People posting picture of their ill children

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So normally when I'm browsing on fb and see someone's posted a picture of their child on the sofa or in bed captioned aw my poorly baby 😢 I usually ignore it or if it's a friend I'll comment hope they feel better soon etc.
But yesterday someone on my friends list posted a picture of their child actually on a stretcher in the back of an ambulance captioned poor baby off to hospital. He's struggling to breathe.
I was imaging the scenario as this..
Paramedic - right ok we need to get this child to the hospital right now. Mum are you ready?
Mum - hang on can you just step back a sec whilst I take a photo.
Paramedic - umm.....
Mum - ok I'll just take one more so I can see which is best, ok got it. Hmm should I apply a filter. Which one will get me more likes do you think? shows paramedic the photos
Paramedic - um I'm sorry miss but we do really need to get to the hospital?
Mum - right of course. Let's go. Does the ambulance have wifi so I can post it on Facebook?
paramedic internally facepalms
BTW the child ended up being fine and is now home.
Aibu to think that that's just inappropriate for a mother to do?

Because they were busy living life instead of recording it.

Indeed.

And there is just as much to suggest the complete opposite.

There is certainly no consensus.

It's simplistic, naive and illogical to contend that before people connected online they were more connected offline, or happier, or busier, or anything else "better".

I have no issue with photos on Facebook of kids posing from their hospital beds or a selfie with mum etc. It just struck me as odd that in an emergency situation where the child was in the ambulance the parent would even think to stop and take a photo.
Plus the photo was posted en route to hospital which implies she was facebooking rather than comfort the child. I know this as she then 'checked in' a few minutes later

Starlight, I posted a post op and a few days after as the difference was amazing :) my dd had scoliosis surgery. I'd have liked someone to have criticised me after I'd spent 11 hours waiting for her to come through the surgery.....I think by that point they'd have been on the not friend spreadshit

YANBU - although you've imagined the scenario. I don't understand the need to post a photo like this. What's that about?
I knew someone who took a selfie of themselves in a neck brace, lying on a stretcher having been taken to hospital after breaking their neck coming off a bike. They posted it to FB.

It's not really posting the photo for the child's sake as they're not going to read comments or see 'likes'
Or sad emojis.

And there is just as much to suggest the complete opposite.

So by your logic...also none?

YANBU
I just cannot imagine even thinking about taking a photo on my child on a stretcher in the ambulance. I would just be worried sick that they would be ok. Ambulances don't come for nothing!

As for sending the ionic on FB... yep attention seeking all the way.

Uhhh yes i agree i have also seen pictures of sick children sleeping & in hospital beds recovering from operatons looking shocked!
I wonder when this generation of kids grows up what implications it will have for them seeing their upbringing piccies all highs & lows as a facebook album?!
It feels like the child is a possession & something to show off rather than a person. It is all about the parents ego look at my child & my life its all very sad & shows a lack of respect & privacy - are no things sacred any more? Even bloody pregnancy scans are posted on Facebook even the womb is public viewing area.

What I wonder is why anyone thinks it is interesting?!😂
Such screwed u times?!🙄

YANBU. It's awful to see such posts. I came off FB for this reason. Last year I was pregnant and saw a post one of my friends had 'liked'. I don't know the person whose post it was, but it was a photo of him holding his stillborn baby. So tragic and surely not something for FB. I can still see the photo now in my head, it was awful and just what I did not need to see, being pregnant.

I think its inappropriate. It amazes me some of the things people choose to share on social media. I personally use FB to keep in contact with friends and family. What i post is normally light hearted, never anything too personal where as i have certain friends who use it as an online diary. One friend in particular put that she got a spot on her lady bits recently as a status update!

Ah OP - YANBU.

DH & I were actually discussing this last night. Happens so often, we wondered if we were the unusual ones!

A friend posted photos all week of their DC in a hospital bed. To the minute updates too - regarding D&V. It's a usual feature on her wall (poorly children)
This morning another friend had posted a photo of her in bed with her poorly son. Last week, another friend again, that time chicken pox.

It's ridiculous - fully grown adults taking photos of their poorly children, so they can update it onto their social media.

By my logic its a complicated area of research that I have extensive experience in, and can 't be summed up with a line or 2 here.

Not this again.
Leave the parents alone.
No one knows their motivation. Its all assumption and projection.

Don't do it if you don't want to and scroll past if you don't like it.

So parents going through a hard time don't need support for their own sake?
I do think some of you need to examine why you are judging this. I'm not an over sharer on fb though at all. Someone I know is but I get it, she has a very complex life.
I do think adrenaline can make you do odd things as well..

The first day my daughter was in hospital I had over 30 phone calls to ask about her and any updates, after the first few I stopped answering as going through it all again was to me irritating.
I posted on Facebook and got 2 the next day to offer help with me eldest. To me it stopped the constant need to repeat myself and everyone knew what was going on, it was, looking back lovely so many people cared but they didn't realise they were not the first call of the day.
I only did this once she was settled, I would say stable but that took days after her lung collapsed, I also posted 3am ones as there is no sense of time in those wards and time goes so slowly in hospital!

I also think it's completely different than a phot at hospital before surgery.
Paramedic presents, the ambulance, issues with breathing, all that point towards an emergency. No towards time to think, take the phone out, take the photo etc...

Completely agree with Worral.

Although the entire point of social media is attention surely?

alfa what about those parent's need to acknowledge their child?
Are you posting photos of your baby on social media or showing them to friends?

Why is it 'surely not something for FB'? That is their child not a dirty little secret.

The Victorians used to take photos of their dead children. It where all the flamboyance of modern day funerals comes from and the concept of mourning. It's quite interesting if you aren't sensitive about that kind of thing.

No one knows their motivation. Its all assumption and projection

Exactly. Their kid is in an ambulance being hauled off to hospital and your reaction is to judge and post about them being inappropriate? How about just asking them how the kid is and don't be a dick about how they communicate with their friends about the situation?

Caz, every 24 hours in hospital is like two days :o no one ever sleeps!

AlfaM, to him it was still his baby. I agree it;s hard to look at, but it's his baby - there's no going home to flowers and fiddling with the car seat. That picture and time is very precious. It's not posted to make others feel anything at all, but often to respect that this little baby was here however briefly.
I think most of you just need to get off facebook or choose your friends very carefully or alter your settings. Surely it's full of annoying attention seeking ridiculous timelines. Sick children or bereavement don't meet that classification for me.

I wonder when this generation of kids grows up what implications it will have for them seeing their upbringing piccies all highs & lows as a facebook album?!

It feels like the child is a possession & something to show off rather than a person.

I understand people being proud of their children, but is it really right to post hundreds of pictures of your child on the internet?
Without that child's permission?
You are right, it is treating them as if they're possessions and something to be bragged about.

I can see some children suing their parents when they're older.
Can you do that?

I took a few photos when one of my DC was in hospital as a toddler having life saving treatment. She was very sick and it only took a few seconds but i wanted to record it. I cannot really articulate why, maybe incase that was the end for her, or to prove it happened as was such a shock, i don't know. I didn't upload them to Facebook but i did share them with friends and family so they could see her condition. I know it isn't exactly the same but if it helps people get through difficult situations then they shouldn't feel bad about taking and posting the photos.