"Are you on your period"

[nicetoseeyoutoseeyounice]

If I snap or I'm angry about something my OH immediately assumes I'm on my period!! Why? Does my opinion not matter any other time of the month? Does anyone else's dp just assume they are on their monthly every time they are a bit arsey? Aibu to think this is a ridiculous assumption?

SuperFlyHigh - yes I know that it's not to do with the moon, just has a similar timescale to the moon's phases. Hence the naming of things like the mooncup...that's not coincidence.
Thanks for the advice in your last para when someone's asking AIBU, then comment is called for. Presumably in your universe women are not allowed to comment on fatherhood?

I know exactly what you're trying to get at ForestDad.

Ted what makes you think it?

AdoraBell

Snappiness and short-temperedness which arise for short periods at intervals for no other discernible reason. Not pleasant.

All I cared about was your high handed, patronising dismissal of my very real PMS symptoms and those of the vast majority of women on that thread. Clearly you haven't thought it all through in any great detail.

As I am by now very tired of saying, venus, I haven't 'dismissed' anyone's PMS symptoms, only suggested that (a) there's a great deal of credible evidence to suggest that the explanation surrounding them is faulty and that (b) narratives of female hormonal craziness have figured prominently in damaging misogynistic myths about women's instability, irrationality and unsuitability for the vote/workplace/important public office.

And if I may say so, you don't appear to have thought about it at all.

No, you've made some assumptions. You forget how much you were challenged on the other thread for saying that women experiencing their real PMS symptoms were simply expressing their "internalised misogyny".

I think I've thought about it quite a bit more than you have.

SFH I'm not trying to get at anything except what I've written...
I can be pretty sarcastic but not on here! Maybe try not to read too much into what I've said, it's pretty simple.

I'm not amnesiac, venus, but the challenges on that thread in fact speak interestingly to research findings which suggest that PMS mood swings perform some meaningful function for western women. I acknowledged that I over-simplified initially -- I do think internalised misogyny factors to an extent, though. With all the history of misogynist constructions of women as crazy, hormonal, irrational etc it would be surprising if it didn't.

And I am telling you that I have real PMS symptoms as did many other women. It's incredibly patronising to write them off as our own internalised misogyny. There are powerful hormones involved. Hormones affect us.

True story. I will never forget the response from a female colleague some years ago to a prat (not me I hasten to add) that tried that line with her:

"You're right, a bleeding cunt makes me highly irritable. Maybe if you could stop being such a bleeding cunt I might calm down".

Sorry for the language but it is contextually relevent.