AIBU not to remove shoes in the home

[Illtellyouwhatswhat10]

Generally we don't ask guests to remove their shoes, and my SIL said she doesn't either. We both agreed that when you go to the trouble to put on a nice outfit, it's ruined when you have to take off your footwear. SIL added that as we both have tiled/wooden floors in downstairs room why would you ask guests to, anyway?

And another thing, it's often not nice to be barefoot in someone else's home (at least in your own place you have your own slippers) and I'm aware that some people may feel conscious about smelly feet/odd unsightly feet/verrucas. Even if hosts provide slippers, would you want to wear something that's been worn by someone else?

I don't care if it's the 'done thing' for you; when you have guests, you treat them with respect, and do everything you can to make them feel at ease. You don't tell them to take off their shoes, and hand them a pair of manky slippers to wear, because it's what YOU want, and accuse them of being filthy and disgusting if they don't do it, and don't behave as you expect them to.. That is a disgraceful way to treat a guest. And yes, rude and vulgar! Shame on you.

The upshot is you 'shoes-off' people think you are right and everyone else is wrong. Very obnoxious and rude... Anyway, some of us actually have things to do, so I'm off; I can't be arsed to argue for a second longer with people who just HAVE to be right.

You're a rather angry little frog aren't you? Did someone once give you the side-eye when you didn't take your shoes off in their house or something?

Frog you are the only one throwing around such strong words.
My frustration with you is your obsession with people's social class and also the lack of reasoning behind it. Secondly my problem with you is you question people's integrity and thirdly you deliberately wind people up.
It's not that people won't change their mind it's that generally speaking their rule is no shoes in their house.
I don't know who your friends are but you're vicious and if they did invite you over and want you take your shoes off they probably wouldn't say so fear a fear of the tirade of abuse you would give them and the horrible insults you throw around so easily.

So shoes off isn't a class thing and you also have no class in the way you've behaved. You're stubborn and I don't know why people who have a different opinion to you are considered by you to be wrong and stubborn. Sounds more like you are.

Go and do something nice for once with your day. You must be so frustrated in your life if you speak to others the way you do. You've irritated a lot of people here. I can see from your profile you've gotten on other people's tits on other threads as well.

littlefrog3 You're getting very het up about such a small subject. You're the only one being nasty and obnoxious here. I think it's a good idea for you to take a break.

Why does what they, and the other cultures do, trump me and other posters who prefer to keep our shoes on and feel slighted at being asked to remove them? Why do they speak as if THEY are correct?

Nothing incorrect about keeping them on in your own home. Very rude and disrespectful to keep them on in a shoes-off household. You do as the host does. Bring a pair of indoor shoes with you if the thought of walking in socks is unbearable.

Other continents? I'm talking about the UK, which is multicultural.

Natsku 😂** You're a rather angry little frog aren't you? Did someone once give you the side-eye when you didn't take your shoes off in their house or something?
I think the problem with frog is she can't wear shoes with those big ole flappy frogs legs so she's well pissy that we can even discuss such an issue!

By the way I have an ass hose in my house, I've never used it. I wouldn't know where to begin tbh!

I love my arsehose Buster its perfect for cleaning up after sex especially

Hehe froggy legs

Hmmmm maybe I'll give the arsehose a whirl and let you know how I get in!

Do those of you with arsehoses do your own colonic irrigation? How disgusting having all that excreta in your house

I wouldn't try to get in Buster they're just for the outside!

My mistake Natsku no wonder I could never work it out! 😂

Just wanted to share this pic with you... M&S delivery men who, god bless them, have without any prompting, removed their shoes before coming into my house! They are currently upstairs making up a new bed for DS. I would never have dreamed of asking them to take them off but they've done so anyway!

HL Bug how very working class..

Fucking a Frog.

Apologies if someone's also covered this earlier, but if I'm invited out to someone's house where I know there's a 'shoes off' policy, I lose the will to dress up! Why bother to put on a nice frock if you are going to have to remove an intrinsic part of the look - if essentially I'm going to be better off taking my slippers, then the rest of the outfit needs to go with it (aka clothes to loaf around in).

YANBU provided that you wash your floors daily at the very least.

We wear shoes in the house and we sometimes sit on the floor and we have pets.
We have good immune systems and don't worry about the germs.
Other people's houses ,their rules.

After we moved in here someone left oil stains on the stair carpet and someone else made dents in the wooden floor. I have had to clear up dog shit that has been walked in.

We have a fox that craps in the front garden which is easy to walk in if it is dark.

No way do I want shoes worn inside. And yes there is a door mat, 2 in fact, and no I don't want to have to chuck them out every few weeks because of the above.

We wear shoes in our house too, we also have kids who sit and play on the floor. They are absolutely fine, hardly ever get ill, must have a good immune system too. I've only ever met a few people who ask you to take shoes off when visiting, so my perception is that shoes off people are in a minority (except on here obviously) . I really don't like taking my shoes off in other people's houses, to me, my feet are private.

"I will remove mine in someone else's house if that's their thing, (even though I will think them prissy and uptight)."

That's funny, because in my opinion the prissy, uptight people are the ones who can't handle removing their shoes.

In my mums culture it's unlucky to wear shoes inside, we're a shoes off house. If we're going to someone's house I always make sure I've got matching, non holey socks and consider my outfit accordingly.

However I never ask guests to remove shoes, most do naturally but I never comment either way. Do inwardly cringe a bit as people traipse dirt around the house but hey, all part of hosting!

I don't like to take my shoes off in anyone's home but my own. It was due to me getting a sewing needle in my foot before when I was younger. I find myself paranoid about it happening again. I have only three sewing needles in my home and I have to make sure they're all there after use, otherwise I get really freaked out and put my shoes on until the missing one is found.

Perhaps it's a generation thing? My mother and MIL would never dream of asking guests to remove their shoes and my MIL had the most opulent cream carpets throughout - somehow they never looked dirty.

I have no problems with anyone keeping their shoes on at mine or in being asked to remove mine at someone else's house. It's good manners to offer to remove them when you arrive. I agree I wouldn't want to be sat around at someone's house with bare feet (there's nothing wrong with my feet I just feel it's gross to have your bare feet out anywhere except the comfort of your own home or around friends/acquaintances/strangers, feet are a very personal thing to me. So I'd be too uncomfortable to relax if I'd gone in heels and been asked to remove them.

I get round this by carrying a clean pair of socks with me if I'm wearing footwear without socks and going to someone's house. Then if I'm asked to remove the shoes I can slip socks on and feel relaxed. I've seen too many people with disgusting calloused stinky cheesy verrucaed feet with dirty chipped toenails to feel that having your bare feet out in company is acceptable, even if like me you go to a lot of effort to keep them nice (exfoliating, moisturising, pedicure etc).