AIBU not to remove shoes in the home

[Illtellyouwhatswhat10]

Generally we don't ask guests to remove their shoes, and my SIL said she doesn't either. We both agreed that when you go to the trouble to put on a nice outfit, it's ruined when you have to take off your footwear. SIL added that as we both have tiled/wooden floors in downstairs room why would you ask guests to, anyway?

And another thing, it's often not nice to be barefoot in someone else's home (at least in your own place you have your own slippers) and I'm aware that some people may feel conscious about smelly feet/odd unsightly feet/verrucas. Even if hosts provide slippers, would you want to wear something that's been worn by someone else?

For me it's mainly about dirt, as in marks in the carpet but I must admit the thought of dog poo fills me with dread and also the thought of shoes being worn in public toilets. Just yuck. I've seen some hideous public toilets in my time.

I love that there is absolutely no logic or science behind the germ enthusiasts, plus they ignore that most people have said it's the dirt rather than germs anyway.

TB anyone?

Not a chance I'm sitting in someone else's house in my slippers.I rarely wear slippers preferring to be bare foot at home . I dont expect anyone else to remove their shoes thoug.In fact i would prefer people kept their shoes on. I find the idea of taking a pair of slippers out with me utterly ridiculous.

Twenty I don't blame you for not wanting to share a picture of what would have been funny until it was ruined by frog! I have a bench but nobody can actually sit on it to remove their shoes because there are so many coats hanging above it that would have been funny too. But because frog is being so nasty and critical it's impossible to make light of it. It was an attack on people's intelligence, their class and their integrity. She can fuck off.

I bet the shoes off people are the sort who wear knickers under their PJs

You sussed me out. Feels weird not to wear knickers. I change into comfy trousers when I get home too, and sometimes take my bra off (and sometimes don't even put one on when guests come round!)

My parents weren't born into the Middle Class - dad was born in a Glasgow tenement with an alcoholic father and mum was born on a poor Lapland farm where they often had to resort to eating fat cubes for dinner because the meat was for selling. Dad got lucky with Church stuff and got the Middle Class job that way and mum got into grammar school. Don't know if they think of themselves as Middle Class though.

Not ashamed to post a picture of my shoe-taking-off chair. Not sure why there's a cake plate on it though. And DD's armchair is only there because she pissed on it so I left it out there after cleaning it to make sure it airs out before bringing it back in.

I bet the shoes off people are the sort who wear knickers under their PJs

Don't most people?

TB anyone?

You think TB is caught from dirty shoes?

I bet the shoes off people are the sort who wear knickers under their PJs

Don't most people?

We've just established you're a MN newbie.

I don't wear shoes in the house and don't wear anything in bed.

This drives me nuts!!!! Shoes collect dirt and even urine and poo from animals. Why would people think it's ok to wear them in someone else's house? I don't get it. It's common courtesy to at least offer in someone else's house.

We have wooden floors and it's such a relief when people remove their shoes. Most don't and I'm assuming it's because they see the wooden floors. I hate asking. We have a 9 months old and I don't want her crawling around in germs!!!

Genuine question for the shoes-on people: why don't you bring your own slippers or pair of clean ballet flats? Unless it's an impromptu visit of course. That would solve the angst over smelly feet/foot shyness and save host the awkwardness of having to tell you to take them off.

Because my friends would think I'd taken leave of my senses.

I don't take my own slippers/ballet flats for the same reason I don't take my own cup/lunch/cushions/radio whatever. Just would not occur to me that I'd need to pack extra footwear when going to visit a friend.

We have a 9 months old and I don't want her crawling around in germs!!!

I assume you're never letting her outside then? What about grass in the summer? Hermetically sealed flooring before you'll place her down?

Genuine question for the shoes-on people: why don't you bring your own slippers or pair of clean ballet flats?

Because it just wouldn't occur to people who aren't totally preoccupied with shoes off.

Non-anal types don't even have it in their head to think about it, let alone to plan ahead and pack a pair of slippers / flats in their handbag (which probably isn't even big enough to hold them), let alone expect to faff around with needless shoe changing.

It's a totally different mindset, compared the mindset obsessed with shoes off.

My default is to assume people are welcoming hosts and besides, I'd just offer to take my shoes off - sitting around in someone else's house in my slippers would just feel completely inappropriate (like going out in pyjamas).

As for slipper/sock baskets, the only place I've ever encountered them is on these threads. No-one IRL does this.

www.google.co.uk/amp/rare.us/rare-life/health/its-a-good-idea-to-take-your-shoes-off-in-the-house-because-they-drag-in-some-disgusting-stuff/amp/

Genuine question for the shoes-on people: why don't you bring your own slippers or pair of clean ballet flats?

Because it just wouldn't occur to people who aren't totally preoccupied with shoes off. Non-anal types don't even have it in their head to think about it, let alone to plan ahead and pack a pair of slippers / flats in their handbag (which probably isn't even big enough to hold them), let alone expect to faff around with needless shoe changing. It's a totally different mindset, compared the mindset obsessed with shoes off.

My default is to assume people are welcoming hosts and besides, I'd just offer to take my shoes off - sitting around in someone else's house in my slippers would just feel completely inappropriate (like going out in pyjamas).

As for slipper/sock baskets, the only place I've ever encountered them is on these threads. No-one IRL does this.

This ^ by dowgercuntess.

Who the hell would carry their own slippers to wear in someone else's house? That is weird. And ASKING someone to wear slippers they provide for you. That is a whole new level of weird!

Out of all the places I have ever visited, all the countries and towns, all the people I have known, and all the friends I have had; I have never had anyone ask me to take off my shoes and wear the slippers that they provide.

Unsurprisingly the people asked by several posters to post pictures of their slipper and sock basket for visitors, have not posted any pic. SURPRISE SURPRISE!!! PMSL!!!!!!!!!!!

Probably because as you said cuntess, no-one in real life does this. It's a load of shite, like much other stuff that certain people have spouted on this thread.

As I said earlier in the thread, the only people who have asked me to remove my shoes before entering their shitbox of a house, are obnoxious dicks who think they're something they're not, and who think they're middle class.

And as passport said, how the fuck are people going to cope when their child starts crawling around/running around/playing around outside if they are so precious about dirt?!

No the picture has not been posted because you are being so spectacularly unpleasant that I don't wish to invite further nasty criticism of my home and life from you.

I think the biggest load of shite spouted on this thread is you alleging to have been invited to someone else's home. If you behave anything like this in RL there's no way that can be true.

I think littlefrog probably has quite hairy feet.

I think littlefrog probably has quite hairy feet.

No no 'dont-act' they're not hairy! They're webbed!

If you feel that way about shoes you probably have a lounge and a toilet and say 'pardon' so yanbu

Nothing worse than being invited to a house party, getting all glammed up then having to remove your shoes. Feels very unwelcoming.

We're shoes off at the door for kids here. Adults get treated with a little more respect. I think I can trust an adult to wipe their feet.

I avoid those houses where I know you have to remove shoes. I just make excuses when invited for a coffee. Makes me very uncomfortable and I hate having cold feet. I don't usually have a handbag on me so nowhere to stash socks if I would ever think of such a thing. Which I wouldn't.

But I'm not hung up about dirt or germs. We spend a lot of time outdoors. And my kids are very resilient. Possibly if I had more sickly children I might get more worried about germs.