To not complain about the KFC drivethru man?

[BillyButtfuck]

I've just been to pick up KFC for me and DP. I went on my own as babies are in bed and DP still working from home.
The man working behind the drive thru was very forward and called me gorgeous. I awkwardly smiled, took my food and said thanks, didn't think anymore of it.
DP was taking the food out from the bag and came across a note on a napkin saying 'send pics' with the following info.

snapchat: username
Instagram: username

I've had a stalk on his Facebook and he's mutual friends with my best friends little brother and he's 17. I'm 23.

I think just leave it, throw it away and next time send DP to pick up our weekly monthly KFC, DP is quite annoyed about it.

His main point is that it's really inappropriate and if he did it to someone in an abusive/jealous relationship there could be trouble for an innocent woman. He said if he had randomly found a guys snapchat with 'send pics' on my pocket he would assume I'm messing about.

He thinks I should complain. I just want to leave it, it's more hassle than it's worth.

WWYD?

Consider:-

I am writing to complain about the service at x branch of KFC on y date.

The young man serving at the drive thru made comments about my appearance. I was alone in my car. He may have thought they were compliments but they made me feel uncomfortable.

When I got home, I found that he had left his social media details and the phrase "send pics" on a napkin inside the bag with my order.

This has made me feel awkward about visiting that particular branch again, and I would appreciate it if you could explain to this member of staff why this is completely unacceptable behaviour.

I added:

I'm also concerned that this young man is putting himself at risk by giving his social media details to complete strangers.
I feel there is a huge need for training relating to the safeguarding of your customers, staff conduct and dignity in the workplace.

I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this matter along with what course of action you plan to take. I am not looking to get anyone fired, but do feel there is an important lesson to be learnt from this.

I think I'd report him too tbh. Thats a bit forward and at 17, he needs to know thats not appropriate.

But yes, remove the address and then re-post your email!

MNHQ have deleted their branch details for me (thank you)!
I have sent an email through their website and printed off a copy which I will drop in tomorrow addressed to The Manager.

Mixed feelings but the majority here think that was the right thing to do. I really don't want anyone to get fired and hoping it's more a learning curve and might stop him doing it to someone more vulnerable in the future?

Will update if I hear back

I'm glad you complained, the server was way over the line. Important life lesson for 17 year old re. workplace behaviour.

The email was way too OTT.

Ahh Puppy where were you when I was asking for help oh well it's sent now with a photo of the note so they can make their own minds up and do what they see fit.

He needs to learn. I don't think it was OTT. Young only 17 or not, he needs to know that this isn't acceptable behaviour. It could have serious consequences for a woman in a violent relationship, or he will end up getting himself kicked in by some guy who's woman he came on to at the drive thru by leaving silly notes in the bag.

I wonder how often he has done it, and whether he has ever successfully received 'pics'

My 17yo son works at KFC (not this evening so it wasn't him!) and I would be horrified if he was doing such things and would be fine with him being pulled up on it.

All the perving aside it's extremely unprofessional.

I have been to drive thrus in the midst of my darkest times mid EA divorce and the last thing you'd expect is some pathetic chat up in your bag of emergency chips.

No, I agree, you should address this, I was recently 'flirted with' at a petrol station, I found it intimidating and bloody weird (I had been driving for five hours with two children, I certainly did not look 'gorgeous') I wish I had complained but I was just pleased to get back to the car to check it wasn't a distraction tactic to steal my car/children I didn't and now regret it. yanbu, there's flirting and there's borderline harrassment

It's sleazy behaviour.

I think you were right to flag this up to his employer.

Emergency chips .

I hope you get a boneless feast out of this. Or a bargain bucket, at the very least.

Sadly I think this is how some young people 'pull' these days. Send some snaps of pieces of chicken in the supermarket on a diff snapchat account.

I am currently parked in a KFC parking lot waiting for DD2 to finish guides. This thread is seriously threatening my resolve not to have chips with gravy! There is no drive-thru though

Love that idea Bunny !

So you're going to jeopardise his job because he was a bit cocky and gave you his contact details? You should have pulled him up about his behaviour there and then if you didn't like it. Just laugh it off - or if you see him again, tell him not to be so ridiculous. Very slim chance of it being a woman in an abusive/jealous relationship - I doubt they would be allowed to go to a drive thru on their own. Don't write that letter......................so mean.

Report it.

Totally inappropriate, and at 17 he is more than old enough to understand that.

Your letter is way OTT. Just ring the manager and give a brief outline of what happened and ask him to explain to staff that behavior isnt acceptable.

Wow, talk about being led by the pack... Going from 'leaving it' to a long ranty email with all the points that everyone here has said they'd find an issue. The guy was out of order. Complain; but don't be a bellend about it!

Further to this I am disgusted to think that your staff are putting non-food and non-regulated items in with people's food. < This made me laugh by the way. You over egged the pudding and no one will take that already hysterical email seriously after this.

Glad you are reporting.
Telling you that you are gorgeous and being flirty is ok. A compliment even.
Giving you his number, again, can be construed as a way of furthering the interaction IF you flirted back with him.
Asking for pictures? without any flirting on your part? Totally unacceptable.
If he doesnt learn this lesson whilst still young, imagine the problems he will cause women as he grows older? Doesnt bear thinking about.

Reread my comment and it reads far too harshly. I apologise.

Of course you should complain! It's not his bloody place to try and pull the customers!

Would you feel differently if it were a 55 year old man?

It's not on. If people like him are allowed to get away with being young perves, then they become old perves.

There's a line. He crossed it.

Paul quite possibly, OP was "protecting herself" with her initial OP, from the common, MN backlash when someone posts a similar OP.

Had she asked "AIBU to write a letter of complaint about this KFC assistant?"

She would have been inundated with

"Don't be so stuck up" and "He was only asking!"

So I suspect (OP correct me if I'm wrong) that OP posted her question the way she did, in order to get a more balanced response.

It's a sort of "half reverse" isn't it?

Shematt what tosh! Not ALL women have the guts to front up to men who sexually harass them.

And this was just that.

Commenting on a customer's looks is HIGHLY innappropriate.

As for your ignorant comment about women in abusive relationships not being allowed to go to the shops...that's a massive generalisation. Not ALL abused women are kept under bloody lock and key.

Plenty have jobs and what look like normal lives.

You should send him a picture. A screenshot of that email would do it.