Work forgot my birthday

[Skyrabbit]

I realise this is completely a non-problem!

None of my work colleagues have remembered it's my birthday.

The standard 'thing' here on a birthday is that everyone signs a joint card, and there's a whip round, and everybody goes for lunch/has cake.

Nobody has remembered. Nobody. I've been here 6 years ffs. All the birthdays are in the company diary.

I'm not a special snowflake who wanted a massive hoopla for 'My Special Day' - just a little disappointed - AIBU??

Yanbu.
If that's how birthdays are always done in your office then it's natural to be disappointed. Unless there is something huge happening at work which is overshadowing it.

I'd pop out and get a cake for everyone to share with their afternoon cuppa.

You must feel sad, maybe just ignore it and then try to break up the isolation from now on. Try to be friendly with a couple of colleagues, this will make your life easy.

I wouldn't mind much, as I am not a person who think birthday important. I once forgot my husband birthday, and he came back ealier as he suddenly remembered it was his birthday, so we went out for dinner.

But a card which says sorry we missed your birthday and circulate it!!

YANBU. As it's the norm, I'd be feeling quite miffed too.

Happy birthday!

Well, someone asked what I was doing this weekend, and I said I was going out tomorrow for my birthday.

There now seems to be 'something' happening - someone has rushed out to the shop....

That's really cheeky if everyone else's birthday is celebrated and cards given. Next time I'd say huffily I thought we weren't bothering with birthdays any more and not sign or give. (I probably wouldn't but would certainly feel like doing that.) You are not unreasonable to be most put out.

Good. They'll get a cake now to make up for the missed lunch. It is crap if everybody gets it and then comes the point in the day when it is too late.

Ah looks like you are getting something after all. Panic over.

Iris65 those that don't ask, don't get! If its mandatory that you contribute to the staff fund, I would bring it up with your manager, that nobody has contributed to your birthday, when there is a fund for this, why!

Happy Birthday!

Oh that's good Sky, mabey next year, a couple of weeks before your birthday, drop subtle hints to collegues.

Oh that's a bit rubbish.

I was the person who kept the diary for birthdays/go out get presents and cards, etc so when it was my birthday I got zero

It used to upset me until my boss sent me the biggest bunch of flowers the next day then I wouldn't care

YANBU!

I would be very hurt - not to mention you've contributed to everybody else'd present, so you are entitled to yours.

Iris65, tell your manager that you will stop contributing to the fund, until you receive something for your birthday.

Sorry, but the rushing of to the shop did make me laugh. I can just imagine all the panicking, whispering and mortification, when they realised they forgot. Just take note of all the blushes, when they shout "surprise!" 😆

Thanks Aeroflotgirl but it feels really awkard for me to do that. Its a big place and I feel childish complaining apart from on mumsnet

This happened to me a few years ago. Where I worked the department gave the person a card and sang them an embarrassing Happy Birthday, and the birthday person brought in goodies for the department . For a decade birthday there would be a whip-round and a gift as well.

Mine didn't happen. And it was a decade birthday, too. I was too new and too embarrassed to say anything, and I was going away on holiday the following day, so it just went by-the-by, with me worrying and wondering what I had done wrong.

Several months later I discovered that they had entered my birth date incorrectly in my personnel file. It had been a completely innocent mistake.

I don't think so. What is done for one must be done for all. Else it leaves people feeling like this!

No no Iris if the fund is compulsory, you have to, it is very unfair treatment, it is not on! It is part of being in a team, you being excluded is not building team cohesion.

Glad they are rallying OP.
Happy Birthday

The 'someone else' with a birthday ending in a 5 - does it begin with a 6? Otherwise the whole office having the afternoon off in their honour is bonkers.

Sometimes in life you have to speak up! If not, just do not contribute, and if asked why, say! It is not petty, it is very important, and the way the team views you.

I was all ready to say YABU. However, you're not, I can understand why you're hurt. My mother once arranged a small party/get together for her friend on my birthday. When I pointed out I was hurt and had actually wanted to spend my birthday with family, she basically told me to get over myself. Haven't really done birthdays since, they just seem more hassle than they're worth. I hope they actually bring you something nice, not some cheap card and flowers!

Oh and happy birthday .

Next time they ask you to contribute for a birthday, just say 'Oh, I assumed we weren't doing collections anymore?'

Oh, that's a great idea if a bit passive-aggressive