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To not complain about the KFC drivethru man?

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BillyButtfuck · 21/03/2017 21:43

I've just been to pick up KFC for me and DP. I went on my own as babies are in bed and DP still working from home.
The man working behind the drive thru was very forward and called me gorgeous. I awkwardly smiled, took my food and said thanks, didn't think anymore of it.
DP was taking the food out from the bag and came across a note on a napkin saying 'send pics' with the following info.

snapchat: username
Instagram: username

I've had a stalk on his Facebook and he's mutual friends with my best friends little brother and he's 17. I'm 23.

I think just leave it, throw it away and next time send DP to pick up our weekly monthly KFC, DP is quite annoyed about it.

His main point is that it's really inappropriate and if he did it to someone in an abusive/jealous relationship there could be trouble for an innocent woman. He said if he had randomly found a guys snapchat with 'send pics' on my pocket he would assume I'm messing about.

He thinks I should complain. I just want to leave it, it's more hassle than it's worth.

WWYD?

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JonesyAndTheSalad · 23/03/2017 08:16

You're kidding right? I would personally find the name of whoever does their PR and write to them...or tweet them...even better. I would point out that this deserves more than a generic response. You want to know that the person has been spoken to and told this is wrong....not be told the area coach will "look into" further training!

LadyPW · 23/03/2017 08:22

Maybe they'd have taken you more seriously if it hadn't resulted in a national-paper-quoting-Mumsnet article?

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BillyButtfuck · 23/03/2017 08:23

I never intended for it to escalate to the papers, I genuinely came on here for advice!

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AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads · 23/03/2017 08:24

That's one of those crappy "I'm sorry you feel that way" non-apologies isn't it?

MumBod · 23/03/2017 08:51

They hope you come back soon for something tasty?

Could they be any more glib?

notapizzaeater · 23/03/2017 08:59

So they've not bothered to read it

ImaLannister · 23/03/2017 09:24

Who did you email? The HQ or the KFC where it happened? Because if your not satisfied with the response then I'd take it further, if not then you got what you wanted, you didn't want him to loose his job did you.

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BillyButtfuck · 23/03/2017 09:27

Ima I emailed their head office but also printed a copy and dropped it into the restaurant where it happened.
But yes exactly, I didn't want him to lose his job I think it's a talking to/training issue which is what they've briefly touched on and that's fine, my concern is it was so brief and played down in their response I hope they have actually taken it seriously and will follow it up properly.

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ImaLannister · 23/03/2017 09:36

Yeah I can see where you're coming from. I fully supported your compliant and I would of done the same. I'm quite shocked that they was so calm about it and their response is a not bothered attitude, form the email they sent back that's basically what it was.
It's probably put you off from going there again. So they have lost a customer, but they won't be bothered because of all the custom it gets. But it shouldn't be that way.
I never go KFC anymore, it's my least favourite fast food. Maccys, Burger King or Subway all the way!

Moocherbot · 23/03/2017 09:45

Publish his contact details and say you assumed he was doing a school project (as he is a CHILD) on "Womens' Lives" and everyone on Mumsnet send him pictures of their day. Laundry, office, gardening, supermarket, car maintenance, picking up dog crap, fire fighting, dirty nappies, running the country, etc etc....

ImaLannister · 23/03/2017 09:53

ALSO! Just to let everyone know, you can buy the KFC gravy in Farmfoods for £1.00. It's the southern style gravy powder. So...who needs KFC anyway...! Meh.

SoupDragon · 23/03/2017 16:27

they hope I come back soon for something tasty.

That seems somewhat inappropriate given the context.

Pigface1 · 23/03/2017 20:29

Personally I think you're absolutely doing the right thing. His behaviour is totally inappropriate and your DP made a good point too. Well done!!

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 23/03/2017 20:59

Over reaction.. you weren't with your kids or oh, he probably thought you were a single greedy fucker with your bargain bucket. Something similar happend to me a few years back, a door to door window seller young lad came knocking I said no it's rented, he came back ten minutes later asking where a certain street was, he came back again asking for my number! I was 30 but I look young, he was 18 at most I just laughed, I had kids running around as well! Did I complain no... take it as a compliment and move the fuck on.

SoupDragon · 23/03/2017 21:14

Can you really not see the difference between asking for your number and basically asking to see your tits?

JonesyAndTheSalad · 23/03/2017 21:15

Soup it's an infringement of her personal space. Asking for someone's number is the same as telling them you fancy them. That's not what women need to put up with when they're buying a frigging chicken sandwich.

SoupDragon · 23/03/2017 21:20

Why are you telling me that?? I know.

SoupDragon · 23/03/2017 21:21

He didn't ask for her number. He asked her to send photos. He did not mean her holiday snaps.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 23/03/2017 21:23

I said similar instagtam and snspchat weren't about back then otherwise I'm sure he would have wanted pictures of my titties as well.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 23/03/2017 21:24

And op should have said I'm married when he called her gorgeous instead of giggling like a school girl.

Cel982 · 23/03/2017 21:32

The fact that she's married is neither here nor there. Every woman should be able to expect to complete a business transaction without being sleazed over by some entitled little snot. She shouldn't need the 'excuse' of being married to avoid unwanted sexual advances.

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BillyButtfuck · 23/03/2017 23:28

When on earth did I say I giggled like a school girl? Hmm

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LoveDeathPrizes · 23/03/2017 23:53

She didn't do that. And why should she? He's a stranger. And there are other reasons why it wasn't appropriate, none of which are a reflection on OP.

A woman's right to walk away from a man doesn't need to be justified by her marital status.

JunosRevenge · 24/03/2017 00:41

I can't believe some of the responses on this thread. Jeez. Have we not moved on?

This is an example of everyday sexism, plain and simple. The KFC guy was completely out of order and needs to be hauled over the coals by his employer. 17 or 70, it doesn't matter. What he did was inappropriate and pervy.

In addition, it makes no difference whether the OP is married or not. She has the right to go and buy food without being propositioned and asked to send photos. OP, you were right to complain. I would have done the same.

JonesyAndTheSalad · 24/03/2017 01:14

Lola what the fuck does OPs marital status have to do with a server at KFC? Confused

Nothing!

And she never giggled....you're full of shit.

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