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Son is talking about a previous life?!

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racheyc · 17/03/2017 15:04

I don't really think that as I don't think I believe in any of that, but my son who is 3 keeps saying he wants to go home and his dad really misses him, he wants to go back to his blue house. He says he wants to go home about 10 times a day and randomly says my dad misses me. DH to him is daddy, and I have asked him when DH is on face time (he works away during the week) is this your dad, and he says no mummy, that's daddy, that's not dad! So he doesn't mean DH. Has anyone ever experienced this?!

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Ohyesiam · 17/03/2017 21:09

Ooooops, too many odd experiences not to be, I just think we don't have the science to explain it all yet.
My son used to tell me lots of anecdotes of when I was his mum before. We both looked different apparently, and a different dad (!). I enjoyed thinking of us being together on goingly.
He didn't mention it after he was about 4.

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racheyc · 17/03/2017 21:16

Maybe this is the age where, if it is anything like that (woo/post life stuff!), and not saying it is, it is starting to come out. Could also be his imagination getting bigger. I am going to see if he brings any more details up or anything and see if he says anything to DH this weekend. He has been playing up way more than normal this week too, I don't know if that is a coincidence or he is worried about anything, I really hope not. We have a happy family unit but obviously DH being away Monday to Friday is hard for us all and we all miss him.

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BlondeGinger · 17/03/2017 21:21

My grandma has a story about how her DS (my uncle) used to say he wanted to go back to the farmhouse he lived in, he needed to collect the eggs. He'd never actually visited a farm and was very serious about it. I think he was about 3.

GuinefortGrey · 17/03/2017 21:50

I used to "fly" down the stairs too as a small child. I have very, very vivid memories of jumping off the landing (the stairs in our house were very steep), flying down and landing on two feet at the bottom unharmed. I'm absolutely fascinated to read that other people have also experienced this. I also have memories of being in my bedroom and the lights flashing on and off by themselves on several different occasions and hiding under the bedclothes so I couldn't see it . I really hope these "memories" were just dreams as they really make my skin go cold even thinking about them now.

I have long had a belief that memories can be inherited or somehow imprinted in our genes just like all the other things we inherit through them.

DD4 used to talk about her "brother" who was called Holly (?!?) but he died by being run over. She was about 3 at the time and talked about Holly constantly for about 6 months or so. At the time we thought it was just an invisible friend, but who knows!

Goawayquickly · 17/03/2017 22:05

Yes! The lights flashing on and off and also the light spinning. I believe these were night terrors. I would hAve been a toddler and I'm nearly 50. I remember them clearly

Ragdoll545 · 17/03/2017 22:08

I've got one that's always creeped me out, I've always had a huge fear of drowning and of water. When I was about 8 we went to Portsmouth and on hms victory for a look around. I stopped and turned and saw a room and had this insane feeling that I knew it and I'd been there before. I hadn't. I also had that cliche of a white feather floating down but I was below deck and there was nowhere that feather could have come from!! Still freaks me out now and I'm in my 30s!

Atenco · 17/03/2017 23:53

Another one here. My dd must have been about two and a half when she first told me a story starting with "When I was big". I think she lived in a cottage, had two children and it burnt down with them inside it.

I don't believe in reincarnation either, so I have no explanation.

Oh yes and she also saw angels.

FunkyChunk · 18/03/2017 00:12

My DD and my sister were the same.

I was in hospital for 5 days before having DD. She eventually turned up 15 days late, 30 minutes into what would have been my grandmother's 100th birthday.
Her middle name is my GM's name, lets say Rose, although she has a completely different surname.

When she was around 3, for WEEKS she would get really distressed when anyone called her by her name. She would absolutely insist that her name was Rose Jones (my GM full name). "That is NOT my name, my name is Rose Jones!!!"
As this was only just calming down, I was washing up at the sink when she came up to me and thoughtfully said "Do you remember when was your grandmother?" And walked off.
Grandmother wouldn't be in her vocabulary at that time (we say Nanny/Nan), and she wouldn't have known my GM's surname.

My sister was also around 3 when we were visiting family in the SW, the news came on and mentioned Bristol. We are from London, she had never been to or even heard of Bristol before.
Sat on the floor playing with her toys, she didn't even look up but said quite factually "I was a nurse in Bristol and I lived on X street".
My Mum was always too freaked out to look it up!

Poppiesway1 · 18/03/2017 00:12

My ds2 used to do this also. He was at nursery (approx 3 yrs old) he would tell them about his other mummy. They assumed it was a step mum (although ex dp and I were still living together at that point!) but he would also say I wasn't his real mummy and was I was borrowing him. He used to talk to his "real" mum! And he named his teddy bear after his brother who had died when he fell from the tree when they were playing
There's a road in Norwich called elms hill which he was petrified of when he was little and in particular one shop he point blank would not go in. He'd been in there with his other mummy and it scared him.
My dm went to a clairvoyant who knew about ds2 and told my mum to tell me to talk to him when he was half asleep and ask him questions then, he would be able to answer me more at that point.. I could never get him to talk as he was at the mid conscious point though.
He used to have invisible "friends" who would randomly appear.. sometimes we'd pull up on the drive and he'd say "oh so and so is waiting for me to talk to them" it would freak me out sometimes.
He never mentions it anymore.. but he is 10 now. He thinks it's hysterical that he used to say such things..

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 18/03/2017 00:12

I got half way through so I don't know if someone already supplied this info about the kid who apparently remembers being a pilot: skeptico.blogs.com/skeptico/2005/07/reincarnation_a.html

Long and short is that pertinent information was left out of the doco to get ratings. What they didn't mention is that the whole fantasy started after the kid was taken to a WWII museum and shown all around the plane he knew so well. His parents are utterly surprised in the doc so they're either very stupid or they're frauds. Which do you think is more likely?

My son has often surprised me with how well he knows the insides and outs of many trains. He has many stories about how he drives them, is an engineer etc. This is from 2yo.

Kids have an amazing ability to remember things and build fantasy around them. I think it's sad that people can't just see how wonderfully imaginative their kids are so go for these explanations.

If you want to investigate you should (because it would be so awesome if any of this were true) but make really sure that neither you nor anyone else ask leading questions or supply any possible detail. I expect the story you end up with will be full of adorable ramblings that occasionally touch on several truths because that's how random stuff works. Please don't look up every blue house in the U.K. and find out that an "Emily" lived near one and take this as proof.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 18/03/2017 02:29

Blonde, he was never once exposed to a book with farms in it? Ever? Collecting eggs on a farm? I'd be more surprised if he hadn't read several.

I urgently had to get into a cannon and be shot into a airship several times today...

UptownFlunk · 18/03/2017 03:10

I'm not woo at all and my feeling about this sort of thing has always been that it's not reincarnation, more that it is inherited memories of some sort. I've always thought that was what deja vous is.

munchkinmaster · 18/03/2017 08:25

As much as I would love to think me and my kids could ride the darma bus together forever I think it's prob just imagination run wild. It's obviously a really common developmental stage and pretty specific to age 2 etc.

I think it's a completely different thing to that woman people mentioned who tracked down her elderly "children." I think she was probably a bit of a poor soul who was unhappy in her own life.

www.csicop.org/sb/show/case_of_reincarnation_reexamined

CuppaSarah · 18/03/2017 09:19

My dd at 3 told me when she was big and I was little she was my mummy, a long long time ago.

bookwormnerd · 18/03/2017 09:40

My daughter used to talk about the other house ( we have always lived same place with children) she said it was in fields, i just asked her and she said it was all white and had a brown roof in the fields, i asked when she lived there and she said before I was born,when she was younger she said she lived there when she was big. She said it was a long time ago. She now says made up now older but when younger she was very definate about it so who knows. I believe in reincarnation.

Talith · 18/03/2017 15:43

If you have a wee one, say under 4 ask them if they remember being in your tummy. The younger they are the freakier the responses - frequently they claim they do remember.

thegreylady · 20/03/2017 18:13

When my grandson was about 3/4 he asked me where I was before I died because "everyone is somewhere before they get dead then they get alive again."

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notarehearsal · 23/03/2017 16:24

I wonder if it is memory being passed through the genes? You know like eye colour etc

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HolditFinger · 23/03/2017 17:17

I just asked DD (3.7) if she can remember where she was before she was with Mummy and Daddy. She said 'I was scared because Mummy and Daddy went away and I had to live with Charlie' and burst into tears
I wish I hadn't asked her now. She also used to say she wanted to go home most days.

milkjetmum · 23/03/2017 17:22

Dd2 (now 3) talks often about her brother who died. No brothers here... I keep thinking preschool must think we have had some kind of tragedy! We try not to make a big deal out of it so as not to encourage it, but she keeps bringing it up!

Talith · 25/03/2017 12:57

Boopsy I think that film was called The Bluebird. It freaked me out!

corythatwas · 25/03/2017 13:25

Not wishing to rain on anybody's woo-y parade, but this was the age that my niece pointed to a house they were passing and earnestly insisted that her cousins used to live there "until the lions came...".

Am I really supposed to believe that this represents some pre-birth memory of relatives being devoured by free-ranging lions? In Sweden? Doesn't sound very plausible.

At a similar age, my nephew burst into tears because a man on the bus had sat down on the (seemingly) empty seat and was squashing his friend.

Dd was a little bit younger when she claimed to have three children. Sadly, we lost our grandchildren on returning from holiday in Normandy: they liked it better in France so jumped off the boat and swam back...

I do not believe there is a single child in my family who has not made up stories, both about past lives and about imaginary friends. Ds had his own imaginary country with its own language, which he explained in detail. As a linguist I found it very interesting.

I still daydream and make up immensely long stories with myself as the central character. Many of them involve the past. But at the age of 53, I have learnt not to go telling them to other people as if they had actually occurred.

corythatwas · 25/03/2017 13:27

And I still have those semi-waking dreams of being able to float off the bed and levitate. It feels very real but 53 years of experience have taught me that I'm never quite going to be able to sustain it for long enough to be useful...

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