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Son is talking about a previous life?!

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racheyc · 17/03/2017 15:04

I don't really think that as I don't think I believe in any of that, but my son who is 3 keeps saying he wants to go home and his dad really misses him, he wants to go back to his blue house. He says he wants to go home about 10 times a day and randomly says my dad misses me. DH to him is daddy, and I have asked him when DH is on face time (he works away during the week) is this your dad, and he says no mummy, that's daddy, that's not dad! So he doesn't mean DH. Has anyone ever experienced this?!

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Gerbilmum · 17/03/2017 17:44

I'm a massive wimp, dont watch horror movies ect and it didn't freak me out. Just put a different perspective on things

grannytomine · 17/03/2017 17:49

One of my sons did this, again it started when he was 3 and had stopped when he was 5 or 6. He wishes he could remember what those memories were but it is all gone now. I have 4 kids and 4 grandchildren and funnily enough his little one is now 3 and guess what they have started talking about? Yes the latest talk is all about "when I was big" and it is all bit puzzling.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 17/03/2017 17:53

I'm showing my age now, but about 25 years ago there used to be a programme called Strange but True. I remember vague details of one episode where a family visited an old house - like a National Trust property.

Their little boy started to explain details of the house and said he used to live there. He then went on to give details of the house (hundreds of years ago) that only historians would have known including pointing to a wall but saying that the door was in the wrong place etc.

Turned out the doorway had been changed and layouts slightly changed. Where he said old doors used to be turned out to be correct. All very creepy and there was no way this little boy could have known about the changes to the property which occurred a few hundred years ago.

grannytomine · 17/03/2017 18:00

My son didn't talk about another family but he did claim to know me when I was a little girl. Apparently I wasn't well behaved and he was very disapproving about it.

niceupthedance · 17/03/2017 18:03

DS did this when he was 2.2 so just when he was really learning to speak. I put him in the car one morning and he said "do you remember when you were an old lady and I used to look after you? I drove an olden days car. Then I tried to come to you in your tummy when you were 16 but I was too small so I had to go back".

That creeped me out because I had a pregnancy which ended when I was 16. And I don't think he had any concept of age at that time either.

thefairyfellersmasterstroke · 17/03/2017 18:16

When my son was about 3 he used to talk about the things he had done, like riding a moterbike, "when he was man". I used to ask him if he meant things he would do when he became a man, but he said no, he'd already done them.

schoolofconfusion · 17/03/2017 18:18

My Mum is not at all woo but had this experience and as an adult visited a place she had not been before and completely freaked out. Knew her way round but couldn't explain why and had a really bad feeling.

DownTownAbbey · 17/03/2017 18:22

I had the flying thing. It was in the living room though, no where near any stairs. I remember very clearly jumping on the sofa and chairs with my little brother then hovering up with my nose by the light fitting for ages. I know it couldn't have actually happened but the memory I said very clear. I would have been about 5. Fascinating to hear I should have been flying down the stairs (trust me to do it wrong Grin ).

unicorn5629 · 17/03/2017 18:25

Wavybluesky I have had similar dreams. Nazi nightmares I call them, I've had them for ages. So far I've put them down to what I believe to be a really scary and dark period in history that I'm terrified of happening again or being in a situation those poor people were subjected to. But your post has made me think?!

Topseyt · 17/03/2017 18:45

I can't think of any stories to add here, but just wanted to admit that this both fascinates me and creeps me out in equal measure.

I did have an invisible and imaginary friend when I was a toddler/preschooler. I do remember having the friend, and that friend was a boy. Other than that I recall no detail at all though. None.

Tweedledee3Tweedledum · 17/03/2017 19:04

I am sitting in my sons room in the pitch dark whilst he falls asleep. Enjoying all the stories and terrified to stand up and leave the room.

RachelRagged · 17/03/2017 19:20

After my nan died my then 5 year old DS asked what happens now so I described a burial as I felt appropriate and he accepted that. Some minutes later he said "It's cold in the ground" and then proceeded to inform me he had been a soldier in ww2 and shot and died. I wonder if he meant cold ON the ground as his past self died? Made me sad at the time.

DS is 13 now and has no memory of it, and no interest in soldiers.

Miniwookie · 17/03/2017 19:27

My DD talks about 'when I was a big girl' a lot. I always thought she was just getting mixed up between big and little, but maybe not!

73kittycat73 · 17/03/2017 19:36

I think this: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2852451-to-ask-what-s-the-creepiest-thing-your-child-has-ever-said
is the thread with all the other lives stories. Sorry if it's not.

wanketyblank · 17/03/2017 19:40

Look up a book called "past lives, future lives" by Jenny Cockell. An amazing account of past life recognition where she managed to track down her 'children' who were elderly whilst she was in her 30's

Gib1234 · 17/03/2017 19:45

My ds (now 14) did this from as soon as he could speak until about 3.5,he would also scan phone books and directories (although he couldn't read at the time !!!!), he would become extremely distressed about it and to be honest it really upset me,because I couldn't give him the answers he was looking for.
He seen a photo of my grandfather,who passed away 4yrs before ds was born and stated 'that was me when I had white hair'
Showed ds the same photo last year and he had no recollection of it.
So op,please don't despair,it does get better!!

DionFortune · 17/03/2017 19:53

I read a really interesting book called 'Children's past lives' by Carol Bowman with loads of stories like this. There is an Internet forum too, some quite haunting ones where children have recalled loads of details and some very freaked out parents. There is one where a little boy remembered being a fire fighter in 9/11. 😳

RhodaBorrocks · 17/03/2017 20:04

My DS never could go into specifics, apart from one time, but he always used to talk about "in my last life..."

Then he started saying "I wonder what my next life will be like. I hope you will come with me again." When questioned if he thought we came back after death he said quite authoritatively, "Oh yes, some people more than others. I've only come back a few times."

The one time he went into detail was at school. He described a car accident where he and his whole family was killed, including his brother (he is an only child). School pulled me aside to ask if he'd had a brother because he'd been really sad and really went into detail and the only bit they couldn't make sense of was that he said we all died. I bullshitted a bit and said he'd probably been confused because his uncle had died in a car accident before he was born, but as we discussed it later I asked him how he'd thought of it and he told me "Well that was in my last life before I died and came to you!"

He forgot his "last life" around 5 or 6, but carried on talking about choosing his "next life" until he was around 7, and asked questions about reincarnation. Luckily his DF had converted to Buddhism and was able to talk reincarnation with him!

Now he just thinks it's amusing he used to think that and finds it comforting to think we might come back.

unicorn5629 · 17/03/2017 20:17

Gib that's really interesting ! Wouldn't that be a nice thought to know our deceased loved ones are reincarnated back to us? It's an eerie thought however. I've read somewhere that babies and children are more aware of ghosts and spiritual activity as they haven't yet grown a reality filter. I believe that spirits are everywhere but we can't see them as our other senses have matured as we grow up? Who knows, I wish there was a way of knowing !

BenLinusatemyhomework · 17/03/2017 20:29

My middle boy used to talk about when he was a "grown up Daddy" when he was about the same age. Stopped when he was 5/6.

He would describe his house which sounded like a big farm house with a porch or veranda, a big black car with the steering wheel on the other side and he owned a shop. He told us he had a mummy (wife) and his Dad lived with them. They had seven children, girls and boys and lots of animals. He would talk quite specifically about one of the girls and how she would make everybody laugh.

He would often ask me to take him home and one time when we were watching ET he became very distressed because he wanted to go to his home too and see his children as he was very worried about them and missed them - it was quite heartbreaking at the time as he was truly bereft and I didn't know how to comfort him other than to say that I would try and find his children. Mercifully it dissipated.

wavybluesky · 17/03/2017 20:45

Unicorn it makes you wonder doesn't it. I do believe we have lived past lives.

WatchMeSoar · 17/03/2017 20:58

Unicorn

The way reincarnation was explained to me was when we rebirth we go where our attachments are but we have to have the right karma to do it.

Its like getting on a bus and knowing the destination but also having the fare to pay for it.

I agree its a lovely concept.

Sittinginthesun · 17/03/2017 20:59

My friend's DS spike about a previous life. Started when he was around 2 years old, until he was 4 or 5.

He was very clear - he talked about his other Mummy (who wasn't as nice), his wife, her name, how they went abroad on a big ship, the street name where he lived.

She wrote it all down, but hasn't been able to trace it yet.

My friend is the most unwoo person ever.

Ohyesiam · 17/03/2017 21:06

I am a massive wimp, won't do horror movies, or even violence. But I'm ok with certain aspects of woo,, I've had too meant of experiences not to be

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