Ex wanting to get in touch - suddenly I feel that there's something dodgy about him

[lottieandmia]

He's 36 and Has been constantly messaging me to say how much he misses me etc. Ive noticed that on FB he's friending quite a few girls (not women) who look about 14 and then liking their photos. Example below. I have a 13 year old daughter and all of a sudden I'm wondering if he's actually got some kind of hidden paedophile type tendencies. I haven't seen him for about 4 years. This is strange isn't it?

If you find it strange, then you have your answer. Trust your gut instinct.

If that's someone's actual photo from FB then you need to report your own post and get that photo removed.

Urm why the fuck are posting pics of young girls here?

Has the person in the photo given you permission to include it on a forum where you are making reference to paedophiles?

Stay well clear. Protect your child

I think the girl in the pic looks about 17/18 the.

No, it's just an example.

I don't think we need to see her photo to be honest.

What the fuck are you doing putting someone else's photo on a forum? I assume you have permission to do so?

Take the photo down. It's someone elses picture. It doesn't belong to you.

reported. That's not on OP.

Who's photo is that 'example'?

Can you just explain the picture? It's not your DD is it? Is it a child you or he knows?

If he has a teenage child, then he's likely to get all his/her mates giving him friend requests. My DH doesn't accept all DDs, but some parents do.

How long ago did you split up?

I do find it a bit odd you've posted a picture of a child, though.

I'd remove that persons picture op, could be someone's daughter/relative or friend on here for all you know. How would you feel if someone shared a photo of your daughter or relative without her (or your) permission?

So where did you get the photo from? Did you get their permission to use it in a discussion about paedophiles?

Fucks sake.

This is not actually from Facebook. What I'm wondering is whether it's normal for a 36 year old man to like the photos of women who look that young? It's not easy to judge someone's age. I'll get it removed but this is a model & it's an example of the sort of age they look iyswim

I've asked MN to remove it.

I knew this man for years and I'm quite shocked that he's like this tbh

If you have not seen him in four years then neither of you said the 'lets be friends then' Four years is quite a long time to suddenly realises he misses you. Why did you break up?

Because he was controlling. I'm suddenly panicking that he was hoping to groom my daughter's

Then just don't have any contact with him.

What a weird thread.

Block him.

Oh Lottie, I think you have your answer. Controlling men rarely change. Is he your DD's father?

Don't panic. Ignore him, block him, whatever you need to do.