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What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

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Stardust1901 · 10/03/2017 15:51

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

OP posts:
JonSnowsWhore · 10/03/2017 17:27

Hahaha newpuppy I can imagine my own mum saying something like that to me! In fact now I'm pregnant with number 3 I think she has!

NewPuppyMum · 10/03/2017 17:29

Confused JSW

What's funny about it? I was so upset at the time, had depression and it still hurts.

Flashinthepan · 10/03/2017 17:30

These are awful but it's inspired me to share. I was standing at traffic lights when a lad leaned out his car window and shouted "I'd spunk right up you!" Everyone around me heard, I felt so humiliated. One man standing next to me did call them tossers or something. Also while running in had two very young boys, I'm guessing less than 12 sing that "what you gonna do with all that junk? Wiggle wiggle wiggle!" I'm a size 8 ffs!

Singingbird · 10/03/2017 17:31

Didn't happen to me, thank God, but I witnessed it. Local colourful drunk, well known in the area, likes to accost all and sundry for a 'chat'. He spots a middle aged, rather well to do lady...

"Hello John" she trilled
He yelled back "You're still quite an attractive woman... for your age! "

She looked utterly mortified.

JonSnowsWhore · 10/03/2017 17:32

Well you never really gave any tone away in your original comment so how was I meant to know that? Some of these comments we can laugh along with so I thought that's the way we were going, sorry! Confused

AlpacaPicnic · 10/03/2017 17:34

A 'friend' of my DH was said to him in front of me that 'If I was married to a girl like Alpaca, I'd be forced to go out and have an affair'
Wanker. DH didn't hear him but I did. If you are reading this Charlie, you can fuck off.

Oh, and a slight counter to all the people that say 'this doesn't happen to men' - we belonged to a gym for a while trying to lose weight, we were going several times a week and it was starting to work, we felt healthier and it was great! The last time we ever went, two women were standing next to DH as he was trundling away on a cross trainer and told him that he looked and smelt disgusting and he was putting them off. He didn't smell, he was sweaty but it was fresh sweat - y'know from the workout at the gym? He had a towel to wipe down his equipment afterwards, like we all did.
Fucking bitches. He wouldn't set foot in the place again and wouldn't let me complain to any of the staff either. Sad

Flashinthepan · 10/03/2017 17:39

My DH also got shouted at while running by a group of "men" who said: you shouldn't be running you should be at the gym working on your skinny arms!" So it's true it doesn't just happen to women.

ppeatfruit · 10/03/2017 17:42

I can't mind my own business so I told off a boke who was hitting his dog for 'running away' in the park. I knew he was going to swear at me in response, but he thought for a minute before calling me a 'tart'. As opposed to an old bag , so that was alright then Grin

Hassled · 10/03/2017 17:42

I'm shocked by some of these - you forget how many wankers exist out there.
My niece cheerfully told me that she'd seen pictures of me as a teenager and "you used to be gorgeous". I know she didn't think about how it sounded or whether she needed to stress the word "used" quite so heavily, but god it really stung at the time.

EastMidsGPs · 10/03/2017 17:44

Was at a local festival, lots of families and kids running around. I was walking back to my group from the toilets.
A boy of about 8 came running down a slope towards me just as I was lifting my arm to put by bag strap over my shoulder. Suddenly this very large, lobster coloured man (it was a hot day) came running up to me, his face inches from my face, and shouted at me to never to hit his kid again or he'd 'butt me one'.
His what I assume was his partner, stood nearby smirking along with the child.

The world seem to stop, and all went quiet around us, from heavens know where, I found myself turning to smirking woman and saying loudly ...something like, 'you look too intelligent to be with a man who threatens women, what a terrible example for this child'.
SILENCE. She then grabs thug's arm and says 'come away Vince'

Don't know how my wobbly legs kept me walking.

Since reflected on this and realise I put myself in potential danger.

A1Sharon · 10/03/2017 17:45

I've never actually brought this up with my bf, but once, about 10 or more years ago, we were on the phone, just yakking. I live 100 miles away from home town, and she had been out with a crowd of our friends the night before.
She just said, totally naturally, "Oh yeah, we were taking last night, and I meant to ask you. I know you love X (my DH) and are happily married, but would you really have married him if he didn't have so much money?"
We were only married a couple of years, the first in the group to get married, and I was so shocked! They had obviously had a good conversation about me and whether I had married DH for money-he was well off. I was so hurt and upset. Why would she talk about me, in such a nasty way, and then actually ask me if I had married him for money? WTF? She obviously bloody thought I had.

ladybugandcatnoir · 10/03/2017 17:46

A guy dh used to know the second time he met me said, you're not as ugly as I thought. I was stunned and been fuming about it ever since.

toffeeboffin · 10/03/2017 17:47

So sad that most of these are men directed at women Sad

Heinousfauxpas · 10/03/2017 17:48

Bloody hell, why do people feel they have the right to come out with this crap Angry.

About 3 years ago I was told to fuck off home. I was just walking down a road about 10 mins drive from where I live. Dressed in normal sports t shirt and leggings and doing a spot of quick walking to get fitter. I was so shocked and humiliated I couldn't say anything and nobody came to see if I was ok. Maybe no one heard, I'm not sure. He didn't shout but said it loudly and nastily.

toffeeboffin · 10/03/2017 17:51

Mine, unsurprisingly, was a group of lads.

Heard one say 'she's fit but she's a fat bitch'

ppeatfruit · 10/03/2017 17:54

EastMids Congrats for having the presence of mind to put a bully in his place!

Stiddleficks · 10/03/2017 17:54

I had a guy come upto me in a bar one and tell me l 'looked like the type of girl men would like to really dirty things to but would never marry!' I was too shocked to say anything back, didn't help that o was in a daye at the time!

Cultofpersonality · 10/03/2017 17:54

Shaved my hair off for Macmillan last year.
hated every minute of having no hair!
Walked past 2 young boys one day (both probably under 10). The younger of the two said 'that lady has big.....' the older boy interrupted him and said 'that's not a lady, that's a man'
I could have cried haha :(

user1479035803 · 10/03/2017 17:55

When my hair started growing back after chemo, I couldn't wait to get rid of the headscarves, so I ditched them as soon as I had a little bit of fluffy hair. Moved into a new flat and went to introduce myself to the neighbour when I saw her outside. She just looked me up and down and said "What's wrong with your hair?" I explained, and then she said "oh that's alright I suppose, I thought you were some kind of punk rocker". I was Shock

DevelopingDetritus · 10/03/2017 17:57

I was working in a food factory, they had floor scrapers, I felt something under my foot, looked down, there was a guy trying to scrape under my shoe, I said "what are you doing", he said "trying to scrape the shit off the floor" Shock. Bastard.

Etymology23 · 10/03/2017 17:59

When I used to work in a pub I Had someone a good 30 years older than me (and married to another lady who worked there) threaten to "spank" me if I asked them to move (from directly in front of the door out of the bar) one more time. I can't have been older than 17. I just stared blankly and said "excuse me please" and carried on. Retrospectively I wish I'd told him to fuck the fuck off. Eugh. Still makes me shudder years later.

Ponyboycurtis · 10/03/2017 18:02

I can't remember every bit of detail but I was parked in a P&C about to get out when a huge camper van type thing pulled in next to me (not in a P&C space). He left very little room on my side. I started to get out of the car, got the double buggy out of the boot & put it on the pavement in front of the car, got first baby out (passenger side) & then 2nd baby out (drivers side), really struggled as couldn't open door very wide due to his parking, I, very gently, touched his swanky van with my door, no mark/dent, I checked. I heard his door open and he sauntered around to me and stood there, smoking his pipe whilst I struggled to get baby out, I ignored him and he made a big show of inspecting his van, rubbing the spot etc. I strapped both girls in, looked at him and said 'it's ok, there's no mark, I've checked' - this is where it all gets a bit hazy, he then makes a comment along the lines of 'it better not be', I say 'pardon' he says something else so I say 'to be honest you've parked so close your lucky I didn't do any damage', no need for my comment but I was pissed off at his attitude by now, he was very tall and well built and was clearly trying to be intimidating, he then looked right at me and said 'why don't you just piss off you cheap little slut', I was absolutely gobsmacked and fuming, I didn't conduct myself well and launched a load of abuse back, to which he responded with 'just fuckoff you little tart'. By this time I realised there was a women sat in his van, so I knocked on the window and told her she didn't need to stay with a man like that and there were places she could go and numbers she could ring, he the marched towards me and told me to 'get the fuck away from her'......... by this time we had an audience and a kind man intervened and said something along the lines of 'mate I've been watching this and I think you just need to leave her alone', so to cut and already long story short - he drove off and I was beside myself with anger and frustration.........

ItWentInMyEye · 10/03/2017 18:08

I was genuinely accidentally rude to a close family member a few years ago Blush I was looking at photos of them from a good 30 years ago and without thinking said "wow, you were really thin weren't you?" Shock but I meant it as in, they looked like they had an eating disorder. Doesn't excuse it but I was mortified and still feel terrible about it now.

FlorenceandtheWashingMachine · 10/03/2017 18:10

I was in a big traffic jam today on the motorway and needed to move over as an ambulance was clearly to be seen and heard behind me with its blue light on. Silver Van Boy to my left refused to let me in and then decided to hurl abuse at me. Lord, he looked ugly with all that bile spilling out of his face!

I did get let in by the next car and can only hope that Van Boy felt bloody stupid when he realised why I'd needed to move. I kept an eye on the van for ages in the hope that he'd be using the services, so I could stop too and leave a note telling him that his mum would be ashamed of him*, but no such luck. What a charmless pratt.

*You never know, in ten years he might have suddenly realised I was right and decided to reform.

nicetoseeyoutoseeyounice · 10/03/2017 18:10

My family came to visit when my daughter was about 3 days old and I was having a chat with my mum. I said something like oops I spilt such and such down my chin and my mum goes "which one?" And starts sniggering. I had put on a lot of weight with that pregnancy but jokes on her, I've lost 5 stone now since daughter was born and she's probably gained about that much! (Daughter turns 2 in a few months). She's had 4 kids herself so you would think she would be a bit more sensitive with these things

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