disagree.

YANBU
Some of the responses on Mother's day threads have been really nasty. Saw the typical 'get a grip' on a couple. Totally unnecessary and horrid.

Ethylred I've read your post a few times. Not sure it was specifically in response to my post.

Piglet, of course people can disagree. I've got three children and two teenagers and know the reality of parenting. You have not disagreed, you have dismissed, using the sort of language that puts people off posting who are new. The oh, here we go again kind of post from people who've been here a while. I don't think that's on really.

Mothers day started in America in 1910

Mothering Sunday in this country was about going back to the mother church

This was usually were you were born so it tied in with visiting your family

Yanbu

Couldn't agree more! What if we all use that excuse for every event that doesn't directly affect us? My children are still pretty young so go to a fair number of school parties - perhaps I should not be buying presents and card for them to take since I'm not attending? Sometimes we all need help to think of others and show our appreciation!

Mothers Day & Fathers Day are about appreciating the role that person plays in the family. Gifts or gestures can come from anyone - DC, DP or others. My own mother got me a token small gift this year with a card saying she appreciated me and how I was raising my DD wonderfully. That really meant a lot to me.

perhaps I should not be buying presents and card for them to take since I'm not attending?

Of course you shouldn't. They should bring one if they want to. It's a celebration, not a gifts collection.

MissGoggins I can't work out if you're joking or not...

How do children learn to celebrate anything if we don't show them how? Do all the posters who think a dad helping his kids get their mum a card is pointless never help their children make a card for their grandparents?

Children are gifts in themselves. Everything else is a hallmark takeover. A product of the consumer age. And if you rise above it and observe it you realise it is nonsense. Over-harvesting the earth to make things we don't need. Over working ourselves to buy these unnecessary items. Judging the father who doesn't buy into this tat. It's a Christian tradition that has been secularised and taken over by profiteers.

And you have all fallen for it. The reason so many find themselves feeling empty is because they are looking for fulfilment from stuff. It will never work.

We havent all fallen for it

And rav is talking about a child not getting a birthday card when they have a party

A dad helping his children make a card isn't really a consumerist excess is it? The effort required for Mother's Day is to remember that it's coming up, think of how you will celebrate it, and organise the children who cannot organise themselves. However each family does this is up to them.

Babys in the womb don't tend to have the fine motor skills needed for creating handmade cards though, basket.

Oh for goodness sake

Some women apparently get mothers day cards when they are pregnant

I have never heard of this in my friendship circles

Doesnt mean that all women are demanding cards from a foetus

Women on here are upset because they feel unappreciated, its not full of pregnant women demanding cards

Rufus I'm afraid from what I've read it has all been complaining that the dp hadn't done enough.

Plenty of complaints about, "it's my first Mother's Day."

It's Mother's Day. it's not partner appreciation day. What a lot of shite. Mother's Day is getting as bad as valentines.

If you got 'nothing' go and give the Greatest gift you'll ever receive and extra warm cuddle, then go give your head a wobble and look forward to April Fools - they'll be commercialising it next, no doubt.

And rav is talking about a child not getting a birthday card when they have a party

Thanks, Rufus - I can't imagine telling a young child that their birthday is 'a celebration, not a gifts collection' as Goggins suggested.

I can't imagine the grabby child who would notice a missing card without a grabby parent telling them.

Jinkies, just stop tearing each other apart.

I couldn't give a hoop de hoo what my children/dh get me on mothers day. I got a rucksack - it was awesome, I am going to share it with dd1 who also loves it. If ds had chosen something for me it would have been a Joker from the Lego Batman range or playdoh. My dds made some jewellery for my mum, and the day was all about her really because she has just had her 75th birthday, and she loves a fuss more than I do (she always refers to Mothers Day as 'her day'!)

The thing is I know I am appreciated and loved and my kids and dh show that all year round. I can't get the arse over the fact that other mums are hurt because of a lack of appreciation by their dh or children, because everyone is different.

....mind you I give my children non birthday presents on their siblings birthday, which according to mumsnet is tantamount to bringing them up to be the Devil's spawn.