Ex wanting to get in touch - suddenly I feel that there's something dodgy about him

[lottieandmia]

He's 36 and Has been constantly messaging me to say how much he misses me etc. Ive noticed that on FB he's friending quite a few girls (not women) who look about 14 and then liking their photos. Example below. I have a 13 year old daughter and all of a sudden I'm wondering if he's actually got some kind of hidden paedophile type tendencies. I haven't seen him for about 4 years. This is strange isn't it?

Just fucking block him. See, problem gone.

No he's not their father . I just feel like if he has those tendencies I should have known. Yes it is weird thread I agree - if I was reading it from someone else I'd think 'wtf'

The fact that you have a.posted that photo, b.are questioning whether it's strange for a grown man to be befriending a bunch of 13/14 year old girls on social media and c.haven't deleted and blocked this creep as soon as you've realised, indicates that you probably shouldn't be dating if you have a teenage daughter... or using social media for that matter

ChickRock - there's no need to be nasty. I have AS - I tend to be naive,

In the years I've been away from him I've had time to work on myself and my perception. But I never saw these things before.

Weird to have posted a pic. Nice one to take it down hq.

I don't know if they are as young as my daughter because it can be difficult to guess someone's age. I'm 36 but people say I look 23. I thought that maybe people would say 'oh it's ok she looks over 18'

Yes its strange.
Block and never speak to him again.

Trust your instincts and block him. Dont give hima second thought and dont give yourself a hard time about not 'knowing' he was like this. These people are clever, devious and super manipulative. Keep well clear.

You've become fixated on this idea. You need to stop it before it becomes an obsession. Block him and move on. If he's dodgy or not it doesn't matter. He is ex for a reason.

I suddenly remembered my mum saying to me years ago 'do you think the way he is with dd3 is a bit creepy?' I said no, of course not. She was 2 at the time. He was never alone with her. I'm sorry - it was a bad idea to post a photo of someone I don't know. But I'm pretty upset. I was with him for 4 years.

Lottie, it's okay, just block him.
Listen to CHERRY, she has it in a nutshell.

I think the best thing you can do is use your instinct as a clear warning that this man should not be in your life. If you even think for a second that someone is capable of child sexual abuse, then stay away from them. The best idea now would be to block him on Facebook and move on. You may well be right, but you have no proof to go to the police with unfortunately.

I can understand why you are upset. It is awful to realise you may have been very wrong about someone. However at this point I think you should just be glad that you and your daughter had a lucky escape in this one.

Hope you feel better soon.

I had a 45 year old who added me at 16, then added mutual friend a year later who was 14.

He never tried anything sexual but did call us pretty and tried to meet up.

Creepy man.

Trust your instincts.

I've blocked him. Other people would always say 'oh he genuinely cares about your children, how nice' etc. I've seen people on MN talk about how they've found their partner looking for 'teen' porn etc.

Thanks Stormwhale & Sarcasm.