AIBU DH wants to invite MIL on our holiday

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DH always suggests taking his DM on holiday as he is very close to her. I always say no, thank you.

We haven't had any time off work since Xmas and our last holiday was August last year. We both work FT.

Husband is normally away mon-fri and some weekends with work. I freelance and taking time off work is difficult (for me) as I know the amount of money I lose from not working.

This week husband is off and I am off tue-fri. We have a just turned 2year old DD who goes to nursery full time.

We are renting a cottage 2hrs away from us and about 2 hrs away from DH mother.

I am looking forward to our time away as a family as special time together is rare & I worry about the time I am missing with my DD.

DH has just suggested we invite his mother along wed-thur, 2 days, "just" 1 night. WTF

I am really pissed off and got a bit angry at him.

He says it's the only time in the next month or so we'll be able to see her and we haven't seen her since January so makes sense (in January she stayed for 7days having only just returned from 5days at hers after Xmas). I said whilst she is absolutely lovely it totally changes the dynamics of the holiday and I want to spend time with my DD not have someone else competing for time with her.

As I said no he is pissed off with me and not speaking.

AIBU??

Maybe he thinks it'll be nice for her. His daughter is her granddaughter and it sounds like she's on her own.

It sounds as if they make sure she isn't left on her own too often Pigeon* as they seem to have spent quite a bit of time with her already this year.

Perhaps now it's time for them to have some quality time without his mum.

For what it's worth, I'm on my own, but perhaps I have a different take on family relationships.

No no, I agree and said that same thing earlier in the thread. I just mean I can see why he might feel inclined to include her.

Fair enough.

No Astrid they are the cultures I didn't think did multi generational living as a standard. I wasn't just listing cultures, what would be the point in that?

can younot go and see her after holiday, drive there and let mil/grany spend time with h4er gc

you can have a break

i understand you dont want her on holiday and its really have your time away

"Husband is normally away mon-fri and some weekends with work."
So basically holidays are the only time you get to spend more than two days in a row with your husband? And he wants his mother there too? Hell no.