AIBU not to remove shoes in the home

[Illtellyouwhatswhat10]

Generally we don't ask guests to remove their shoes, and my SIL said she doesn't either. We both agreed that when you go to the trouble to put on a nice outfit, it's ruined when you have to take off your footwear. SIL added that as we both have tiled/wooden floors in downstairs room why would you ask guests to, anyway?

And another thing, it's often not nice to be barefoot in someone else's home (at least in your own place you have your own slippers) and I'm aware that some people may feel conscious about smelly feet/odd unsightly feet/verrucas. Even if hosts provide slippers, would you want to wear something that's been worn by someone else?

My crawlers also happily crawled around parks and playgrounds. Being mobile, independent, late walkers meant it really wasn't worth the stress on the ear drums of trying to keep them hygenicly contained in a pram for many months until they were competent walkers.

I have never meet anyone who asks their guests to remove their shoes. If its wet out i would expect people to wipe their feet on the doormat but that's about it. I usually change into my crocs when i get home but thats for comfort rather than hygiene.

Not as twatty as walking shit all over your mate's floor imao.

Of all the years, and of all the houses I have ever visited, sexymuthfucker I have never ever ever walked shit or mud or ANYthing over someone's floor or carpet. As I said, unless it's uber muddy, or you have been walking outside whilst it's pissing down, you would not need to take off your shoes. If I go to someone's house; I generally go from my front door to my car on the drive, then from my car to their front door. Are they going to be worried that I get dust out of my car on their precious carpets FFS?!

Well, it's kind of 'prissy' to value your floors over your guests. There's nothing more dour than 'my house, my rules', honestly. Of course reasonable people will obey them, but they won't expect to have an enjoyable / fun / relaxing / raucous time! Disclaimer: we remove shoes at home, I always offer to remove shoes at others, but never insist on guests removing their shoes at mine.

This In my experience, dowgercuntess,^ the biggest wankers I know (bar none!) are the ones who insist I take my shoes off before I enter their house. I'm not kidding.

I actually can't be arsed with people who are that fucking precious that they make me take my shoes off before entering their fuckhole of a house. That is why I very rarely visit them. As soon as I am asked to take my shoes off (because their house is so special obviously, and I am clearly a skank who walks around in dogshit and oil!) it gets my back right up, I don't enjoy being in that house, and I leave as soon as possible.

Not once have I ever asked anyone to take their shoes off in my house. If someone DID get a bit of mud or shit on my floor or carpet, I'd clean it up. Are people such fragile precious snowflakes that they can't clean up a bit of mud off their carpets ... !!! FFS I despair.

I think some people have issues about germs.

I hate shoes in the house it annoys me when my guests don't take them off - I don't think they should have to be told, follow what we do! I always offer slippers or thick socks.

I wouldn't be mates with anyone who insisted i temoved my shoes.

I cant imagine ever asking or expecting a guest to take their shoes off, it strikes me as bad manners. We have wooden floors or brown carpet and the house isn't particularly warm as it is very old. I might take my shoes off when I get home if I am staying in, but I swap them for a pair of uggs, which I might even go outside it when letting the dog out. The dog doesn't wipe her feet or take her shoes off either. My only rule is please dont go through the house in wellies although sometimes I do if I just want a quick cuppa

You provide new slippers for every guest? Or are they slippers everyone has worn?

You provide new slippers for every guest? Or are they slippers everyone has worn?

THIS ^ Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww............. As if I would ever be wearing socks or slippers provided for me! Fuck that!

Like many people have said, who wants to be friends with (or go to the house of) people who are so precious and prissy anyway?

I have a dog. Its allowed in the house after walks. If it doesnt need to wear slippers then neither do I. And neither do my guests.

If asked at someones house I probably would. Although thats cause I wouldnt panic like the OP about my outfit being ruined by lack of shoes.

We have very pale grey carpets throughout and generally take our shoes off at the door.

I do not imagine that this magically protects us from the outside germs. What about handbags / shopping / coats / luggage? All things that have been in contact with unclean outside surfaces and that do not permanently live in the porch.

I wouldn't dream of asking anyone who visits to take their shoes off. It's so, so rude and is basically you saying that they are dirty.

And yes, expecting people to wear second hand slippers is gross and deeply unwelcoming.

Can you imagine. 'Take you filthy shoes off but wear these slippers that every other guest has had their feet in'

I have a basket full of blankets, slippers and socks that are for guests to use (and us for the blankets!). Blankets washed weekly, slippers/socks worn after each use. When I say socks I mean the thick kind that tend to be used in place of slippers.

I live in a house accessible only by a muddy dirt track (not tarmaced) so there is always mud on shoes. I have to have several mats in the front room all the way through to the door because of it. I spend enough time hoovering in there, I don't want mud walked through the whole house.

If that makes me prissy and precious so be it. I don't want friends who visit and create unnecessary mess for me to clean up!

Not a chance I would wear a pair of thick socks in the summer in someone's house. I'd just sit outside

Shorts and socks are not a good look.

I don't care much for the shoes on/shoes off debate and am happy to take them off if it means seeing a friend and having a cup of tea/glass of wine.

I never tell anyone to take them off in my own house because, it's very big and cold and I want guests to be comfortable. Also I'm dreadful at housework and the floors get cleaned about once every few months so frankly I'd prefer their socks didn't get filthy.

Where I grew up it would be quite rude to take your shoes off as it's hot and people often have smelly, sweaty feet.

I prefer people to take their shoes off but if I think they are uncomfortable with it I wouldn't ask them.

I am not scared of germs, I work in health care and I'm surrounded by germs all the time. I just want to keep my furniture nicer for longer.

My mum doesn't like taking her shoes off so I told her she doesn't need to bother. She would take them off if she knew I cared that much. It's a preference but not something I'm going to make anyone feel uncomfortable over.

Do all you people who expect people to take shoes on/off at the door (with/without access to slippers or socks) provide a seat at the door? I have a mobility impairment. Amongst other things it makes it very difficult to reach my feet, and even with what should be slip ons, would usually need to sit down to get them back on. As for socks...well, on a good day, I might be able to put them on if I lie down...

twentycups
I have a basket full of blankets, slippers and socks that are for guests to use (and us for the blankets!). Blankets washed weekly, slippers/ socks worn after each use. When I say socks I mean the thick kind that tend to be used in place of slippers. I live in a house accessible only by a muddy dirt track (not tarmaced) so there is always mud on shoes. I have to have several mats in the front room all the way through to the door because of it. I spend enough time hoovering in there, I don't want mud walked through the whole house. If that makes me prissy and precious so be it. I don't want friends who visit and create unnecessary mess for me to clean up!

No no not a million times no.

I would only ever visit your house once. If your house is only accessible from a muddy track, and there is no way to get to your front door without getting mud on your shoes, then provide a couple of mats for people to wipe their feet on, and a mud scraper. And for heaven's sake if it's so bad, surely you would have laminate floors?

And also, if it's not rained in awhile, there would be no mud.

I assume you have no pets?

As a few people have said, your home sounds deeply unwelcoming, and I would never visit again. Once would be enough. And hell would freeze over before I wear any socks or slippers that you insist I wearI don't care how clean you claim they are. Ewwwwwwwwwwwww.. .

If you do have lots of guests, you do know they probably take the piss behind your back right? Coz I would.

I don't expect visitors to remove their shoes & would go home rather than remove my shoes at someone's house. I agree with the PP that it's rude and makes a well put together outfit look odd, also I have renauds which means I permanently have cold feet, walking around without shoes on makes them painfully cold.

People actually do this? Asking visitors to remove shoes?

walking shit or mud over someone's floors
Buy a doormat!

Guest slippers and socks - no matter how often they're cleaned - are grim!

People don't want to sit around in a pair of hotel slippers or socks (FFS) when they visit you! How ridiculous.

Again - I will automatically offer to remove my shoes and go barefoot. I remove shoes in my own home. What I will not do, is insist other remove their shoes at my place, nor ever be delighted with someone else's grim socks or slippers offering.

When we were looking at display homes, we came across a series of houses that required people to remove their shoes. Needless to say, just about everyone was skipping those houses and moving onto the ones where the agents weren't so precious about the floors.

Most of the men were wearing lace up shoes, and the ladies (myself included) were generally wearing shoes with buckles. We all had better things to do with our time than undo/redo our shoes at every house in that section. Not to mention all the kids who would've needed help, and the lack of seating for people who needed to sit own when taking off/on their shoes.

The few people who were going into those homes were carrying their shoes and walking barefoot between houses, so I think it kind of defeated the purpose of not traipsing in stuff.....

I can't believe the amount of people that love traipsing in crap into their houses. Yuck.