AIBU in this argument about keys with DP

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(first time ever posting after years of lurking)

I just wanted to get some perspective on this disagreement with DP (one of many) as DP always makes out that I am completely unhinged and am being very unreasonable on this.

We both have keys for the front door and car, however, DP tends not to use his during the week as he has a separate work bunch that has our back door and bike shed on (he doesn't use the car for work) so he uses these to get out during the week.

So on an evening and weekend he would often grab my bunch of keys with the front door and car on as it is easier than finding his own. This has lead to him in the past leaving them in his jacket pocket so that I can't find my keys easily when I need to get out.

There has been an occasion when he has left both car keys in his pocket and then has gone to work accidentally with both sets, so I wasn't able to get out in car (Thankfully it was my day off, so not needed for work, but I did have to cancel my plans)

So, I have said to not use my keys as it is inconvenient when I can't find them and there is a risk of being left with no sets of car keys in the house if he accidentally takes both to work.

I also see my keys as part of my identity as an adult, they have my hilarious humorous key ring on them, they are mine and I just don't want to share.

AIBU, petty and unhinged, would this annoy you or would you just roll with it?

And on the crime prevention website :

Thumb turns on the inside of door locks
Your final exit door lock may a have a thumb turn on the inside, instead of a keyway, to assist your means of escape in an emergency. Following the guidance in Private flat entrance door – timber will help you understand this dilemma.

I suggest you discuss this matter with your insurers to ensure they are satisfied with your additional security measures, because insurers usually specify a 5-lever key operated lock or a BS 3621 lock, which, by definition, has key operation on both sides.

Which pretty much summarises the dilemma.

YANBU. Is it just the men in my life or is this not typical of many men?! It's so bloody entitled.

My father and DH do the same thing with keys, towels, pillows, etc. They're MY fucking keys. Keep your hands off and put yours back in the same place every time so you know where they are and don't have to keep using and losing mine!

Drives me mad!

DH also has two sets of keys, for week and weekend. He took it upon himself recently to split my one set of keys so I had less to carry which he thought would be better which meant I turned up somewhere without the key I needed as it was on the other half of the original set. Grrrrr!

I find keeping my keys in the bottom of a huge handbag full of receipts and rubbish helps. You need to set aside 5-10 minutes of rummaging time to find them so easier for husband or ds to find theirs.

I threatened DH recently that if he 'folded in' my car key one more time (my keys my rules) then I would seek revenge on all items he loves! So no YANBU I get how you feel totally.