To visit an adult baby nursery

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AIBUE to visit an adult baby nursery to attempt to heal from some very early years childhood sexual abuse.

I have found one, and been offered a place to go visit, which does not provide any sexual / kink / fetish element (nothing wrong with that just not what I am looking for) alongside the adult "babying". It is run by a psychotherapist and appears to be run with clean, honest boundaries to transform early years traumatic memories.

I am so fed up of being unwell. I am pretty desperate and will literally try anything right now. I feel like I am falling apart and other services are not working, or terminating early, or not suitable.

MiddleClassProblem - that's Inner Child Therapy - I can't find it in the UK where I am sadly.

Thank you again everyone for explaining it all.

I didn't even know this was a thing. Best of luck op

bluntness you talk sense . its utter tripe.

that's Inner Child Therapy - I can't find it in the UK where I am sadly.

Have you thought about looking into some art therapy? The art therapists I've worked with all tend to focus sessions around exploring childhood ideas of art very much in the way pp has suggested with play doh and colouring

Op, I got a diagnosis of complex post traumatic stress disorder and completed a course of EDMR trauma treatment with a clinical psychologist specialising in trauma. The core trauma was pre verbal terror and powerlessness.

Please read Pete walkers book complex ptsd from surviving to thriving, consider your symptoms may fit in with this, and avoid this very adult dubious adult babying route.

Formerly - no, but I will have a look and see if I can find someone locally that provides art therapy. Thank you.

Innerchild theopy this is what i had in mind.

Though i can see the two are diffetent.. but maybe this is what they can provided.

Or even just art theorpy?
When i had pnd i used to go to group theorpy but we always did art projects. Would that be helpfull?

Psychoanalytic theory, in which psychotherapy is derived from, believes that psychological problems in adulthood are the result of problems within the childhood. So this type of therapy makes sense in the respect that the therapist is aiming to take the person back to their childhood in order to resolve problems that arose from it, like abuse. Make sure that the therapist if a member of a professional body and that they are suitably qualified.

This doesn't sound above board imo - but that said I didn't suffer the trauma that you clearly have.

What I'd be wary of doing though is inviting yourself to more trauma and sexual exploits by going down this road.

I wish you all the best. I'd reconsider first and perhaps explore talking therapy in which nothing is out of bounds.

Or drama therapy? This is widely available privately and well regarded.

They would change nappies

I'm sorry, but that rings all sorts of alarm bells.
All right for the freaks who get thrills from it.

Are you sure you haven't explored other more normal therapies?

I've often wanted to do a regression or hypnosis to get to my childhood issues. Just to know whether I was right or not. Sounds odd I guess but having 2 abusive parents that deny the majority of what happened if explain it away with reasoning that makes them look innocent but actually makes no sense just having confirmation that "yup you did have a shit time" would mean a lot. Sometimes telling yourself that or relay your story but not recalling ins and outs makes it hard iyswim

No. Bad idea.

Look for a therapist who specialises in EMDR.

Are you sure you haven't explored other more normal therapies?

Did you not read the bit where I've said I've been in multiple services over the last few years? Most services will not treat me as I need longer term therapy and there's no provision for it.

Thank you for all useful suggestions.

EMDR- I cannot have yet - I have to be better than I am currently. They were hoping to do it after the three years of psychoanalytical psychotherapy. They were worried about retraumatisation with the EMDR.

I do definitely want it in the future though.

My apologies.

But, I still think it sounds dodgy as hell.

There is no quick fix for trauma or PTSD unfortunately. The quickest way to begin working through it is with a reputable therapist, trained in EMDR, CBT or CFT. Art therapy is good also.

I really feel that if you were in the situation as a child where you were vulnerable and harmed then putting yourself in a vulnerable state could open you up to more trauma. What you really need to do is desensitize and reprocess the trauma and the emotions connected to it. It doesn't need to be twice a week, you could find a very good reputable therapist to treat you with EMDR once a week. You can always ask a therapist about their pricing structure, if they would be able to help you within your budget. You can also sort your own forms of art therapy out, colouring books, play doh etc at home that helps you focus on your inner child personally and in a way that can be discussed with a counsellor later on.

I have had EMDR and found it incredibly helpful. But tiring, and emotionally charged. I can't imagine acting out my vulnerable memories, I think it would really make me more anxious.

I wish you well.

No need to apologise. The whole reason I am asking is because I am not in a very "well" place right now and I need outside judgement incase anonymously on this one.

I value all the input that I am getting, especially the suggestions. I have just ordered the book.

Psychoanalytic theory, in which psychotherapy is derived from, believes that psychological problems in adulthood are the result of problems within the childhood. So this type of therapy makes sense in the respect that the therapist is aiming to take the person back to their childhood in order to resolve problems that arose from it, like abuse.

No, it does not make sense. Any reputable and switched on therapist, who has undergone rigorous training and is fully cognizant of the importance of healthy boundaries, would not be agreeing to change the nappies of a client or snuggling up for cosy mummy-cuddles.

Safe touch can sometimes be appropriate in a therapeutic setting, but it has to be carefully handled. It has all kinds of power to re-traumatize a client.

What is EMDR?

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing - it's for traumatic memories. I haven't been allowed to have it yet so I don't know how it works but perhaps someone who has had it could explain it?

I think this adult baby therapy is more likely to retraumatise you than any EMDR. I too am an early years survivor and I wouldn't touch this with a barge pole.
In my experience (and I function well nowadays) the best therapy is one which focuses on you, here now present warts and all, and works forward from today.
Please talk to BACP.

Hoffman Process is vaunted as a quick fix but I don't know how that fits in with a complex PTSD diagnosis or early years abuse.

Out of interest, what is the cost per session of the adult babying thing?

Absent at the end I also said that she has to look for a suitably qualified therapist and one that is registered with a professional body, so not any quack. I know some therapies like this involve a reborn process, whereby the person experiences a kind of like re birth. A nursery similar to this, would by for a fetish purpose, or sombody wanting to be a child again for whatever reason.