DH didn't plan anything for first Mother's Day.

[Ladykluck]

DS is 8 months old and I've had a terrible time dealing with his reflux and PND. Had been looking forward to Mothers Day thinking DH would do something nice for my first Mothers Day. On the Saturday he presents me with a supermarket bunch of flowers that I drove him to go and buy. On MD he gives me a card from him. Nothing from the baby. Then he asks do I want to go out, excitedly say yes thinking he's booked the afternoon tea I'd been hinting at for ages. Nope, Costa and buys me an Americano saying he'll buy us a takeaway later. Fast forward home where I then am left to do the laundry and I end up ordering and paying for the take away as he's took himself off to play his computer after putting DS to bed. AIBU to have expected a little more.

[Brokenbiscuit]

I did it as a thank you from me to them for helping me with the baby.

If it was a thank you from you to them, then why did you say it was from the baby?

Your dh bought you a card and some flowers, to say thank you from him to you. I really don't see why that counts as nothing in your mind. Even if he had given you something "from the baby", that still would have been a thank you from him to you really, wouldn't it? Because the baby can't actually give you anything at this stage.

[PlaymobilPirate]

Yanbu op - part of the role of partner is doing stuff to make your partner feel appreciated and loved.

I don't think social media helps - I had a shit Sunday full of chores and crap as we're in the middle of a long, drawn out house renovation. I'm fed up and wanted to be treated to lunch out somewhere clean. I cried when dust from the ceiling fell onto my freshly washed dishes as I was just feeling so upset and fed up.

I'm still pissed off and a bit teary now if I'm completely honest. Dh doesn't get it at all. He never will really.

[PlaymobilPirate]

**I don't think social media helps because everything is magnified when you're having a shite day of nothing and the world and his mate is posting selfies of afternoon teas and gifts... call me shallow, I probably am but I can't help it.

[Nanny0gg]

I think the lack of thought on Mothers' Day is the least of your problems with this man...

[PickAChew]

Going out on mother's day is overrated. you can't get parked anywhere, for a start, never mind get served.

[Corialanusburt]

I think you're disappointed because this is representative of how he is generally. He sounds ok but not the best.

[BitOutOfPractice]

I'll ask you again. Why did you say that you drove him to get the card?

[BitOutOfPractice]

And by the way I think I know the answer. Just curious

[greenlipstick]

Why not just ask instead of hinting?

[Fieryfighter]

My 15 and 11 year old boys went to town off their own bat and chose a card and presents for me (single mum here so no dad to prompt them) - if they can do this you'd think a grown man wouldn't need specific instructions!

[Bettyspants]

The Mother's Day offerings on their own don't sound so bad really, no real thought but more than what many get! It's your following comments regarding on going behaviour coupled with your history of PND that I find worrying. How did he deal with you being unwell? Has he found having a baby difficult or has he always been the same? Sounds like a real heart to heart is needed.

[cheekybean]

Maybe ive missed the point but Mothers day for me was the badly drawn cards, the indistinguishable handmade pressie, the inedible breakfast and the incredibly beautiful smiles, and laugher as they deliver these wonderous gifts. I wouldnt let my dh buy me presents for mothers day, i waited until kids were old enough to do their own. Mothers day isnt about expensive meals, flash cards and massive flowers, its about feeling loved, needed and hopefully appreciated. Money cant do that but smiles and love can. I know that is vomit inducing but its true.

BTW my 8 month old got me nothing and I dont feel deprived!

[StrawberryJelly00]

I think it depends who your OH is as a person because from your post OP battling with PND etc I would have expected more from my OH.

From all these posts though it is clear that everyone of us has a different perception of what Mother's Day is about and also what it means to us.

I am pregnant, baby to arrive in about 5-7 weeks my OH did buy a card from him and also one from the unborn. It made my heart melt I'm a soppy git and he knows it.
Because of my background (long story) he knows Mother's Day meant alot to me so those were his reasons....I'm sure in his head he agrees with the posters that believe it's all bollocks and commercial but he did that for me because it means alot to me.

Maybe explain this to him? I really hope Mother's Day next year is better for you x

[junebirthdaygirl]

My advice as a long term mother is if your dh is usually supportive stop making a big drama about mothers day. There are so many people doinv things for their moms because they have to. It becomes very tedious after a while so dont become one of those. I much prefer unexpected acts than highly predictable ones..Also l have on a few occasions forgotten fathers day until the last minute so mercy all round is needed