To think wife is being a little bit silly?

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I am Irish and DW is English. Our son is 2 days old. She said we can go for a name that's Irish but works well in English too. The one we liked most was Dillon, she then goes "great, but I want it as Dylan"??? That then completely takes away the fact of it being Irish. she isn't getting it. This baby will never be named!!

Wow. What a bunch of arseholes some most of you are. If this was a female talking about her husband, it would be a completely different thread. Congratulations on the birth of your son OP.

Lol i get what your saying. What about Declan?

She should leave you. Hth. Bonadrag1988

HAHAHAHAHAHA - Please say you were joking. You must be great fun at parties HAHAHAHAHAHA

I see the men haters are out in full force, I get you op and she is a bit silly if you've explained why it isn't Irish lol, but in her defence she has just had a baby and her brain is probably mush and auto pilot for looking after baby. Congratulations and I second Declan, it's like Dillon and I think it's Irish, or at least I see it a lot where I live.

People, the Irish alphabet HAS NO "Y"
So yes, she is being silly if she is counting Dylan as her "allowing" and Irish name!

Goodness this thread took a heck of a turn.

DH is Danish so it was important to have names that cross over well. It was a huge challenge with our third child. We eventually agreed on a name about half an hour before being discharged 5 days after delivery.

You have more time in the UK to decide on a name. Take your time and get it right. Give your wife some time to get herself together. She is probably feeling rather vulnerable right now and something like this can tip some new mothers over the edge. Personally I was close to PND with sorting a name for our first. DH tried to push me into agreeing with what he wanted and I just lost it with him.

And not Dylan... It is welsh! I have always liked Daniel.

I have an Irish nephew called Dylan, I was surprised because to me its a very Welsh name. Apparently it has become very popular in Ireland in the last few years though. And as everyone has pointed out, Dillon is a surname and not an Irish name either. There are lots of lovely Irish names, Dylan / Dillon ain't one of them.

She's had a baby two days ago, cut her a bit of slack as her hormones will be all over the place and she's probably exhausted. She is being a tad U but you need to try and be understanding. Congrats on your new son.

She is being a tad U but you need to try and be understanding.

Where did the OP suggest she was being unreasonable?

Liam is a lovely name, congratulations on the birth of your son.
As another poster pointed out there's a sensitive history about anglicising Irish names and indeed the Irish language itself. And also the OP has never mentioned his religion if any or anything about a priest for the posters who presumed him Catholic or priest pleasing.

Dylan is Welsh, I have only seen Dillon/Dhillon in Indian families. It isn't an Irish name however it's spelt, and if you're double-barrelling please keep the first name simple, for the sake of the child.

Op I am Irish and dh is English. I wanted an Irish name but dh wanted something which would go with surname. In the end I got an Irish name but I wanted to spell it the English way as I didn't want the child to get grief. Instead everyone gets surname wrong.

Incidentally I haven't even read the full thread and I think people have been harsh with you op.

Aww poor op. I think you've had some rather harsh replies here and not much account taken of the fact that you also have just become a parent, not just your wife.

Fwiw, I get that the "silly" comment was lighthearted and that the william/liam name is a great way to have a English/Irish hybrid.

I think some posters, understandably, have leapt to the defence of your wife because they know how it feels to have just given birth, you really aren't firing on all cylinders at that point in terms of thinking about the origins of names for example i certainly wasn't anyway and any criticism can cut deep, even if it's not intentional. Enjoy the cuddles with your new ds!

I get your frustration OP, it's definitely Welsh and seems completely off the point of choosing an Irish name!

Some people on here are just ridiculous. Yes pregnancy and childbirth can be a shitty time in your life but millions of people do it everyday. And there's nothing wrong with using the word silly!

I'm not ridiculous by the way unihorn I just think the OP needed a reminder that his wife has literally just had a baby. Yes he has just become a father but that didn't require any particular physical effort. Just because millions of people do it everyday it doesn't lessen the impact of it. A bit like death really!

I was also quite when I read the first few posts. If something isn't clearly marked as humour, how can you know on the internet? It's not like you hear how the OP would say it.

And I guess because many of us remember how mushy brained we were after the birth etc many of us reacted a bit sensitively (and some clearly overreacted. Ending a relationship because of this. Still can't fully wrap my head around it!!)

Holy shit. I posted a flippant comment yesterday, but believe I may have contributed to the thread turning. If so, I apologise. You could tell mine was humour because quite clearly my wife hasn't castrated me - that sort of thing tends to get reported in the news. Also, not the usual men-hating stuff - given that I am indeed a bloke. So sorry if I added any stress. Congratulations on becoming a father. You will never be as wealthy or well rested as you were previously for the rest of your life!!

Anyway, what about Fintan (shortened to Fin). Mate of mine just went with it - it is a cracking name.

Raaaah I agree that fatherhood doesn't require any physical effort of course, but that doesn't mean the OP, or any men, don't work hard or suffer either. My daughter is 17 weeks old so birth is quite clear in mind.

My daughters birth was pretty stressful and I ended up with an emergency c section to remove the baby, who was halfway to coming out after pushing for 5 hours. I am well aware of the physical strains. However I'm pretty sure I acted rationally for most of the pregnant and birth. Also my husband took his holiday entitlement for the year to look after my daughter almost 24/7 in the first two weeks because I was struggling. He also looked after the two of us until I was able to walk and drive again. If the OP's situation had happened to us I would've thought me silly too!

Obviously my story is my own but fathers aren't quite as "thoughtless" as some people seem to be implying. Some reactions just seem a bit absurd considering the simple question asked.

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I just think the OP needed a reminder that his wife has literally just had a baby.

I doubt he has forgotten.