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Son is talking about a previous life?!

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racheyc · 17/03/2017 15:04

I don't really think that as I don't think I believe in any of that, but my son who is 3 keeps saying he wants to go home and his dad really misses him, he wants to go back to his blue house. He says he wants to go home about 10 times a day and randomly says my dad misses me. DH to him is daddy, and I have asked him when DH is on face time (he works away during the week) is this your dad, and he says no mummy, that's daddy, that's not dad! So he doesn't mean DH. Has anyone ever experienced this?!

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1horatio · 17/03/2017 15:52

I have family friends that went to a seafood restaurant with maybe their... 3 year old son.

Anyhow, they had shrimp (the one with the tail on. Or is the correct English term crevette? Idk).

The little boy had never eaten them with the tail still on but just seem to know what to do.

They obviously asked and he was like....

"Yes, we used to eat these really often Daddy used to bring them home" (in German, not in English, but eh...) They were a "bit" shocked as well.

Idk, it's all a bit "wooo", isn't it? But who knows?

I was, when I was little, apparently very convinced that "God" was everyhwere. And once held a little speech at the doctor's office how God was in the plants and my breath etc. My mother and the doctor were obviously super surprised. I don't remember it anymore (unfortunately...)

We had never gone to church or anything, btw. And my dad is a convinced atheist.

rumblingDMexploitingbstds · 17/03/2017 15:55

I was pushing my 2 yr old nephew on a swing when he casually started talking to me about how the swing was like a spitfire plane but he'd had another spitfire plane, a 'big one' which was a long way from here, and he went long distances in it and something about a fire. He started the whole conversation with a cheerful "before I was dead".

I made a lot of mm, that's nice noises, swallowed the cold chills, and he's never mentioned it since.

Sylvannas · 17/03/2017 15:55

Don't get me wrong, I'm one of those people who believes in these sorts of things.
In your sons case, could it be he's had a very vivid dream? One of those dreams where it's just so real, creeps you out a bit as an adult. Maybe it's his way of dealing with it.

littleoldladywho · 17/03/2017 15:57

Lol. Dd2 had a whole other imaginary family. It was v sweet until they disappeared and she cried for two days. This imaginary thing is a really normal developmental stage, and is akin to imaginary friends. Some kids just have an entire family of them. Some research suggests more likely in kids of higher ability (contextual comparisons with kids of same age).
But you know, if it pleases you to consider the woo, it's a fun way to spend the next six months until the other family disappears. Grin

ShowMePotatoSalad · 17/03/2017 15:59

My nephew went through a phase of saying he lived at my house...this is my house isn't it aunty potato? We live in this house don't we...when we get back to our house I want to go into my garden and play". I just read it as him testing boundaries and understanding how houses and homes work, who lives where and when it is classed as "your" house. He would visit regularly and stay over etc but he's never lived there. So your son and the whole wanting to go home thing, to me it just seems like he's trying to understand the concept of homes and living somewhere etc.

Janey50 · 17/03/2017 16:01

My late DM used to say that she thought I had had a previous life as from about the age of 2.5 intil I was 5 or 6,I would talk about 'my other house' and 'the bedroom I was in before'. And I would ask if we could go to a certain shop,or a park that my DM would have no clue what I was talking about. I DO have vague recollections of mentioning these things,but can't actually remember them happening! Childish fantasies perhaps? Or maybe I dreamt them.

SlothMama · 17/03/2017 16:02

When my brother was 3 he used to come out with creepy things all of the time my Nan used to always say that he'd been here before!
He had a weird fear of fire and asked our childminder if the toilet would set on fire among other objects.

He also said to my Mum whilst they were driving past a cemetery that, that was were bodies were dug up to be made into babies.
Used to freak my Mum out!

I have heard about a little boy who thought he was a WW2 RAF pilot and sat inside a Spitfire and could say what everything did. He was only about 3!

jellyfrizz · 17/03/2017 16:03

The airplane landing of the beach one was Barra:

My son used to talk about 'when I was big' when he was about 2 or 3. He wasn't big on detail though.

vaginasuprise · 17/03/2017 16:04

I'm almost 50 and still rememberWink but then again I also remember thinking I could fly down the stairs at the same ageGrin

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racheyc · 17/03/2017 16:08

It definitely does NOT please me to consider the woo! I am quite a scaredy cat with things like this. Glad other people have experiences of this though. I am liking the idea of him having higher ability and just creating an imaginary family in his head, yes, let's stick with that!!!

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racheyc · 17/03/2017 16:09

I am just thankful nothing like 'before I was dead' has been said!!

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anotherdayanothersquabble · 17/03/2017 16:11

If it is causing him / you distress you could see a Reiki practitioner. (Cue... a host of people saying do not give charlatans your money..)

If nothing else, the Reiki session will be gentle and relaxing. (Laying on of hands and channeling energy) Talk to the practitioner first, they may be able to do it from a distance. They should not lead your child but may ask them what they feel / see. They should also talk to you about what they 'find', but only if you wish.

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racheyc · 17/03/2017 16:12

DH is home tonight so it might be interesting to see if he says anything like it at the weekend when he is around, just in case it is anything to do with him just missing his daddy

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elephantcuddles · 17/03/2017 16:17

There was a documentary where a little boy said in a previous life he was a pilot in the war. He could name in detail parts of an aircraft and no one ever taught him these things, he had never watched a show where he would learn about this stuff. Here's a link I found to anyone who is interested.

Another little boy talked about a home in Cornwall he grew up in in a previous life. He could name specifically where it was so they took him there and he said yes, this is it. And started talking about the house in detail that no one would know unless they had been there before. He had never been there before.

I find this very interesting. I won't say it isn't possible.

wavybluesky · 17/03/2017 16:19

I often have strong dreams about being in hiding from the Germans in WW 2. i have young children and i feel such awful fear that we'll be found. I hear bombs going off all around as well. I often wonder if it was a past life.

wavybluesky · 17/03/2017 16:21

I meant to say Op, it's certainly not a ghost inside your child, but possibly he has a memory of a previous life.

Goawayquickly · 17/03/2017 16:21

I'm almost 50 and still rememberwink but then again I also remember thinking I could fly down the stairs at the same agegrin

Fly or float? Do you mean you just used to jump and were playing or did you actually think you could fly downstairs?

Claireshh · 17/03/2017 16:25

Show him this video. If Barra is the only place where planes land on the beach he might recognise it!

Then you would need to find the blue house on Barra!

LuxuryWoman2017 · 17/03/2017 16:30

The Barra boy is a famous one, it's a fascinating documentary. The OP isn't 't talking about Barra in regard to her son though!

wavybluesky · 17/03/2017 16:33

rumbling i know it's not meant to be funny but it just was. You going " mm that's nice" and then your nephew saying "before i was dead" , Shock your face must have been a picture.

Jux · 17/03/2017 16:33

DD used to be visited by a blue lady and a blue man. She didn't say mum and dad, or imply any relationship. I'm just intereste in the blueness.and your son is talking of a blue house......

rumblingDMexploitingbstds · 17/03/2017 16:37

LOL Wavy he thoroughly crawled my blood, little horror! Thankfully I was standing behind him pushing the swing. Happy, cute little toddler voice and everything.

Morphene · 17/03/2017 16:37

How do you know it is a previous life and not a future one?

More importantly, I would only be worried about this if your child never has dreams, never watches TV and never reads books. Otherwise this confusion is transparently coming from learning how to differentiate stories/dreams from real life.

palmsprings17 · 17/03/2017 16:38

My children when they were that age always spoke of previous lives too. Now my 4 year old grandson does the same. It's rather comforting in a way, especially when they have talked of us being together before. However, by the age of 5 or so, it stops, although a little longer for my son with learning disabiities. I have no answers, just know that it happens.

magpiemay · 17/03/2017 16:38

Gerbilmum I'm just reading that book!! This thread instantly made me think of Noah!