To not complain about the KFC drivethru man?

[BillyButtfuck]

I've just been to pick up KFC for me and DP. I went on my own as babies are in bed and DP still working from home.
The man working behind the drive thru was very forward and called me gorgeous. I awkwardly smiled, took my food and said thanks, didn't think anymore of it.
DP was taking the food out from the bag and came across a note on a napkin saying 'send pics' with the following info.

snapchat: username
Instagram: username

I've had a stalk on his Facebook and he's mutual friends with my best friends little brother and he's 17. I'm 23.

I think just leave it, throw it away and next time send DP to pick up our weekly monthly KFC, DP is quite annoyed about it.

His main point is that it's really inappropriate and if he did it to someone in an abusive/jealous relationship there could be trouble for an innocent woman. He said if he had randomly found a guys snapchat with 'send pics' on my pocket he would assume I'm messing about.

He thinks I should complain. I just want to leave it, it's more hassle than it's worth.

WWYD?

Woah from.not complaining to going majorly overboard and sounding like a hysterical nutjob !!

Hysterical nutjob.

That's nice.

If a woman got abused for having a note in her KFC it would not be her fault, nor the KFC worker's fault, it would be the fault of the abuser. Or is victim blaming OK on mumsnet now?

I'd send him a picture of your Husband 😁

I've complained about a Tesco colleague following me out the store to the bus stop and sitting with me, telling me I was beautiful and asking me for my number. He made me feel uncomfortable so I emailed. The store were very apologetic and the area manager contacted me to say he understood that it made me uncomfortable and apologised.

My partner works in HR at a food retailer, and he said that he expects his colleagues not to try to chat people up and if they made someone feel uncomfortable in any way, they would face disciplinary action.

It's harrassment and catcalling = unacceptable.

Complaining I am all for. .. making reference to the horror of non food related items being placed alongside food is pretty absurd. It is,after all, a napkin! I think a note to say you were conern ed at the comments made and the details placed into the bag would have been quite sufficient without milking it to death like some 3 part trilogy akin to lord of the rings.

It just feels like you weren't totally honest in you op of not wanting to complain... as when encouraged you let loose all the hounds and went to town !!

Its creepy and unacceptable i agree.

I would have made a more basic complaint though.

the complaint it a bit ott. Lots of disgusted, extremely, etc. It was creepy of him, but the complaint letter sounds a bit hysterical tbh.

He could be sending them to teenage girls as well...needs nipping in the bud by employers

You did the right thing although I too, woukd have worded it slightly less strongly.

I think you did the right thing. It isn't a complement to be asked to send pics for someone's wank fodder. It could be a dare or prank that really hurts someone. And yes you do have to think about abuse. 1in 10 women, and probably more returning home to somewhere that isn't safe for them. He needs to have this challenged before something serious happens, he's also making himself pretty vulnerable there. Hope u gave the letter in

Also to those being massively harsh on the OP. Name calling etc. There's this thing called sisterhood, look it up.

What an arrogant little tossbag. Surely he knew KFC for two isn't for one. Definitely complain. 'Send pics' honestly wtf is wrong with men.

How about a pic of you and your DP kissing and then a pic of a fist hitting a mellon?
That should get the message across. And yes, tell his boss!

I apologise OP for saying you sound like a hysterical nutjob.the nutjob bit wasn't called for. You do sound hysterical though in that email.. I think you would have communicated your point more effectively with a more toned down complaint with less reference to non regulated non food items 🤐

I think you did the right thing. For balance, I had an Ocado delivery driver tell me I was gorgeous when he was unloading my shopping a few years back. He then texted me (having taken my number off his delivery sheet) to say 'Sorry, hope that wasn't too forward :p'. I didn't reply (and DP found it hilarious) but at no point did I feel threatened. He was being flirty, I wasn't interested, no harm done.

However the napkin with the contact details is one step too far and the 'send pics' is hugely inappropriate. Just the contact details and I'd have been on the fence. 'Send pics' is such a load of vile, misogynistic, rude bullshit that it rather makes the decision to complain easy.

Although that said I don't think I'd want him fired - he's clearly an idiotic teenager, I'd just want them to give him hell and stop him ever doing it again.

That ocado driver was hugely inappropriate and unprofessional too.

Sorry just been catching up on these.
I came for advice which was really appreciated and had anyone flagged it up as OTT at the time I'd have taken that on board but no one did at the time, I appreciate not everyone's around all the time, but that's that now I'm afraid
The post about being pack led is fair enough, again I came here for opinions and guidance and was quite surprised at the majority opinion at making a complaint - I said all along I'm not looking to get anyone fired but stop him doing it again to another girl or woman, and as a lot of you women said you'd be annoyed/ would complain, I did.

I wrote it, with a lot of DPs influence and he was really annoyed and I was quite taken back by it. I'm sure everyone here has written things in haste or in an emotion filled setting, but it is what it is! It's sent now.

I came on AIBU to get honest responses so and it's nice to see both sides and was fully expecting a bit of a bashing too.

Thanks for all your input

Ha! The little creep!

The complaint will stand with just the evidence of what he did. I don't think you need the bit about 'unregulated items' - you don't get less 'unregulated' than a Bargain Bucket