To think that if you're pregnant and want a seat, just ask?

[yummycake123]

I was on the train this morning; I had a seat by the door, I was reading the news on my phone. After a few stations I looked up and noticed a lady standing in front of me. She was wearing a belted coat and had a bit of a "bloat". I was wondering if she was pregnant or not, we made eye contact, I didn't see a Baby on board badge. A minute later another woman asks loudly in my direction "Can any of you guys give your seat to this lady?!?". I stood up and offered my seat and said "Sorry I didn't realise...". As I stood up I saw her baby on board badge on the side of her chest...which wasn't visible from where I was sitting.
I was a bit mortified because I probably ended up looking like a selfish cow to everyone around me. These are strangers so I shouldn't really care as I won't see them again, but it annoyed me.
AIBU to think that if you're pregnant and want a seat, just ask?!
I've been pregnant, I've commuted, I've always just asked when I needed a seat. (sometimes I didn't mind standing up...)

Its a shame that while you of course needs a seat to "gear up for your day" you feel that lifting head and looking around actually requires so much effort you just cant bring yourselves to do it. I suspect you purposefully get lost in yourselves so you don't feel guilt tripped into giving up your seat if you clock someone who does actually need it.

Load of rubbish. I'd happily give up my seat but no, I will not rubber neck for my entire journey in case someone needs a seat. I'd expect them to ask. I am sorry that some people have been rude but a majority of commuters are not like that.

YABU. When I was pregnant I would ask. Sometimes I would be ignore, sometimes I would get a seat. Sometimes I would get abuse. I can understand why some women just want to avoid this situation.

basinHaircut
The woman who shouted out was a cunt and the pregnant lady was probably as embarrassed as you were

Not necessarily. I once got on a very crowded train at 30 weeks pregnant and felt incredibly faint all of the sudden. Being so woozy I went mute trying to deal with it and If it wasn't for a person who spotted my badge and the fact I was struggling and did exactly what that woman did and asked for a seat for me (which I appreciated) I'd have been on the floor and train would have been delayed. I was grateful for the intervention.

OP I have always asked for seats for pregnant women on behalf of them (especially if the train/tube was so crowded there was a chance their badge would not be seen like in your case) but I always checked if they needed it first.
Not to make the sitters feel bad but to get the woman a seat.

I'm 31 weeks pregnant with spd. I'm also pretty shy so I struggle to ask for a seat. It's rare I get offered one.

I live in the NE so no BoB badges here. People in the priority seats usually notice but then close their eyes or get engrossed in Candy
Crush!

I was rarely offered a seat when heavily pregnant with twins, walking with a stick and obviously in pain. The one time I did ask I was given a 'pregnancy isn't a disability' lecture.

I always had to psyche myself up to ask..... I.e as soon as I got in the train, find the priority seats and say firmly and politely 'would anyone be able to offer me their seat, please?" That means someone who is able to stand would offer rather than someone who is less able. And I made sure I said please.

Currently 14 wks pg with DC2. Stood an hour to work and an hour back yesterday. Have SPD really early this time. The Baby On Board badge is coming out next week, I can't stand for an hour with sickness and pain.

People often don't notice that I use a stick until I ask, people are often in there own worlds while commuting. Although the amount of people who have pointed out that I don't need a seat because I'm young (despite both visible and invisible disabilities) does piss me off.

A relative of mine no longer offers, after spending 10 minutes being shouted at after wrongly assuming someone was pregnant

Going off topic but saying a quick hi to frazzle as I also remember throwing my unopened envelope containing my badge in the bin after losing my baby at 16 weeks. One of the many shitty moments. I remember you from other threads, hope ur ok xxx

When I was 8.5 months pregnant I was berated by a woman on the bus for not giving up my seat for an elderly woman. I didn't feel safe standing on a bus then, I thought I would fall on the baby. Does elderly trump pregnant?