To not want DH to buy this?

[Babypassport]

DH got 2k bonus at work this month (hurrah!). At the weekend he bought me the most beautiful handbag for £600, by far my most expensive handbag and one I will probably use a lot.

He wants to spend the rest of the bonus on a Macbook, as he works in IT and is increasingly having to deal with Macbook related issues, so he would like to fiddle with one to get properly to grips with it.

It wouldn't be his main computer, he already has a very nice PC laptop, a desktop and a tablet. Also, I will be back at work from mat leave in a few months and will get my work Macbook back, so he would be able to play with that as much as he wants.

So the question is, AIBU and hypocritical to not want him to have his toy after he bought me my own toy? It just seems like a waste of money for something he will play with and then probably discard until it is obsolete, but then isn't a nice handbag just as wasteful?

He also may want to work out MacBook things before you go back to work.

If my DH wanted one, I'd point him in the direction of second hand ads and then also suggest he sold it when he was done with it.

He wouldn't buy me a handbag as I wouldn't enjoy it, but he might buy me a new phone (which would equally be pointless really as I have a perfectly good one but I'd quite like it)

I can't get past £600 for a handbag!! What a waste of money! That's more than a month's food shopping for most families.

YABU - he earned the money, however if you are happy for him to buy you a handbag then it's up to him if he spends some on himself and whatever item that may be is not your business.

I think people are perfectly reasonable to spend their money on what they like, be it handbags or laptops, without being judged. OP can obviously spare the money if they've already got savings/school fees socked away.

I am agog that you bought a handbag for £600.

What a waste of cash.

I work a fair bit from home and for that I have an office laptop.

I also have my own personal home laptop and my own tablet. I do not use the office laptop for my personal use or internet browsing, nor vice versa. It wouldn't occur to me to do so. I certainly couldn't have the office laptop fiddled with. Not at all.

Come to think of it, nobody else is allowed onto my own devices either, and woe betide anyone who tries (they wouldn't dare). They are personal to me and me alone.

I highly doubt that there is absolutely no access to confidential information on an office computer. There is likely to be some sort of policy, or at least preferences not to allow others to use it. Not worth the risk, and as others have pointed out, it can be a disciplinary offence.

I can't believe I'm saying this, but shut up about the handbag. I'm sure all of us with a reasonable amount of spare cash have some frivalous extravagence that is our 'thing'. Some people like handbags, some people like other things.

I have no interest in handbags and probably won't spend £600 in a lifetime on them but I spend quite a bit more than that most years to be dressed up in uncomfortable protective clothing that I can barely walk in and taken out to sea on a boat and thown into cold water so I can go and look at some old bits of metal and fish (scuba diving).

I was a bit at the couple next to me on the way to one diving trip because they spent about £100 on the plane on alcohol and perfume/aftershave and I was thinking 'what a waste of money' but then I remember that I would be spending that amount of money literally on fresh air to keep me alive during the next week on my diving holiday.

So true Barbara. I think my most expensive handbag probably cost about £70 but it's rare for me to spend that much.

However I had my heart set on a gorgeous poivre blanc ski jacket which was in the sale for £259 and ended up convincing DH to buy me it as a combined Mothers Day and birthday present, which some may see as a ridiculous extravagance as I have an existing jacket which serves the purpose.

A MacBook is no more intrinsically worthwhile than a handbag. Both can probably resold at a reasonable amount if wanted to in the future.